Who enjoys needing to wear a bra

[gmast]

Although we come to our conclusions at different rates or at different times in our lives, it is great to see our collective acceptance and even satisfaction of our beast development via wearing a common support garment, the bra.

Before you get to happy thinking you've found a norm, recognize that you are part of a click that reinforces each other in the click.  Those outside of the click that disagree with your ideas are inibitted from posting.

[Johndoe1]

Although we come to our conclusions at different rates or at different times in our lives, it is great to see our collective acceptance and even satisfaction of our beast development via wearing a common support garment, the bra.

Before you get to happy thinking you've found a norm, recognize that you are part of a click that reinforces each other in the click.  Those outside of the click that disagree with your ideas are inibitted from posting.

While your conclusion is basically correct, and I agree with it, I am finding that because of the current environment we live in, I have noticed a level of at least a restraint of comment or even double takes that I have not seen before and I am definitely showing more than I ever have before. Also interacting with bra shops (I don't buy on line rather wanting to support small local owners), I have seen a willingness to serve, at least me, as a male with gynecomastia, where just a few years ago, they were not interested in selling me a bra for me to wear. But that is not universal. I am still refused service frequently because I am a male who presents male even though I have a noticeable chest. I have also noticed in certain women's on line bra forums, an acceptance of men with gynecomastia voicing their bra and breast issues. That's not to say that bra wearing men are universally accepted. Quite the contrary. But I have seen levels ranging from bare tolerance to full acceptance by the women in those forums as long as the male is up front about being male and having gynecomastia, respectful and not coming off as some kind of perv. I have also seen that the most resistance has come from, surprisingly, trans women. Why? I have no idea. One would think they would understand the most. But that does not seem to be the case. Not in my experience.

Have we come a long way? I think so. Have we become "accepted"? No. Not by a long shot. But I am seeing in some quarters where women are accepting and sympathizing at some level, of a man with gynecomastia who wears a bra for breast support and containment and is just trying to live with breasts like they are. Now, men accepting of other men wearing a bra for support or having gynecomastia? No. There has been no acceptance that I can see beyond specific forums for acceptance like this. We see in other areas of this site an almost downright hatred of anyone who doesn't have the "chop them off" opinion and that appears to be the norm, not the exception. This area right here IS the exception. I am also happily surprised that a doctor, who owns this site, even allows an acceptance area.

Just my opinion and perspective.

[FredL]

.... We see in other areas of this site an almost downright hatred of anyone who doesn't have the "chop them off" opinion and that appears to be the norm, not the exception.

Is that true? I have been reading this forum for over 6 months and have not see anything of the sort. 

[aboywithgirls]

As most of you know, I have worn a bra since I was a teenager and full time since I was sixteen years old. I never had any ill feelings towards having breasts that were larger than most girls than  and even most women now.

I had always just considered wearing a bra was something that I should do. It was and is just something that I felt like I should do. Now more than ever, it's something that I kinda have to do. It's not considered acceptable for me to go braless. It's very much expected of me. I considered myself blessed to have been blessed with breasts and be able to fill my cups.

[bikerbob]

I don't know about "downright hatred" but there are two distinct groups on this forum.  The (mostly younger) ones in the Surgery area who are horrified at having breasts, can't even conceive of wearing bras and can't wait to spend $10,000 to have them removed and the (mostly older) ones in the Acceptance area who recognize that $10,000 will pay for a nice used Harley or Corvette and a lot of bras.  I belong to the latter group.

[taxmapper]

Well for me its a Hasselblad or Nikon Z


But yeah. 

[curiousk]

I’m in the second category as well. I’ve had my breasts since I was 11-12 years old.  I’m ok with having some them.  A bra solves my problem, just like wearing support hose helped with my varicose veins.  I’ve come to enjoy and like my breasts and will not cut them off.  No varicose vein or breast surgery for me.  

