Author Topic: There's acceptance......and acceptance  (Read 23115 times)

Offline Justagirl💃

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this side is going from acceptance to transitioning
Sometimes, and in some instances, acceptance means transitioning.

That doesn't mean it's for everyone, but, to each their own, Live and let live my friend. 
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Offline WPW717

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Well said, Birdie 

Some need to read the posts from years ago.
Regards, Bob

Offline 42CSurprise!

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This has been spoken of before... but I don't like the word gynecomastia.  The word suggests there is a problem when a man develops breasts, but if that were so insurance companies would pay for their removal.  They don't simply because it is not a medical problem... it is simply a difference.  Yes, there are plastic surgeons prepared to remove them but honestly that is no different than having a "nose job" because one doesn't like the shape of their nose.  For men it often comes from shame at not being aligned with one's idea of masculinity.  Most of us have struggled simply because we are different and that can be the cause of great shame, whatever the difference may be.  

I've long argued that everyone of us exists on a gender continuum.  Our place on that continuum is NOT a matter of choice, it is.a matter of heredity.  It is an expression of the hormonal balance within our bodies.  Granted, breast development can occur later in life but that happens only because the hormonal balance in our bodies has changed.  That may be because of medications that have been prescribed but it can also simply be the result of aging that comes quite naturally with diminishing testosterone.

Each one of us finds our own way through this morass of feelings associated with breasts and masculinity.  We are blessed to have a place where we can talk openly about these things.  Personally, I'm content with being a more feminine man.  Transitioning is meaningless from this perspective.  I certainly have no more interest is reassignment surgery than I do in having a mastectomy.  This is my body.  I'm invited to care for it as it is.  That is what I'm doing, to the best of my ability.  I hope that is true for you as well. 

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In some instances the concept of "transition" seems appropriate, yet its not really a transition if you already had the hardware.  Its just now its being activated and updated. 

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The person that started this thread is a close personal friend that always knew they were on the feminine side. They started the site hiding like most that start here and slowly discovered that acceptance for them was much more than just acceptance of boobs and hiding them. They moved more into nonbionary, and started posting their journey.  Not a journey for everyone,  for them it was their journey.  

Backlash happened almost immediately with people not accepting of their journey that ultimately lead them to leave the site entirely.  My friend meant no one any harm and was not trying to "groom" or convince anyone to follow their journey.  Just simply talking about their personal journey much like others post about what to wear to conceal their boobs. 

It's sad that personal beliefs get imposed on others when beliefs are "personal". 

No one is telling anyone on the site to not hide their boobs and transition anymore than others should be telling others not too. It's a personal journey, and should be respected as such without snare remarks.  

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Again, spot on Birdie.

Perhaps an explanation to your friend of the long history here.

I read a few years back before my lurking was done, I have seen tropes come & go. Hope he returns.

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On another site a person we will call "Amy", for privacy reasons, posted quite the photos and such. 

"She", because she calls herself by a feminine name on the other site, is having a problem hiding her boobs in warmer weather. They are having a heat spell where she is. She apparently is only a "She" online or at home alone because she is trying to pass as a gent with boobs out in public. That is a very hard tight rope to traverse.   

For the most part, very few people care one way or the other, and those that have a problem with things, well, their opinion doesn't matter much at all. Everyone should just be themselves, exactly as they are built as well. 


 

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