My gf and my gyno

[donie]

Hello guys,

I am 21 year old dude and ofcourse i got gynecomastia,sorry for my bad english but i hope you understand and share ur opinions with my problem or i might find some1 that is in exactyl the same situation but i doubt that, so lets start.

me and my gf are together now for almost a year,our relation ship is amazing,everything is perfect. we have sex quite often and sometimes i take my t-shirt off aswell but its a rare thing becouse i got quite bad gynecomastia. my gf doesnt know about it and i dont think that she suspects anything or maybe she does,i dont know but i dont have that courage yet to tell her.
there was few occasions when we walking down the street and we see a guy with gynecomastia but he doesnt wear compression garment and you can see that something is wrong with him ( i always wera compression garment). so my girlfriend drops lines like " oooooh,did u see him??? or that was a woman? he got boobs!!! " and after she says something like this im just quiet and abit upset and this is the reason i dont want to tell her that i got gyno becouse im afraid i guess,im afraid of rejection even tho i dont think that she would leave me becouse of this but im sure that she doesnt like gynecomastia and she thinks that guys with it are freaks. im kinda shocked that she never said anything about my chest.
i would love to get advice from you guys what should i do. should i bring this topic to her,and i heard so many times if girl refuses to be with me because of my gyno then shes not worth me. if i would bring this topic,how should i approach? do you think she knows that i got gyno and shes just bein mean to me by commenting like this or she doesnt have idea that i got it.

[Paa_Paw]

Several possibilities come to mind and I do not really llike any of them.

One is that you are attributing words you have said to your girlfriend. Or that you are calling attention to other men and their gynecomastia to see how she responds.

Another possibility is that your girlfriend is an extreemly superficial person. Her concern about other people is based entirely upon their physical characteristics. This would mean that she is very prejudicial.

There are other possibilities as well, but I'll focus upon these two.
 
If the first case is true then I wonder at your concern about the breasts of other men. I also wonder why you would lead the conversation in such a way.

If the second case is true then you need to get rid of this prejudicial person and find a new girlfriend.

The general experience has been that this is our problem and hardly ever a problem for the women in our lives. The situation you describe is opposite of the reaction of most girls.

There are women who as superficial as you describe, but in my experience they are in the minority and not worthy of your concern.

[xelnaga13]

Most nice girls are worried about their own body complexes rather than yours. The girls that are concerned about their partner's body being perfect are not the ones you want around anyhow.

[donie]

i dont thingk that she is superficial person and i dont think that she cares about the looks because her ex was not that good looking, thats what shes saying, but it is just weird about gynecomastia, the way she comments,for example me and her were watching a movie and there was this guy standing with white top and he was quite old,and he had manboobs and this is normal because he was old but she still had to make a joke about his chest, i was kinda expecting that and i was right,she made a joke.i dont know what is wrong with her. Paa_Paw, u said One is that you are attributing words you have said to your girlfriend. Or that you are calling attention to other men and their gynecomastia to see how she responds. ) i dont really understand this.

[hammer]

I would have to agree with the other two posters!

I have had gyne all my life, and not once did any girl that I knew, friend or steady make a big deal out of any mans chest mine or others.

Gotta love a good woman! Friend or steady!

[zjbi87]

I've been in your position bud. Im 22 been with my girl since 17. I have it as well n never took my shirt off around her until i knew we were very serious. If you have a question in your mind weither she would leave you over a medical condition you have then i suggest you don't tell this girl. When you know she loves you unconditional then you tell her. Dont take her pointing out the fact that a different guy has man boobs too serious lol i mean it is kinda odd to see if you don't know anything about the situation. Anyway that's my input if she loves you truly she will understand,  if not then dude you don't wanna be w someone like thatanyway

[HellandBack]

When u sleep with her and have taken off your shirt did she comment or see? Maybe she makes the jokes to make aware that others have it and you are not alone haha i don't know women could be funny at times. We could all give our opinions all day long but u know her not us, if you are as close as i assume then bring it up however you want instead of keeping that annoying pain in every time she makes a man boob joke. Bring some knowledge to her brain about gyno, because trust me a lot of people have no clue about gynecomastia. Good luck bro

[thetodd]

I wouldnt look to much into it. Part of the problem is "Man Boobs" have become a bit of a tabloid joke over the past few years if you pick up a paper in England and Simon Cowell is mentioned they will find a way of mentioning his "Moobs".

Its become the new thing to rib someone about, like its no big deal. On one hand you've got magazines/newspapers reporting that teenagers are developing eating disorders. Flick the page you see "XYZ walks on beach with his ugly saggy man boobs".

I wouldnt take it as a backhanded insult as you, because to me it sounds like she just hasn't noticed that you suffer with gyne. Which is pretty sweet really