The estrogen path

[aboywithgirls]

Lol, I feel many of us can relate to that. For us the ongoing joke in our marriage has been when it comes to things I’m more of the woman and she’s more of the man. I cry she doesn’t. She has the libido I don’t. When it is she wants to get in and get out I need time. She likes action movies I like romance and can’t wait for Christmas movies for the bs round of hallmark movies. I get emotional she gets logical it’s kind of funny

That is definitely us. Somethings are the same as they've always been between us. I've always assumed the submissive role, I'm the crier, she's the one with the plan, that's never changed. 

Things that have changed like, have a higher libido since GRS but still submissive. She is happy to let me be her eye candy. She rarely will wear a skirt or dress to work and I rarely wear slacks. I'm in heels and she prefers flats. Neither one of us has tried to assume any specific role in our relationship. It is just how we are comfortable. 

♥️Sophie♥️

[aboywithgirls]

Yes! OMG yes!!! I think that I mentioned it here before, but anyway. I work for a Breast Care Center for a Catholic based medical system. They have a rather old school dress code. Women MUST wear a bra while at work. I am more than happy to comply with that. If I wear a skirt or dress, I have to have hosiery covering my legs higher than the hem of skirt or dress that I'm wearing. Again, I don't mind complying.

Well, I'm more likely to wear a skirt or dress than my wife. I always try to make sure that I have 2-3 spare pair of pantyhose in my dresser if I need a new pair, I can just grab them. We had a cold snap in February and my wife was wearing them under her slacks instead of her usual knee-high stockings. I ended up with a run in a black pair that I was going to wear. I went to grab a new pair that I had in my top drawer and there were NONE! So off came y skirt and on went the knee-high stockings and slacks. Before I left for work, I ordered a dozen new pair and they were in a box on my front porch when I got home from work. 

I have them hidden from her now.

♥️Sophie♥️

[taxmapper]

Where things are at now, I don't know if I would ever peruse having any SRS.   

But what is bothering me the most is that there are weird urges occurring that is perhaps the hormones at work. 

But feeling like the A-Male role is tiering me out massively and I just don't like it at all. 
Never did. 

[Orb]

Wow you all bring it right back.  My wife knew my tolerance for a mess was a held to a much lower thresh hold than hers.  I often cleaned.  I was always in the kitchen. 

  And yes Sophie, my wife would take my pantyhose.

[Brdy64]

Where things are at now, I don't know if I would ever peruse having any SRS. 

But what is bothering me the most is that there are weird urges occurring that is perhaps the hormones at work.

But feeling like the A-Male role is tiering me out massively and I just don't like it at all.
Never did.

The more I grow up top, the stronger the urges. I know where you are coming from. 😳

[aboywithgirls]

Wow you all bring it right back.  My wife knew my tolerance for a mess was a held to a much lower thresh hold than hers.  I often cleaned.  I was always in the kitchen. 

  And yes Sophie, my wife would take my pantyhose.

Orb,
I can TOTALLY sympathize 😞. I really don't mind sharing. After all, I go through and throw out more pairs than she does. It's just mild infuriating when I open the drawer, fully expecting that I have a brand new pair, sitting there, ready to be worn....and they're gone! I asked her about it and she said "sorry, but it's cold out today". 

In fairness to her, we do share most of our clothes. Pretty much everything but our bras and shoes. I have bigger boobs and feet.

♥️Sophie♥️

[Brdy64]

I can honestly say that I was always the 'homemaker' in the family. 
Cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc....

It just always seemed to be my place in the home. I was only the 'male' figure outside of the home, at work and such. 

My wife really enjoyed it, I was a better cook than her. 👍

[aboywithgirls]

You can only be you. If that means that both you and your wife take advantage on combining your underwear orders from Herroom.com to take advantage of the free shipping, I think that is just fine.

♥️Sophie♥️

[Orb]

I’ve definitely become more involved with what would for lack of words be a feminine side. But I’m not feminine and it just creates a hell of an anxiety and confusion as to why am I feeling this way. With wife and kid it makes it worse cause I just end up feeling like a freak or an embarrassment.

The mail thing made me smile. 

I hope you can over come the feelings of being less than a man.  Sorry if I took it wrong.  Be you!  You will be happier and your family will love you for being you.  Don't you work to make them be all they can be?  Don't go there of feeling like a freak or embarrassment.  Your you.  Love yourself and those around you.
Then and only then will you be truly happy.

[Brdy64]

I’ve definitely become more involved with what would for lack of words be a feminine side. But I’m not feminine and it just creates a hell of an anxiety and confusion as to why am I feeling this way. With wife and kid it makes it worse cause I just end up feeling like a freak or an embarrassment.

The mail thing made me smile. 

I hope you can over come the feelings of being less than a man.  Sorry if I took it wrong.  Be you!  You will be happier and your family will love you for being you.  Don't you work to make them be all they can be?  Don't go there of feeling like a freak or embarrassment.  Your you.  Love yourself and those around you.
Then and only then will you be truly happy.

My advice is to just be you, no matter what parameters society has set.
We can't be happy until we are ourselves.
We only know our own comfort zone, and the hormonal stew kind of helps guide us as well. 😉

[Brdy64]

thanks I appreciate that!

I love myself my esteem isn’t the greatest but confidence and other things are fantastic. I love me and rarely get tied up in to insecurities and anxieties. Apologies if I make it seem I am hard on myself. I am overall very happy. Just don’t want my kid to be that kid who’s dad has breasts or needs a bra or my wife to have to explain why if you notice my husands wearing a bra here’s why. I’m perfectly happy just sometimes the mind wanders in to the land of what happens if they keep growing.

The hormonal stew definitely does its thing. I wish there was like at home hormonal tests to see if things are more pink or blue from time to time lol be interesting to see if interests are truly interests or hormonally driven.

I lived a predefined lie my father set for me. It worked most of my life, but I knew deep down inside I was not the man I presented. 
As my hormones decided to change more, and growth really took off like crazy I discovered the hormonal stew took over and changed me. It's still an ongoing event. 

I'm not any less of a man, in fact I'm becoming more complete. 

My feminine side is just a part of me that completes me 😉

[Orb]

Dude,
I understand and appreciate your feeling for theirs.  I feel it will work out.  If and when questions and comments come to them you will have taught them the correct response.  Everyone needs to learn how to good loving humans sometime.  They will and will share that.

[Brdy64]

CNA friend at the center saw the picture of my breasts on my phone. She said, "you know that's pornagraphy". 
I told her they were 'male' breasts, they are mine. 
She said it still borders on the edge of porn because they don't 'look' male. She wouldn't be able to tell just by looking at them. 🤔

[Upfront]

You describe perfectly the real need that each of has for a real confidant. 
Someone you can can talk to without fear of judgement.
For me it is a Christian friend who lives 100 miles away and has absolutely no connection with anyone I have day to day to contact with
We can openly share anything and couch it outrageous terminology if that is what catharsis takes, with zero risk of damaging the friendship. 
We made a pact that we could, would  always speak the unvarnished truth, as we saw it.
A most precious relalationship

[Johndoe1]

Upfront,

I have two women friends that are the same way. We speak very frank with each other and I have two other women friends, who, while we are frank, not as frank. To have those sounding boards have been a real savings for me.