Wearing a bra for now

[Johndoe1]

She was the first positive comment from a stranger I have ever received. Have gotten a lot of nasty ones through the years. I have had many smiles and head nods.

[Evolver]

She was the first positive comment from a stranger I have ever received. Have gotten a lot of nasty ones through the years. I have had many smiles and head nods.

I just wonder, if you had struck up a short conversation with her and you said that you had a certain condition blah blah blah, would it change the subsequent gossip she would no doubt have had with her friends later on about your encounter to one where there was a realization that it could and should be normal for men with gynecomastia, or at least not abnormal?

[Johndoe1]

In retrospect I wish I had the whits to do that. It was so unexpected that it goobsmacked me and I really didn't know what to do or say. I have no experience responding to verbal positive comments. My only thought is that she may have thought I was transitioning and this showed she supported LGBTQIA causes. I don't know. If she found out I am just a guy with boobs and nothing else, she may have felt she was duped. Interesting thought. If it ever happens again I will try to remember to do that.

[GrahamB]

I used to care if my bra was visible until I didn't. A while back, a lady friend asked me, out of the blue, at lunch, " what size are you?". I knew what she mentioned but, I pretended not to know. I thought about denying it but the was no point. She told me how obvious it was and that she completely understood. I think that I was a DD or a DDD back then. I should have realized that at least to the people that I see everyday would notice not just the little bumps on my back but, the big bumps on the front. We are who we are and we should try to be proud of ourselves for doing what is best for ourselves. In this case, it's wearing a bra that improves our quality of life.

I object to culturalism. Mainly in the expectation of other members of THE culture to uphold the standards established as the cultural norm. If a tribe member came home wearing clothing from another tribe... Oh boy. Look out. Now the tribe may have a male member with gyn. And, just to illustrate a point, the tribe lives in an area for which clothing is least desired. Naturally in this scenario the women do not where ANY clothing over the torso. No-one does. and neither does our man with Gyn. So what's up with our cultural standards. There are inconsistencies. Gynecomastia is prevalent. The numbers of afflicted can be estimated. And those numbers are impressive. I think men with Gyn. should wear the clothing that works for them and step out proud to put their chest out and strut about as if to say I got em and you don't. I'm not sure how to change cultural norms in a quick way but it needs to happen.

[GrahamB]

I really couldn’t deal with going to a shop with my mum to have a stranger measure my bust and try bras on. Bad enough my mum did it.
I’m 18
I’m guessing most 18 year old girls buy their own clothes like that .
And there is a difference between buying one in Walmart or going to Victoria’s Secret or another underwear shop

Conner your confidence and bravery is constantly growing. Tell yourself to keep working toward total acceptance, that means you are happy with everything about you, your place in life, the things you have, the clothes you wear... etc. Be proud to be you. Show your friends the strong confident you.
Your friends will love seeing your beautiful smile backed up by an aire of total confidence.

[Conor W]

Well I’m trying to be brave and confident. No hospital assessment in sight. So I have to cope. Just a normal week. Doing this admin work from home is easy though I will need to go to the office at some point. So sitting round the house wearing my bra isn’t an issue. I feel easier round close friends. Family is ok. Let’s face it, my mum bought them and washes them. I think my boobs are getting bigger. I can feel they are heavier and fill the original bras more. Not sure I want to have that conversation with my mum. I worry because she has a big chest. 

Went into the city last week and hid things with a t shirt / open shirt combination. A few looks. Going away next weekend with friends to a friends holiday home. Their parents will join us 5 days later. I think I’m more nervous about that. Debras mum is the one that said I should dress more non binary and I could see her dad just staring at my boobs. I think I know what women go through as I see the lads who are friends looking at them aswell. Going shopping this week with Debra and she has mentioned nipping to Victoria’s Secret and another shop to look for appropriate outfits for the hot tub as I shouldn’t miss out and feel relaxed. And it’s only our group of friends. I have more stress appearing in front of the lads with my boobs on show. See what the week brings 

[Johndoe1]

I think you are doing great. I wish I had the confidence you show when I was your age. I always coward in the shadows and never enjoyed life always afraid of what people might think about a guy with such a feminine trait. Life was hell and it didn't have to be. I let it. I shouldn't have.

Just remember, you are one of 3.75 billion people who have breasts and not all are women. And they enjoy life and and there's no reason you shouldn't either. You just have to adapt having breasts. Women do all the time. It's not a death sentence. It doesn't matter what others think. You only have to satisfy yourself and be comfortable. There are many bra hacks that make it easier having breasts so don't shy away from it.

