So I got my first bra last Wednesday. Went with the Bali/Barelythere 103J based on a recommendation from CM2015 in my other thread. Wore it that afternoon around the house just to get used to it. The bra lifted by boobs and pushed them back against my chest. While they were given a more feminine shape, they appeared smaller and not nearly as noticeable. The straps and band took a while to get used to.
Thursday came the first big test: wearing it to work. I put one of my darker (dark grey) work shirts on over it and could not see any signs of the bra underneath. Satisfied with that, I went off to work. First thing I noticed was that my boobs were no longer bouncing and jiggling as I traveled the rough roads to work. This was an almost heavenly experience. Before, I hit a bump in the road, boobs bounce, nipples rub the fabric, which was slightly painful. Not this time. I've been dealing with nipple pain for so long, that it almost brought a tear to my eye to be free of it. At work, no issues. No one seemed to notice anything, I forgot about the straps over my shoulders, but would still notice the bottom of the band from time to time. I enjoyed looking down and seeing no breasts, and being able to lift my hand up to my face without brushing them. Probably the best thing was that after a couple hours, my nipples did something that I can't remember them doing before. My nipples "relaxed." For the past several years, my nipples have usually stayed "erect" making them very sensitive and noticeable. To have them go down felt so good. That's when I made the decision that I would have to keep on wearing a bra. Back at home, just had a t-shirt over my bra. My wife never noticed (and still hasn't) that I'm wearing a bra.
Friday: Wore a lighter (khaki) work shirt. Again, no noticeable signs of wearing a bra. Enjoyed my commute and everytime I would go over one of the many bumps which would cause me discomfort, I just smiled that there was no bouncing and no pain. In the evening, I had curling (yes, that sport that involved sweeping the ice with brooms) This would be a bigger test. Normally just wear a t-shirt and long sleeve shirt since while it is cold in the ice house, you do work up a sweat. Wore a black shirt to try to hide any bra strap outlines showing through the shirt. Checked at home, everything was good. Went curling, was a little nervous about being discovered. I found myself looking at the women curling to see if their bra straps showed. That's when I realized almost all of them would have winter jackets on. It was just us guys that would just have a shirt or 2 on. So, I guess that solves their problem, but didn't help me. Despite the cold, nipples again stayed in a relatively relaxed state. Having the boobs controlled helped greatly. No more bouncing and swaying as I went up and down the ice and felt more in control of my slides out of the hack. In fact, I had one of my best games in a long time. But that could just be a coincidence.
After the match, I went back into the locker room and that's when I noticed that you could clearly make out the outline of the bra straps in the back of my shirt. I don't know if it was the result sweating a little, or the overhead fluorescent lights or what. But I could clearly seem them in the mirrors. I was mortified. Had people noticed? If they did, did they think it was a bra or a tank top? While I got a bit paranoid about that, I did take a little comfort in the fact that no one said anything. Though I'm not sure how one would bring that up. "Dude, you wearing a bra?" I'm guessing if anyone were to bring it up, would be a woman, but neither the woman on my team nor the opposing team mentioned it. We have a good representation of the LGBT community in our club, and the city itself is very LGBTQ friendly. So it's possible that even if they did notice it and realized it's a bra, they just didn't care. Still, I do worry that someone did notice and is thinking to themselves "He's wearing a bra?! How dare he get his kink on while curling!" and if someone were to think that, I'd like to explain to them it's just because the bouncing and nipple pain had gotten to much. But guess there isn't much I can do on that front unless they confront me.
The weekend so far: stayed at home relaxing for the most part. Several times I've forgotten that I'm even wearing a bra. The bottom band is usually what ends up reminding me.
I'd never thought I'd say these words, but I'm very happy to be wearing a bra. And to anyone reading this who has been on the fence, give it a try. I wish I had done it years ago. I'll be ordering more of the Bali 103J bras, but also giving similar ones a try as there might be even better ones out there.