[Traveler]

Wow Dude! It sounds to me more like your growth is finally noticeable and the girls sounded pretty understanding given the situation. I wouldn’t worry too much about your bra choices, I’d look for some work shirts with a little more weight to the fabric or get a form fitting tank that looks like a “wife beater” under your shirts. The tank will hide the hardware a bit. I like front close bras for that reason, helps smooth the back.

[Traveler]

Actually, as young as you are and with the growth you’ve had so far, I’d say it’s safer to plan for D cups or more! I never thought I’d get in the DD club either, but here I am.
Sounds like you’re going to have to make some wardrobe changes, I have and it’s not been very difficult. As I said before, layering tanks and shirts with a pattern and darker colors are your friends. People won’t see what they aren’t expecting. Maybe make better friends with the gossipers and get them on your side?

[Traveler]

What would make you think or assume that? I know men’s testosterone naturally declines over the years but there’s men who are 80 and flat chested or others who had gynecomastia growing up and it’s been stalled forever. Just curious.

Of course I’m no expert, but from my research on my growth, your idiopathic growth could stop at anytime, or continue to grow over a 5 to 10 year span similar to female puberty. Just a heads up is all. 👍

[Traveler]

Nope, mine, like a lot of guys here, started at puberty. I was probably a B/C cup at 14 as I could pass the pencil test then. I had some weight fluctuations and then age kicked in around 58 as they started to hurt and that’s when I also started prostate meds. I’m down to my lowest weight since high school and that made them even more prominent. Kinda the perfect storm situation. I may have more coming my way if that 5 to 10 year window thing holds true. It does feel like they’re still growing since the glands still feel sensitive and my nips are always sensitive.

[aboywithgirls]

I can say that even after 30 years of wearing a bra every day there are quite a few different aspects of wearing a bra that I enjoy.

The first, is pretty obvious. I Think that all of us started out wearing a bra for basic support. That is a bras most basic function. We all know that even walking down a set of stairs can be uncomfortable braless.

Once you get into a C cup plus size, you start to realize that shape becomes more important. I wear a 36H UK in most of my bras. I much prefer a nice rounded shape as opposed to a pointed or projected shape.

I feel that overall appearance is in a category of it's own as well. I have different bras for different reasons. Whether is for the color, the shape, the style or type, Every bra has a purpose. I'll put on a certain lace cup bra if I'm going to be outside for a while on a hot day. If I'm at work, in a professional setting, than a molded cup or spacer bra will give me a clean appearance and no worries about nipple projection.

So, for me, a bra is a part of my everyday wardrobe. It's also something that I not only choose to wear, it's something that is expected of me to wear now.

[aboywithgirls]

Oh, I know, right?

I wore a 38E in UK sizing for the longest time. Then I I had I thyroidectomy. That really messed with my hormones. I went from an E to a G cup in a year. I then voluntarily lost 40 lbs. I dropped a band size but, increased a cup size which meant that my breast volume remained pretty much unchanged. They are just more pronounced now. I like my current size and shape but, It would be nice to be an E cup again. More clothing options.

[Johndoe1]

I agree with ABWG. After a C cup, what the breasts look like really has an impact on appearance. I would rather have a molded rounded cup or a cup that rounds my tissue out than to be pointed or projected. The roundness softness the look of the chest and doesn't make them so obvious when worn with the right top. I believe that is why I have had less notices since I started wearing a bra. In the summer time, I prefer unlined or lace cups so not to have to swim in my own sweat from the molded cups. They do get a bit warm in the summer time and to me boob sweat is much more noticeable than a little projection.

[aboywithgirls]

Absolutely John. If I know that I will be in air conditioning for the day like at work. I will wear a molded cup or spacer cup. The same holds true going grocery shopping. The refrigerated sections of the store usually put my high beams on without fail in the summer. Don't get me wrong I do wear mostly lace cups in the warmer weather for the same reasons. I HATE boob sweat!