Things I Never Thought

[bobb]

i never thought i would be talking about sitting to use the bathroom on a forum i guess its getting easier.

[gotgyne]

Sitting while peeing didn't work for me. I've tried it, since some urologists recommend it for men with an enlarged prostate, to get the bladder empty. For me it does the opposite. I can empty my bladder much better while standing. Thus I gave up sitting after a short time.

[Justagirl💃]

Because of my condition,  I have sat to pee my entire life. 

[Evolver]

I never used the mens pads myself. It would make sense given their design, but figured, if I'm not wearing mens underwear, why would I use men's pads. Just conneceted the pad to use to the underwear it was going into.

I can relate to that!

I retired a couple of years ago, and all through my adult working life I had always worn men's bikini briefs - I was never a boxers or trunks or y-front guy - and since it was a blue-collar job, we all got changed at each end of the shift. I was never going to wear panties to work, was I! The problem I had, particularly in my final year when my leakage got worse, was that despite the pads 'filling the void' in my undies due to my diminished size after my prostatectomy, when the pads began to fill and become heavy, they pulled away from my body due to their weight and the overly generous room in the front of my undies. Flip flop, splish splash etc. as well as overflow from the narrow bottom end of the pad as previously described.

Evenings and weekends in panties were bliss, firmly holding the superior women's pads in place due to them not having in my case, unnecessary slack in them.

[Johndoe1]

I suspect men with moderate to severe gynecomastia, which a number of us here qualify, have had estrogen do what estrogen does to certain body parts not directly related to the chest. Having had gynecomastia since my teen years, I have never been well endowed in the groin. And of the last few years, sitting has become, shall I say, less messy on a personal level than standing? I suspect that it's equal parts age and estrogen. Either way, it's a change.

[42CSurprise!]

Another stellar conversation on a website intended to address male breast development.  I would note that i know the person who created this website.  He developed breasts at a fairly young age and both researched it and wrote books about it.  I don't know him well so I don't fully know the story of his selling the website but I do know he eventually had surgery to remove his breasts.  It is possible that the surgery was part of a transaction selling this website.  I mention that simply to note that the layout of the site, with half devoted to acceptance would be in alignment with who he is.  He had lived with breasts for many years before creating this website, so he understands the journey we've all been on.  Acceptance is key AND the five topics in this side of the site are all relevant to addressing the consequences for men with breasts navigating through life.

This conversation joins many we have had about the reality of what both aging and diminished testosterone does to our bodies.  Yes, we talk about breasts and brassieres but there is so much more at play here.  I've dealt with all of the things discussed here... shrinking genitalia which led to sitting rather than standing while urinating.  I always understood why women would use toilet paper after peeing and now I do as well.  I haven't gotten at far as panties and panty liners but I very much appreciate the conversation because I can use some support there.

People who've been around for awhile know that I very much enjoy having breasts and love to play with that reality.  You've seen the photos...  But, it is being able to engage in conversations like this that allows me to find the acceptance on offer here.  Thanks everyone for your honesty and your good will.  We all need that.

[Evolver]

Agreed 42. Wonderfully worded.

+1

[gotgyne]

Having had gynecomastia since my teen years, I have never been well endowed in the groin.

My gyne developed much later at the age of 45. But I also had a short penis my whole life, like the Greek statues. My father was much larger built down there. During school and later university excursions I was always disappointed if I compared mine to others.

[G-man TX]

As changes over last couple of years took place I was thinking today while shopping on Amazon for some new dress pants and jeans. And thought to myself, I never thought I’d know this for myself.

It took about a year to feel ok as a man walking around in these things. Consistently feeling insecure and anxiety ridden of who can see what if they can tell how do I explain etc. but overtime it’s just become standard dressing. No one has said a thing or seemed to notice and it’s been an unexpected but not unenjoyable change

I felt the same way the first week I wore my bras to work. Fortunately my wife helped me layer my clothes so my bras were invisible which boosted my confidence. The second week I was more confident. It’s been 2 months and I noticed I am layering less and nobody is saying anything. Yesterday I just wore my black Smart Lift Unlined Underwire bra from Lane Bryant with a black button down shirt and I didn’t have any issues with anyone saying anything or even noticing anything. I think we fixate on it more because we know we’re wearing a bra and a fear of being caught takes over.

[blad]

"I think we fixate on it more because we know we’re wearing a bra and a fear of being caught takes over."

I think it is way easier to accept wearing a bra, (as it does feel comfortable to have the containment), then it is to get over the fear of being discovered wearing a bra.

[WPW717]

As much as I had that same issue of fear of discovery it dissipated quickly after the first few hugs by familiars.
Shortly after this realization I became less inclined to go to great lengths for concealment.  The gem of wisdom to draw from all here is the general public is simply not that observant. We can hide in plain sight even with our large boobs to a great extent. Viva fashion !

[bobb]

i go out quite often in just a t shirt and no bra and so far no one has ever looked like they noticed anything. but i'm not that big just a b cup.

[Parity]

As much as I had that same issue of fear of discovery it dissipated quickly after the first few hugs by familiars.
Shortly after this realization I became less inclined to go to great lengths for concealment.  The gem of wisdom to draw from all here is the general public is simply not that observant. We can hide in plain sight even with our large boobs to a great extent. Viva fashion !

I did have one friend give me a hug and felt my back strap I'm sure. A little smile and a little tap above the cleavage and we said good bye.  Nothing was ever said or done again.

[Johndoe1]

"I think we fixate on it more because we know we’re wearing a bra and a fear of being caught takes over."

I think it is way easier to accept wearing a bra, (as it does feel comfortable to have the containment), then it is to get over the fear of being discovered wearing a bra.

In my case, comfort definitely overcame fear. And no one cares as well.

[Johndoe1]

As much as I had that same issue of fear of discovery it dissipated quickly after the first few hugs by familiars.
Shortly after this realization I became less inclined to go to great lengths for concealment.  The gem of wisdom to draw from all here is the general public is simply not that observant. We can hide in plain sight even with our large boobs to a great extent. Viva fashion !

I did have one friend give me a hug and felt my back strap I'm sure. A little smile and a little tap above the cleavage and we said good bye.  Nothing was ever said or done again.

The thing I have found is if a female friend discovers your bra, and it's obvious why you are wearing a bra and they know why, unless there's a reason, they won't out you. They know. They understand. They're wearing a bra as well. They may quietly acknowledge to you or may just move on, filing it away.

I had a female friend whisper to me when she discovered my bra in a hug, "It's about time you got them undercontrol."