[Conor W]

Well , I guess but it’s not easy when the boobs are on the wrong body. 

I’m wondering. I have lost weight over last two months. 9 kg. Is that why my boobs are looking proportionally bigger and feeling different ? I’m slimmer but they now stick out more

[gizmodude]

Well I’m trying to be brave and confident. No hospital assessment in sight. So I have to cope. Just a normal week. Doing this admin work from home is easy though I will need to go to the office at some point. So sitting round the house wearing my bra isn’t an issue. I feel easier round close friends. Family is ok. Let’s face it, my mum bought them and washes them. I think my boobs are getting bigger. I can feel they are heavier and fill the original bras more. Not sure I want to have that conversation with my mum. I worry because she has a big chest.

Went into the city last week and hid things with a t shirt / open shirt combination. A few looks. Going away next weekend with friends to a friends holiday home. Their parents will join us 5 days later. I think I’m more nervous about that. Debras mum is the one that said I should dress more non binary and I could see her dad just staring at my boobs. I think I know what women go through as I see the lads who are friends looking at them aswell. Going shopping this week with Debra and she has mentioned nipping to Victoria’s Secret and another shop to look for appropriate outfits for the hot tub as I shouldn’t miss out and feel relaxed. And it’s only our group of friends. I have more stress appearing in front of the lads with my boobs on show. See what the week brings

Going to VS is actually a good idea. They do have a some nice one piece suits that are not overly feminine, and their stuff is always really comfortable. They also have pajama sets that are inspired from traditional men's styles so if you need lounge stuff at home, they have it. Its very nice that you have an environment of close friends who want you to be relaxed and not have to worry. Worst case scenario is if you buy something and try it out among them, you can always return it if you feel its a bit too much for you. Also as for the weight loss, congrats! Its always nice to be healthy. Sorry if you were expecting your breasts to decrease in size. This just confirms that it is totally a hormonal problem for you especially if you feel they may get bigger. 

[Johndoe1]

Well , I guess but it’s not easy when the boobs are on the wrong body.

I’m wondering. I have lost weight over last two months. 9 kg. Is that why my boobs are looking proportionally bigger and feeling different ? I’m slimmer but they now stick out more

With true gynecomastia, breast size doesn't change drastically because there is so much glandular tissue that can only be removed with surgery. So as you lose weight, the glandular tissue doesn't reduce. I lost 100 lbs and went from a 42C UK to a 36E UK and my breasts were more noticeable at the lower weight. They do have a more feminine look now and do seem to be a bit heavier, but mine do have some sag to them and that I am sure plays some roll in heft and appearance.

[aboywithgirls]

Well , I guess but it’s not easy when the boobs are on the wrong body.

I’m wondering. I have lost weight over last two months. 9 kg. Is that why my boobs are looking proportionally bigger and feeling different ? I’m slimmer but they now stick out more

I went through the same.. I was a 38G and now I wear a 36H UK sizing. It's always the best policy to look and feel your best.. Whether it's wearing a bra,, a one piece women's swimsuit, it's obvious that you can't expose your girls.. If you feel and look better and are more confident having the girls secured, you should embrace those garments that work best for your body.

Your breasts are not on the wrong body, you just need an extra garment to help out.

[Conor W]

I guess I was hoping if I lost weight they may shrink a bit . But they haven’t and that’s why they may look bigger ? 
They feel heavier. And certainly fill the cup in the original bras more I think . 
Going shopping tomorrow. 
I don’t think I have an option but to wear a bra. I know what my boobs look like. Abd they feel better when I have one on. 

[Johndoe1]

And there's no shame in that decision either. It took me years to come to that decision and as I look back, one I wish I had made sooner. I would have been more comfortable, physically and I suspect mentally as well. It's just something you do and you get on with life. It's not cancer. It's just boobs.

[curiousk]

I feel the same way as John.  When your boobs are bigger than 75% of girls in your class every year from 8th-12th grade, I could have used the support.  
I wear mostly lace bras in the summer because of the heat.  I was so happy that someone suggested that.  Good way to keep cool.  
I’m going to be on the look out for tankinis to go on sale soon.  I want to be prepared for next summer.  

[Rich meier]

Have you thought about an open cup bra I used to wear them they support your breast butare much cooler than other bras I was 40c at the time but out grew it now 46c and cant find my size. 44 is to tight causes fat rolls on the back that was my favorite go to bra