Wearing a bra for now

[aboywithgirls]

I used  to find that concealment and comfort were inversely proportional. This meant that the more I tried to confine conceal them, them more uncomfortable they were. I always achieved maximum comfort when I was fully supported in a regular underwire bra that was properly fitted.

Once I gave up on trying to conceal or hide them, everything got better. I felt better both physically and mentally. My posture improved. My breast shape also got better because I started wearing properly fitted bras which also meant by having a very large bust size, I also had to switch to ladies blouses to accommodate them.

If you're still small enough to get away with men's tops, that's fine. You may find with ladies tops, the cut is better for breasts and will fit better and maybe not so obvious.

[Conor W]

Well, I’m not sure I want to wear women’s clothes. Baggy men’s shirts seem to work. The racer bra is back through the wash so may try again on  Friday when I’m not in college.

[Johndoe1]

Baggy shirts work. Just make sure it doesn't swallow you and draw attention. The idea is to stay under the radar in your appearance.

[Conor W]

End of college on Friday. Think that maybe my last day of binding probably. Came back yesterday and my mum had bought me two skin tone nude bras 42b. Tried them and they fit comfy. Under a thin baggy shirt you can’t see the colour. The shape is there at the front. 

Saturday daytime I’m meant to be catching up with a few friends ahead of a party that night. So thinking I just go for it. I’m sure the girls know about my chest anyhow. Hopefully university awaits and that’s a new challenge for autumn

[blad]

I am sure you will thrive with the changes and challenges of university, it is a whole new game. Go out in confidence in a well fitting bra and do not give it a second thought. You will make great connections in university.

[Conor W]

It’s been over a week since I last used the binder. To be honest I feel healthier and  I’m used to just having a normal bra on all the time.  Last Saturday I went to some friends house and it was hot in the garden. I had a bra on and a thickish cotton shirt. The friends were both girls. Nothing was said - just normal banter. After an hour or so ... and a few drinks later, I came back from the bathroom. One of them said it was great I wasn’t 

trying to hide them anymore and to ask if I needed anything. I think I went red and said my mum was sorting things out for me. That quickly moved to questioning on size , shape and various other things. They said that my group of friends all knew I had breasts but had said nothing. In a funny way I relaxed a bit more. In the evening the rest of my friends joined for garden drinks including the lads. They sort of said nothing but I could see them looking. And I know a close friend felt the strap touching my back and shoulder like he was checking but said nothing. Saw some of the group of friends in the week and nothing much was said. One of the guys came round and he just said he knew and I was brave - I could see him thinking thank God it wasn’t him. I moved the conversation on. The 2 girls came round for a chat  asking how I was doing. They didn’t pre warn me they were popping round and my sister let them in and just shouted me as they were coming upstairs to my room. I was slobbing around in jeans and t shirt so my white bra was was not very hidden. I nipped down to make them coffee and when I came back up  they were chatting to my sister about my boobs and bra. She went out  but after  a bit they started talking about my boobs and the condition , surgery , underwires and different bras. A bit surreal. But it’s out there but contained amongst friends. 

[blad]

You have more than broken the ice and gained a significant amount of confidence in a short time. You will quickly start forgetting you are even wearing a bra in public. You can get on with the great opportunities you have in life before you while confidently wearing the comfortable support you need to contain your breasts.

You will be like me and others here, putting on your bra in the morning and not giving it another thought during the day. A well fitting bra just blends into the background of our minds.

[aboywithgirls]

Blad is correct. You will find that a bra is still the best way. I've been wearing a bra for over thirty years.

[Conor W]

It does sort of feel more natural after this week. And it feels wrong without a bra as they wobble about.  There was no hiding it when the girls came round the other day as the t shirt was light and thin and it was one of the white bras I had on. My sister just let them in , I think she forgot. I could see them looking and think they may have checked my draws when I was out of my bedroom.
I went out last night to a friends house and garden but wore a shirt that hides it more and a nude coloured bra. The girls just said looking good, the guys looked - I could see where there eyes were looking - but didn’t say anything. It feels better than strapping them down but I sort of feel like a hybrid. My mum said how did it go and I said ok. One of the guys here this morning and I just wore a polo shirt with a normal bra. His sense of humour just said nice rack , I said oh cheers and carried on sorting something on the computer. Bit strange to be stood in the kitchen with him , my sister chatting to my mate and me wearing a bra but it seems more normal. 

Hoping to hear from the hospital soon

[Traveler]

It’s so nice to see how you’ve adapted and the support you’ve gotten from family and friends. If I add one thing. Don’t be so quick to jump in to the hospital. Live with them for awhile before making a permanent decision. Things are so different from 40 years ago.

[Conor W]

Well, I think I have figured I’ll be living with my boobs  for sometime. No sign of a hospital appointment, waiting lists and delays. Plus last time they said review. I was that embarrassed I’m not sure I fully took it in but they have got a little bigger since then. 42b bra fits the best. My mum suggested looking for a job before university. Managed to get some work that I can do from home so that saves embarrassment. My mate was round earlier. He just said he thought I was brave. Then asked if I played with the nipples! Think I went red. See what the week brings

[aboywithgirls]

My situation was similar to where you are now. I was sixteen years old when I started wearing a bra full time. I was a 34C. A couple years later when I graduated, I was a 36D. It wasn't that I absolutely couldn't have surgery, it was just not recommended for various reasons.

I am now and have been for some time soooooo grateful that I kept them. 

[Conor W]

Wow; all respect to you. D cup.  I couldn’t imagine my boobs getting bigger. They are filling a b cup fully. I lost weight and they stuck out more. My mum said don’t expect anything to happen quickly when she had the bra chat instead of binding. In other words, you are going to have to learn to live with them for a bit.  I just find the bra comfier and not has hot or constrictive. I also find they can feel sore occasionally and now if I don’t wear a bra my back aches a little. So it has become normal to put one on getting dressed in the morning

[aboywithgirls]

I'm happy to hear that you are becoming accustomed to wearing your bra. I haven't left the house without a bra in over 30 years.

It just makes sense that if you have breasts large enough to justify wearing a bra, then you probably should be wearing a bra. 

It's a good thing to have a mother and sister who are empathetic and supportive. My mother got me started wearing a bra  but, it was my sister who really helped me along the way. She was a little larger than me in chest but I could borrow a bra from anytime I wanted.

[Conor W]

Well, I’m sort of used to it. Strange and nervous out of the house. My sister is 17, one year younger. She’s thinner than me but bigger chest now. I was with friends yesterday in their garden. I ended up chatting with some of the girls and they starting talking boobs. Asking questions , asking how my mum gave me a bra and pointing out that mine were bigger than someone else’s which was a little embarrassing. It’s hot at the minute so I have just been wearing them under polo tops. Yesterday I had one of the racer ones on.  One of the lads I think deliberately made a point of patting my back to check the straps to prove it. Not that it isn’t that obvious as I think they look bigger in them. Hopefully they will just forget it after the novelty wears off. One of the girls said she would see if she could get a swimming costume or bikini top for hot tub parties which they knew I never went in. She said we all know now so you should live a bit. I think that is a step too far.