heart ache

[Grandpa Bambu]

I found another case in CT. where a boy was denied and when they went to court they over ruled the denial.  There is hope!  Why are their so many people on here who say they are saving for the surgery?

The vast majority of those who have this debilitating condition, suffer in silence. Many have no means of support, financially and/or emotionally. The condition is embarrassing enough for a boy/man let alone going into court and having to publically admit that he has 'Breasts' . OMG! Just think about all the humiliation the sufferer would have to endure while in court. My hat goes off to those guys who have fought the IC's in court. They are stronger than I, as there would be no way that I would have been able to do that.

Think about it...  if you had a penis instead of a vagina, and had to go to court to publically fight an IC to get it removed via Health Care. That would be extremely embarrassing to you. You wouldn't want anyone to know your 'secret'. That's how gyne sufferers feel...

GB

[sammi]

You are right and I completly accept that BUT if I were born that way I would think the ic would pay for it because it is out of the norm.  I may be wrong.  I just have no understanding of why they won't cover this, it's wrong!  I just don't understand!  Could one person just fight for all people and have it like supreme court ruling that without doubt it is covered?  I mean hell look at the other stuff they pay for stuff that is we do to ourselves, this isin't by choice.  Sorry don't mean to repeat myself but I don't get it!  I wish there was something I could do.  I'm sure we all do.

[Mr_Nip]

Yeah, it truly is a different world when you are Gynecomastia free... 

GB

Dang right.

[sadgyneguy]

Actually he wasen't to happy about the surgery at first but now is is very happy, happy that te kids will quit making fun of him.

Yeah, it truly is a different world when you are Gynecomastia free... 

GB

very true

[Grandpa Bambu]

Yeah, it truly is a different world when you are Gynecomastia free... 

GB

Dang right.

Having Gynecomastia is like having a nightmare that you can't wake-up from...   

Sorry... a little off topic.   

GB

[sammi]

Hey guys I've been doing alot of reading on here about the recovery time and exclusions...If Tre is in 4th grade, what time frame am I looking at that after surgery he can go back to school?  I don't want his grades to slip as a result of being out with surgery.  I'd rather wait til school is out again and his performance won't be effected.

[Mr_Nip]

If it were my son I would plan for him to be out a few days.  If he had the surgery on a Thursday then he should be able to attend school on the following Monday with no problem.  I know you read of a few of us returning to work the next day or so, but I just wouldn't recommend that with a child.  It's going to take the anesthesia and pain meds a few days to wear off anyway, and it's really hard to pay attention or remember anything while that stuff's in your system.  Also, make sure to talk to the school principal, teachers, and PE teacher about not letting him participate in hard physical activities for a few weeks.  You don't have to them the whole story, just say he had surgery in his chest area.  They can't require you to tell them anything more.

[Chodel]

am i the only one that thinks he is a little young to be having surgery?

[Grandpa Bambu]

Why do you think Tre is a 'little young to have surgery'?

GB

[sammi]

Thanks alot Mr. Nip I was puzzled because I have read alot about people having a six week recovery period.  As you know I want this done as soon as we get the go ahead so I'm glad we don't have to wait until next summer.  

[sammi]

Chodel I do believe that there are people here that think that Tre is to young to have surgery at first I did to especially when I found no evidence of anyone that young having the surgery.  I have weighed the options and I feel that it is best.  At 9 his body is almost the size of a 12 year old, his gyne has resulted to approx. a c cup if not larger.  He cannot hide his gyne, it is very obvious.  As a matter of fact I viewed some of the picks on here and was surprised that some of the men were worried about their gyne, I saw nothing wrong with them and at 9 Tre is much larger than them.   The doctor assured me that it is safe for him to have surgery and that there are no other options for reduction ie. exercise, medicine, ect.  my baby is teased on a daily basis, I know it's normal for kids to tease and to be teased but I don't want him to go through this any longer.  It's always his chest the subject of ridicule.  It has already effected him so far, he at 9 is extremly self concious, hopefully after the surgery he will begin to feel better about himself and the damage can be fixed.  It's whats best.

[Grandpa Bambu]

It's whats best.

Agreed!

GB

[Wolf_Blitz]

I don't think he is too young. If he has the surgery now he can avoid many psychological issues. Many of us lack confidence around people and especially women. We think everyone is looking at our chest. Anyone that is laughing, we think that it is at us. We struggle day-to-day with gyne. If he can have it removed now, he can have confidence in himself, around people and later around girls. He can have confidence later in life in going swimming without worrying that people are laughing/staring at him. He won't have bad posture due to slouching. He'll be able to have fun without having to think about his chest. He'll be able to enjoy all the things that many of us missed out on in our lives. I say it is better to remove the gyne now before the effects of it are too deeply rooted, when they are more easily reversed.

One concern I have though is, if and after he gets the surgery, when he goes back to school the kids who teased him before will want to tease him again. Seeing that he no longer has gyne, they will see that they were right, and he was indeed not 'normal'. I can see them continuing to tease him, this time for having to have his breasts removed. This might be something you will want to discuss with him.

I hope all works out for him and that he won't have to suffer like the majority of us here.

[sammi]

I do think that the surgery will be rewarding, emotionally for Tre.  I haden't given it much thought about him having the surgery though and what the children will say afterwards.  I guess I just took for granted that they are still children and that they wouldn't even realize the difference.  You see he dosen't have like one kid who picks on him, not like a bully that would notice if a kid wore the same shirt 2 days of the week to go and tell the whole school.  He attends a elementary school with over 500 children, usually when he is picked on it's in class like when their at recess and a kid gets mad about a game and they retaliate.  It's not like they call him names walking down the hall, they aren't old enough to be that cruel yet.  That's what I'm trying to avoid, kids old enough to be that cruel.  He is a well liked kid with alot if friends, but as you know at that age their friends one minute and the next their calling you names.  I guess what I'm getting to is that honestly I haden't given it any thought.  Any advice would help.  I figured that they would just think he had slimmed down and that it wouldn't be an issue.

[Chodel]

I only asked because although as we know gyne isn't just going to go when we reach maturity, 9 years old does seem rather young to be conducting this sort of surgery.  Also based on your posts it seems as if you are making the decision rather than your son, which as a 9 year old is a big decision to be making anyway.  I'm not criticising you at all, just responding with some thoughts.  He is very fortunate to have such a caring and dedicated mother!  And as many of you say there are undoubtedly psychological scars gyne suffers are subject to long into adulthood due to their condition, so addressing the issue early is probably a very good thing.  But still, 9 years old seems so young to me.