Girls, Girls, Girls, Girls

[Arjun]

Landwan I understand you have been frsutrated over the years which evidentlly led you to be this way. You say you have been like this for 10 yrs. Well you are getting your gyno fixed. That is one barriciade, a big one i may add, which will be taken down. Take it one step at a time. Think 10 yrs down the road. Dont you want to have kids, a successful family, career...you need a women's support and some hard core sex to achive the first two  . What I am saying is you are taking a big step with the gyno. Slowly everything will fall into perspective. You will gain more self confidnce and when you feel is your time to make ANOTHER big step in life you will want to talk and go out with girls. After my surgery my self confidence has raised like 50%. That is a lot over a short span of time. I hope only to get better. Dont miss out on some of life's greatest joys. You are human and you deserve every bit of luxury as we all do despite whether you feel it or not. So what if you got rejected by a girl or two. WHo cares...its not the end of the world. There are more out there and one day you will find a girl who will hit your heart so hard that you may want to spend the rest of your life with her. Give it time. Take care

Arjun

[UKChap]

After all the laughing directed towards me and the humiliation when i was younger i still cant stand it.

I can relate to what you are saying.  For 13 years I have had people (girls/women) laugh at me or make comments about my condition – sometimes to my face and other times when they thought I couldn't hear.   In my early 20’s a girl I thought I liked and had a connection with came up and groped my chest/breasts in front of a bunch of my friends and colleagues.  While doing so she made a comment about how I should wear a bra and that I have bigger boobs than hers.  It left me totally humiliated and destroyed whatever confidence I had left (in terms of relationships).  It also killed off any positive view I had of myself physically and subsequently I have never had a relationship with a woman.  I know how lonely it can be.  Heck, I’ve cried myself to sleep thinking that nobody can ever love a man with boobs and that I’ll be alone forever.  My old Ma said to me "You have to love yourself first".  For me, with man-boobs, that's pretty much impossible.  I accept that they are apart of me, what choice (until now) do I have? That doesn’t mean that I don’t hate them any less, or that I’m prepared to risk what little self-confidence I have with the opposite sex and have them turn around and say “you should wear a bra” or whatever.

In saying all that, until I found this place I never really knew that there was a “cure”.  Now, thanks in part to the experience and accounts of some of the guys here I can realistically be motivated and look towards getting the suckers removed.  I’m not naïve enough to suggest that them being gone will result it me being some kind of super-stud, but being something that resembles normal will make me feel better about myself.  It will also mean that I won’t forever be on my guard from people humiliatingly groping me and saying: “You need a bra!”, or whispering when I walk by them in a shop or something.

Cheers.

[Landwand]

I cannot imagine how devastating that must have been for you UKChap.

Thank you for the support and kind words Arjun and Nasa.

This will be the first step in quelling my demons, and I plan to better my life little by little.

After this, or during this time, I will also have to tackle my weight problem.  It's not bad.. I'm maybe 10-20 pounds overweight..  but at this point, it seems pretty impossible.

I never was rejected Arjun. Before that age when girls are interested in boys and vice versa, I was already bent into myself.

I am a person full of hate and resentment.  Sadness is my only companion.

I can't remember any time that I cared for another.. I feel as if I am handicapped.   I feel no pain - just hollow inside.

The only emotions I know are the negative ones.  It will take a long time to heal - assuming that I ever do.

[Arjun]

Landwan you are from Toronto I see. As a fellow Toronto comrad I am offering for you to spend some time with me and my friends. We can show you a new world. Girls, girls and more girls and yes we get rejected but yes we also get glared at. If you ever feel that you need to talk to somebody or anything or want to go out I am openly offering you not as mercy help or anything like that but as a friend. Off this board I consider all of us to be a gang of friends. Remember if you ever need anything bud just let me know and we can do something. Perhaps changing the crew you hang around will or may help you. Take care

Arjun

[Landwand]

As a fellow Toronto comrad I am offering for you to spend some time with me and my friends.

*laughs*  That's just.. the wierdest offer.  

No offence intend, naturally.  I'm a shy person by nature.  For the longest time, I've been wearing a mask and pretending to be someone I'm not.  You know.. easy going, rather funny - such and such.

In all honesty, I don't like meeting people.  

The very thought of me taking you up on the offer.. well, it's just mind boggling.  You see, we're on opposite sides of the spectrum.

[Arjun]

Landwan I was just offering you that so you can get this hatred out of your system. I didnt say you have to or anything. Personally I dont see anything funny about it. I was just saying that so perhaps you can get a different perspective of life man and not be so bottled up. Nevertheless I respect your wishes my friend . Take care and hope you feel better in the future

[sanjman]

man it sucks "theee" girl i have liked works at the nearby pool and i feel like s h i t if i went there.  She is a lifeguard there and it kills me.  She is incredible, i was friends with her in high school, and then i went away to Michigan State University this year after i graduated H.S.  Out of all the places I could just up and strike a conversation with her it has to be a swiimming pool.  The funny thing is the girl i liked last year and went to prom with is also a lifeguard and i could never get close to her, didnt even kiss her.  And I can just tell she wonders why I never did anything, i am still friends w/ her now.  She always used to invite me to the pool and i never went last year.  All because of gyn.
I am determined to get surgery soon
SO I CAN GET SOME PLAY lol and feel better

[XStraightedgeX]

i hear that, i get all these offers to go to lake cabins. Can i do it? Of course not, well not with breasts. Soon very soon, i can actually take my shirt off like a normal human.

[Landwand]

Thank you - once again- Arjun.  I fear that the only way of letting go of this hate is for me to mentally snap.

A normal life.. .. sadly, it doesn't seem like I can do anything normal this summer.

[Arjun]

never lose hope landwan my friend

[aux513s]

*bumps*

Here's one from the archives everyone.

[willc]

i was always nervous about girls cause of my chest, but my theory always was taht if you have a big c*ck they wont care.  tahnk god i have one of those

[tonysoprano]

Arjun.... wow- thats one person I have not heard/seen around these parts in ages.

He was the first person to respond to one of my earliest posts I believe

He had also setp up his own little gyne info website, which had many good tips and stuff.... pretty sure it has shut down now

[Paa_Paw]

Life is too short to waste any time on a girl that would reject you because of something that is statistically normal. Like Zits, freckles, the wrong color of eyes, curly hair, straight hair, no hair, etc. and yes the list would have to include gynecomastia.

It has never been an issue with any of the girls or women I dated. But then, I never wasted my time with narrow minded people.

Some of the gals actually are turned on by it. Happily, my wife is one of them.

[tnel00son]

i havent had any trouble with girls really, whenever i am getting intamite with a girl, whats on my mind is not my breasts, its hers lol, so i dont even think about it, so far, not a single girl has said anything about it. As far as taking my shirt off in public, theres a story behind that, which actually makes me kind of glad that i have gyne. when i realized i had it, i started working out like a mad man hoping to supress its existence, and now i weigh 230 lbs and i only have glandular gyne now, almost no fat at all. so all of my other defined features like my stomach and biceps and triceps make up for the puffy nipples. on top of that, since im so big, i dont think anyone, that i know at least, would ever say anythign mean to me, im just a monster now, i love it. youll all get over it 1 day or another. lifes to short to worry about things like this.


bottom line, sanj, be confident, try to forget about your gyne, dont waste the time you have to be young because of it, any girl who would make fun of it shouldnt be worth your time anyway. even if you didnt even have gyne. good luck with whatever you decide to do m8!