Gynecomastia Acceptance Poll

[Johndoe1]

Parity, your bust looks wonderful! No lie. 

And there's nothing wrong being told that nor wanting a positive comment about our chests. We didn't ask for our chests and most have chests that any woman would be proud to have. We should be proud too. 

All breasts are beautiful. No matter the gender. 

[Parity]

Parity, your bust looks wonderful! No lie.

And there's nothing wrong being told that nor wanting a positive comment about our chests. We didn't ask for our chests and most have chests that any woman would be proud to have. We should be proud too.

All breasts are beautiful. No matter the gender.

JD1, Thank you for that.  

  I have times, when I feel I'm continuing to grow, that my mind spins into the childhood loop of body shaming that was heaped on me.  Not hearing words of affirmations from time to time doesn't allow me to reframe other thoughts into afformations.   I appreciate you're kind words, positive posts and uplifting comments. 

[42CSurprise!]

...JD1, Thank you for that. 

  I have times, when I feel I'm continuing to grow, that my mind spins into the childhood loop of body shaming that was heaped on me.  Not hearing words of affirmations from time to time doesn't allow me to reframe other thoughts into afformations.  I appreciate you're kind words, positive posts and uplifting comments.

Doubtless, this side of this website has been a gift to all of us coming to terms with breasts developing on our chest.  Yes, many began the journey as adolescents, while many found development happening later in life.  I posted a thread quite some time ago about the various responses we may have and certainly shame is an early one most of us experienced.  Being here and talking about our reality has been a very powerful release.  I guess breasts have such significance in our culture that our response would be great when they begin developing.  But in reality, the same can be said about our whole body.  Yes, we're given models for what a woman or man should look like.  We see them in magazines and television ads.  But few of us fit the "standard."  I've always had a soft body.  I'm not very tall.  I have broad shoulders but have always had a wide waist and hips.  Can I accept who I am, all of me?  These are the bodies that carry us through life.  We would do well to treat our bodies well.  Self-acceptance really is a good place to stand whether we're talking about our breasts or our bodies.  I'm glad you're experiencing some of that Parity.

With regard to the "poll" none of the three responses work for me at the moment.  I am certainly enjoying having the breasts filling the cups of my unlined, underwire brassiere but I won't call them a blessing.  They are simply part of who I am at this time in my life.  This afternoon I had an appointment with an acupuncturist to help me with a cold I've been experiencing.  She did her needles and moxibustion.  Then she did something she'd never done before.  She held a piece of cloth and began brushing it across my shoulders and chest.  Needless to say she was rubbing it across my breasts.  At first I felt myself tensing, then gradually relaxed.  It was what it was.  I made a comment later about my breast growth and mentioned the changes in my hormones that have come with aging. That was the end of the conversation and this older woman only said, young people are exploring gender in a new way.  Yesterday I spoke with a woman friend and as we spoke of how well we knew one another I noted she knows I occasionally wear a brassiere.  She actually saw me in a brassiere a couple of years ago.  No problem at all.  I'm grateful for that.  I have breasts.  I like my breasts.  I don't wear a brassiere all the time but I very much enjoy wearing one when I do.  I'm happy there are men with whom I can talk about such things.  We may each be on our own journey but we share the fact having breasts is part of that journey.

[Normalboobs1]

An unequivocal Blessing. 
The three if us get on just, which is just  as well as everywhere I go they are there first, leading the way

[Iloveboobstoo]

I would say A mine have grown after I started having to take heart meds in 2005 but a new drug was added this summer and I thing I am getting bigger but they are sensitive 

[Justagirl💃]

Considered to be a curse in my teens, survivable in adulthood,  and my greatest asset in my golden years. 

I can't imagine life without the girls. 

[Traveler]

Considered to be a curse in my teens, survivable in adulthood,  and my greatest asset in my golden years.

I can't imagine life without the girls.

We need a like button! 😁

[gyne73]

Considered to be a curse in my teens, survivable in adulthood,  and my greatest asset in my golden years.

I can't imagine life without the girls.

During my teen years they were curse and delice. Curse because I was not of the boys, delice because I could give me pleasure in a way which probably a "normal" man cannot.

My greatest complain was that they were too small to "require" a bra, but too big to be called flat and go to the beach without shame.

I did not want to be a man with breasts, I would rather be a woman with a penis.

I felt attraction to the girls, I did want to raise a family, in my back of my head, when I crossdressed, I thought that this was "temporary" because I did not have a girlfriend.

Just a bit confused...

[NoWorries25]

Definitely and "A".  Most assuredly Blessed.

Though I cannot imagine growing up with them, and an adult I wouldn't change a thing.

[DianeMcG]

I've been totally flat chested most of my life, even for a man. Now, in my old age (80) I have grown small breasts due to Finasteride. I love them. I have decided to start low dose estradiol to grow them further. I'm hoping for a B cup. 

[NoWorries25]

I identify with your desires.  I would just urge you to be careful.  We chronologically gifted types can create some real problems accidentally.  There is a lot of information on the network about the do's and don'ts of HRT.

[Gino]

>>SNIP<< "It would be (A: A Blessed Gift) (B: Neutral) Or (C: A Curse)."

For me and possibly others I think it may be a progression of feelings.

Mine...

Initially "C" as a curse

Transitional "B" Neutral

Finally "A" Mostly a blessing.

[Dudewithboobs]

Isn't it amazing the evolution of sorts in accepting things? I assume its the same with everything. Over time you just learn to adjust and acclimate and what comes to bother us before doesn't at all later. 

Though I feel this is a different area given how prominent breasts can become in size and movement. Some here have little to nothing to worry about, others have a lot to worry about. Yet none of us worry about it at all. We watch our chest become breasts and strap in for the ride with our bra of the day and go about our business lol. It's a great group here and am glad this forum helps many of us and the new one's accept their chests as is and helps find the blessing in the curse. 

[42CSurprise!]

As self-acceptance deepens it is quite natural for appreciation to develop, especially as we become serious about finding brassieres that not only provide comfort but have the capacity to enhance the appearance of our breasts.  Yes, as cup size increases the game changes,  unless of course we don't feel a need to hide our development which I sense most of us do.  But now we have real breasts held in what might be attractive brassieres.  We appreciate how our breasts look AND feel in the cups cradling them.  It might even turn us on...

I'll have a blood draw later today and I'll be asked to remove the shirt I wear to camouflage my bosom.  I'll be wearing a thin cotton tee shirt and whether I wear a brassiere or not my breasts will be evident.  I will likely wear a brassiere because honestly I'm fond of my breasts.  I don't imagine the women drawing my blood will even notice but if she does it is really no big deal... old men often have breasts... even if they don't hang out with other men and talk about our latest brassiere purchase.

I know men come here who are often confused and filled with shame.  The conversations we have are important.  Having found kindred spirits it isn't surprising that we will hang around after we've come to acceptance simply because we are enjoying the experience of having breasts and talking about them.  I know that is true for me.  Thanks everyone for being so open about your experiences.  And thanks for showing off from time to time.  I love seeing those photos... knowing I'm not alone.