the site is big enough for everyone, accepters as much as non-accepters. most people don't like it, some do, some even enjoy it. my experience was some of the accepters (not all, but some) used to call the non-accepters self-butchers and cut-em-offers and a whole bunch of other put-downs. then people would tell them off for it, not exactly without cause, and then they'd scream help help i'm being persecuted, etc. there was blame to go around.
and then there were the fetishists like blatino who went drooling over some 15-year-old's pics and telling them they were hot. those guys are in a class by themselves, and i don't mean a good one, but even that would have been fine if they kept it to their yahoo gyne enthusiast boards or at least here instead of scaring away the poor first-timers who were scared and had just found the place, but they didn't, and that's why i think fetishists have no place here.
we all have it, we all get on the receiving end of other peoples' inability to deal with it, we all need to be able to respect each other and support each other. i'm not an accepter, but i think it's great there's an acceptance board specially for people who are comfortable with it to talk about that particularly.