Wearing a bra for now

[p.r.1974]

I will agree that partial cup bras do not have as mush material or coverage as most other bras. However, they are normally relegated to home use, as the nips are more prominently on display, and especially if they are larger and temperature sensitive.

[Rich meier]

thats exactly mine but I dont worry about it. even if I wore a regular bra they still show thru a T shirt and a flannel shirtI used to pretty much wear it all the time except when I was working

[Conor W]

I survived shopping with the girls. It’s surreal being in these shops knowing you have a bra on , the girls knowing and I’m sure the store assistants realised but said nothing. 

Ended up buying a Regatta Aceana II Tankini top in blue and matching shorts from Next. I don’t have that big a bulge and it fits and hopefully works. Embarrassing that my boobs are bigger than the models on the front of the packet. But hopefully it works for hot tubs. I’m going to be very nervous. They dragged me in Victoria’s Secret. I think they like the idea of educating me. They were buying for themselves. Half an hour in the shop they suggested something I should buy and kept on saying they were better than supermarket bras. To save a scene I agreed. They bought it and I gave them the money. It’s evening blush colour which is easier to hide under clothes I think. The cups are plain but the straps under are lace. Said I’d try it at the weekend when we are away with the group of friends. It does fit. Just got to explain to my mum how it appeared in my draw. A bit embarrassing. Hopefully the tankini works for hot tub party in the house. At least it’s just friends there who know. 

[blad]

You are having more fun with this than I was able too at your are. It may feel a bit odd and embarrassing, but with all your friends and family knowing and helping out with your introduction to bras it does not get much better than that. Since it is sort of out in the open and accepted that you are best served by wearing a bra then there is no longer the stress associated with trying to hide anything or navigate on your own. You can really just be yourself, a regular guy that just happens to benefit with some breast support from a bra.

So just go with the flow as it seems to all be working out quite well.

[Johndoe1]

Conor, the Regatta Aceana II Tankini looks very nice and comfortable and supportive. It also looks like it's modest in appearance which is good. Go enjoy yourself and have a good time and don't worry. You got this. And remember, you've got the girls attention and your chums don't. That puts you in a place they can never obtain!

[Conor W]

Survived the weekend break. First issue, sleeping arrangements. Lads crashing in rooms, girls crashing in rooms. Some in a tent outside. I ended up in the house in a small room with two of the guys. And I was lucky, I got a bed . Managed to do all my changing in the en-suite bathroom. Took clothes in with me. So no one saw me in my bra without a top on, although I suspect the two lads may have looked in the draw when I wasn’t there to check my size as it look disturbed. Something that became obvious  in drunken late night conversation. They guessed my cup size. 
First night , I couldn’t face going in the hot tub etc. I looked at my friends and figured why. I’d look stupid. Girls are girls, slim and bikini, the guys all look good in their trunks and physique. I did the sit out in t shirt and shorts. Just thought I would look ridiculous. The following day Debra and Bev were asking me why even I had the outfit. After a discussion and I had sort of realised what one issue was I ended up quietly shaving my legs. I tried the outfit on and it looked better. The Saturday evening after several drinks as others were already relaxing, I nipped in and changed. Just came back out and got in the hot tub. To cheers and wolf whistles. Stayed mainly in the tub and was ok. Alcohol helped! 
Came back for exam results. Got my grades so university in late September.

[aboywithgirls]

That's amazing! Congratulations on your success with your grades and your bikini 👙! I'm sure you looked great!

How did you feel? Were you comfortable? Doesn't it feel good to dress your body properly? It sounds like the girls were accepting. They know what it's like to have to cover up. They understand that you have to dress your upper half too..

Glad you had fun.

[Traveler]

I think you’re doing great! You’re handling this so much better than I did growing up. Of course that was a different time and I didn’t have the family support that you do. Good on you! 

[Johndoe1]

Just be yourself. You don't have to be anything else. Don't have regrets. My biggest regret was I didn't deal with my gynecomastia until well into adulthood. By that time a chunk of life had passed me by. You are lucky. You have friends who actually care and want you to be happy. They too are dealing with this for the first time as well. They don't know how to react either. They are learning too. Yeah, they are going to rib you about your chest, but that too will pass. After a while your chest will become old news. Remember, your chest is no different than your female friends and everyone should treat your chest in the same manner they would treat your female friends chest. You have female friends willing to help you. Take their help. Their advice will be invaluable. Your male friends have no clue.

[Conor W]

Well I’m trying to make the best of it. I think it took a lot of alcohol and  persuasion to wear the tankini. Everyone was looking at my boobs. 

My sister and mum asked how it went - I just said fine. Put the new bra in the wash, told my mum that the girls had bought it as a present. She didn’t say anything. My sister saw it drying and made a joke about getting sexy. Just trying to live normal. It is sort of normal just to wear them and I forget about it unless I’m out and trying to hide it . Anxious how I deal with university 

[aboywithgirls]

I'm sure that most here, who wear a bra daily, will agree that wearing a bra becomes routine and going braless no longer feels normal. Women are no different. They won't leave the house without a bra. I haven't been in public braless for almost 30 years.

[Busted (and happy)]

You are doing just fine - just the normal insecurities we all have though I, happily, am mostly past that.
I make  a point  of occasionally having a bra-less day. 
It is always a salutary reminder of how much better life is  whilst wearing one - I rarely last the day without!

[Conor W]

Well I was getting confident. This week I was in the toilet in a restaurant / pub and this young dad was there with his toddler son. I was washing my hands and he looked at me in the mirror and asked me if I knew that the ladies toilet is next door. Then basically called me a lesbian. I think he thought I was a butch lesbian as I’d come out of the cubical. I could see him looking at my chest and he had seen me sat with a girl outside. But I could see him staring at my chest even though I had a light shirt over the t shirt and not buttoned. I looked in the mirror and it’s noticeable. Not the bra, just the fact I have boobs. Debra says my skin is soft and I never did have much facial hair. 

So confidence dipped. But still wearing as it’s so uncomfortable not to. And I look in the mirror and they are girls boobs stuck on my body

[blad]

When I was in my early teens I was often mistaken for a developing girl as a result of the boob bumps presenting themselves and my still youthful face. Aging eliminated that misidentification. 

This will diminish for you.

[Johndoe1]

Conor,

To this day, if people can't see me like in a drive through ordering queue, they will say ma'am to me because of my female sounding voice. A byproduct of what made me develop breasts. It used to really make me uncomfortable and angry. Now, I just go along with it and get the satisfaction of the reaction when they see me when I pull around. It's nothing and remember, you will never see this man again. Who gives a flip what he thinks or says. He is the one with the issue, not you my friend. Not you. You are as you are supposed to be. Don't forget that.