I have noticed that too. Several old posts from the 2000's have been resurrected recently and when you go back through the thread, you can see that change you talk about.
I know that a surgeon(s) own the board now, and understandably their focus is on creating patients, but they seem to be accepting or at least tolerant with those of use who have chosen to live with developed chests and use this as a common community of acceptance. I didn't know until very recently the board was started by a gynecomastia sufferer but then sold the board to the surgeon(s) around 2010. Not sure why he sold the board, but it may have been due to the negativism that was very prevalent on the board at the time.
Best I can tell, most if not all the men on here who accept their breasts did not ask to have breasts and they developed either naturally due to hormones at puberty (like me) or through medication later in life and many of us have no support group to bounce questions and concerns off of. Personally, I would rather not have breasts, but I also do not care for surgery either just for appearance sake. I am vein, but not THAT vein. Everyone is different on their reasonings pro or con about their breasts and that is fine by me. I just chose to not go under the knife and that should be no ones business but my own like it is no ones business if a woman has breast augmentation or not, but that isn't the way it works. And since I don't want to have deal with the surgery, cost, discomfort and pain at times (and possible reoccurance of it), then I have to deal with my breasts in some fashion in the here and now. How do I do that? After many, many years of debate, wondering and no action at all, I have chosen to deal with them in a similar manner as women do through physical support using support garments, including bras because that seems to be a prudent choice if you have breasts. Women are the experts when it comes to breasts. They have been dealing with them forever and they do just fine with them. Why can't I just because i don't have a vagina? Why should my breasts be a bigger deal than a cis-womans? A boob is a boob is a boob, no matter who's chest it is on. How do you deal with that? The biggest problem is the stigma that goes along with breasts and bras, period. I have learned that women also deal with many of the same societal issues about breasts as we do, just from the opposite angle. In their case, society expects them to have a certain size and look to their breasts and expects bras to be a major player in that look, and are highly scrutinized about it and they are very well aware of that scrutiny and they hate the scrutiny as much if not more than we do. I am not trying to be a woman nor act like a woman. I am a man that happens to have a developed chest due to biological reasons that I have no control over. I have decided to deal with them in a similar manner to women. That doesn't make me any less of a man than it makes a woman any less of a woman because she has no breasts or underdeveloped breasts. In either case, society comes unglued because it isn't the norm. It isn't that WE are broken, but society is broken. We fix that and we fix our chest problems for both sexes in one fell swoop. It is interesting that when many of the very few women (it is a very small number, most find out by chance) who directly find out that I have gynecomastia become apologetic that I have to "suffer with breasts" (their words over and over) as they do. I find that wording interesting since breast development is a rite of passage of a woman and something many look forward to in the teens, but it sounds like many see it as a life prison sentence even though it is one of the main definitions of a woman and how she interacts with men.
Sorry to be on soup box, but I am beyond pissed off having to deny having something on my body that is plain as the day is long. Maybe one day.
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