Like many of you on this board, I have had gynecomastia all my life. I can’t remember a time when I didn’t have feminine looking breasts. From early in my childhood when my friends teased me for having “boobies”, to dreading gym class in Junior High when we played “Shirts vs Skins” basketball, to dating in high school and the fear of a girlfriend seeing me without a shirt on, it was a very difficult time for me. I’ve always been attracted to large breasted women, partly I think because I couldn’t see myself with a woman whose breasts were smaller than mine. In fact, my wife was a D cup when we met, and currently wears a 40DD bra.
I’m certain my gynecomastia is hereditary from my father’s side of the family. I am built very much the same as my father was. My aunt (Dad’s sister) and her daughter were/are both large breasted. I remember once hearing that my cousin was a G cup. A male cousin of mine supposedly had breast reduction surgery because of his gynecomastia, but it was kept very hush-hush in the family.
Now with age and weight gain, my breasts are the largest they have ever been. I don’t know what size bra I would wear, but my sport coat size is 48 regular, so I’m guessing that would be my band size. Not sure what cup size I am. I have been thinking I need a bra for support, but don’t know how to bring up the topic to my wife before buying a bra, or if I should just get some bras and tell her. I’m also afraid to go bra shopping in public. While out of town recently I ordered two pullover wireless bras in a 3X and picked them up at the store. While they fit around my chest, the cups had padding and I didn’t like how they looked with or without a shirt on.
Despite the size of my breasts, I do go swimming at our local pool and to the beach on vacation without a shirt covering me. When I walk the beach or sit by the pool I know I get stares, but I’m beyond the point of caring about them. From my humiliation when my mother-in-law laughed at me and said “I think you need a bra”, I am now not embarrassed, but in a way proud of my breasts. If anyone has suggestions about what size or type of bra would be good for me, how to talk about it with my wife, or how to get over my fear of being seen in public looking for a bra, I’d appreciate your thoughts. I am really glad I’ve found this site. It has been great reading posts and knowing there are others out there like me.