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Gynecomastia Acceptance => Sex => Topic started by: benusa on April 03, 2022, 07:39:33 AM

Title: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: benusa on April 03, 2022, 07:39:33 AM
Hi,
I just tried a bra for the first time this week. I haven’t told anyone in my life about it because I’m only wearing it at home and see it as personal experimentation. Also this week, my girlfriend was feeling my chest and cupped and squeezed my breasts. I didn’t say anything. I thought she was testing the waters to see if I would let her. Maybe she was just gauging size of recent growth. We live in separate towns and don’t see each other daily. Yesterday I was hoping she would say something or touch them again - it felt nice, but she didn’t. I didn’t really feel like having a conversation yet either so I didn’t bring it up. I might wait a while. I’m wondering if she likes my chest or not. Not really looking for advice. Just sharing my experience since this is new for me. Maybe some of you have had similar situations?
-Ben
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Evolver on April 03, 2022, 08:21:00 AM
My immediate thought is that if she does it again, let her know that you like it, and take it from there. If nothing else this should create a segue to a proper discussion about your breasts.

If she doesn't touch them again spontaneously next time, are you bold enough to take her hands and put them there to initiate that converstaion?
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: benusa on April 03, 2022, 08:46:27 AM
Hi Aussie,

I may do just that. It was a little soon. I’m assuming now that she’s noticed the growth.

-Ben
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 03, 2022, 12:30:21 PM
Oh, she was definitely "dipping her toes in the water". This is clearly a case of "silence is acceptance. She was trying to get to second base with you! She most likely has wanted to feel them up but wanted to make sure that you were comfortable with it. You didn't brush her hands away so..... It depends on how bold she is but she will likely ask you next  time how you like it.

🥰🤗❤👩‍🦰
Sophie
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Kazmage on April 03, 2022, 03:05:23 PM
Oh, she was definitely "dipping her toes in the water". This is clearly a case of "silence is acceptance. She was trying to get to second base with you! She most likely has wanted to feel them up but wanted to make sure that you were comfortable with it. You didn't brush her hands away so..... It depends on how bold she is but she will likely ask you next  time how you like it.

🥰🤗❤👩‍🦰
Sophie
That was similar to what my Mrs did but that was more trying to get payback from where her girls where sore during her pregnancy Untill she found out I like it as much as when I do it to her lol
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: benusa on April 03, 2022, 11:04:26 PM
Hi Kazmage,
I’m glad that ended up being a positive experience for you guys. It sounds like things went well between you two and I’m glad.

Sophie,
I hope there’s a next time. I’ll probably post an update if there is.

-Ben
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Orb on April 04, 2022, 01:46:00 PM
That's right.  Things may be going through her mind.  Have a response ready.  If your happy with yourself it will go good.  If she wants to play ball, let her take the base. ;)
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Dudewithboobs on April 06, 2022, 12:45:25 PM
Just let things occur organically. Don’t bring attention to growth or things taking place if things continue to develop. 
I’ve asked my wife a few times if things look worse and she says every time nope and it’s in my head. Contrary to going from an a cup to spilling out of some b cups now over the time of asking. I think women don’t mind overall if they are with us long term. They become acclimated to our changes if changes happen and overall I believe become accepting. Perhaps not to wearing some things but I say let things happen organically and not push focus on the concern or bring attention to it and she will find her own pace of enjoying the intimacy of things. 

Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 06, 2022, 12:53:40 PM
"I think women don’t mind overall if they are with us long term. They become acclimated to our changes if changes happen and overall I believe become accepting. Perhaps not to wearing some things but I say let things happen organically and not push focus on the concern or bring attention to it and she will find her own pace of enjoying the intimacy of things."

This is so true!!! Even though I had my boobs and wore a bra and panties since before we met, she was has always been supportive of the changes in me. She complimented the fit when I started wearing ladies slacks and blouses. 

I can't speak for all women but everyone I know, male or female like boobs. I know that I like boobs!
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Dudewithboobs on April 06, 2022, 01:19:34 PM
Yeah my wife would be very suspect of things if I wore women’s jeans and tops. Not even an interest of mine overall. Tried panties and other items in the past but always felt more foolish than comfortable but always good to hear when others have a Vice versa interest or experience than it is taken in with grace not judgment. 

I was curious how my wife would be when my breasts continued to grow. We have a pretty vanilla sex life. Intimate a week or so ago and before then about a year. I went from small a cup to larger b cup in volume and lost weight so not like I got donuts to blame lol. Taking my shirt off I was a bit nervous. Even in the dark cause I have seen how they now move and look leaning over and when she took to them like fish to water as they say lol I was like thank you lol. It was so odd but also erotic seeing my breasts in her hands and mouth knowing all my life the views been the other way around. I definitely think long as you are you and not inducing it or trying to force the idea and reality of having breasts as a man to a woman then it will be at worst a whoa I didn’t know he had boobs and most times I feel they would just be like not what I prefer but hey more to play with lol
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: taxmapper on April 06, 2022, 03:38:49 PM
My other half is still not so sure about it. 

Last night I was able to create cleavage!   

:P


In time I think things are going to get more pronounced and though i am going to start the gym again, I know full well that they will probably accelerate growth. 
 

Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Dudewithboobs on April 06, 2022, 04:43:29 PM
Yeah I hit the gym hard again last year myself and am in pretty good shape and my chest has grown softer not harder 😂 figured whatever at 35 I don’t care. 

I remember few months ago when I woke up from a nap facing our bedroom mirror and thought omg I hope my wife didn’t walk in while sleeping cause I never noticed how much cleavage I had laying on my side. 
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Busty on May 04, 2022, 10:14:53 AM
Seems like your GF is comfortable with your boobs.  You are lucky. 
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: benusa on May 04, 2022, 11:24:08 AM
Thanks. She’s wonderful. We haven’t talked about it yet but she got a good look and feel this weekend. ;)
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Dudewithboobs on May 05, 2022, 07:38:22 AM
Aye oh! Haha glad y’all had fun. Developing boobs when being intimate can be a stressing thing I feel. Wife and I haven’t been intimate in a year Ive grown almost 2 cup sizes. It’s gonna be interesting like hey babe can you hold these in place for me lol. 
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: 42CSurprise! on May 05, 2022, 12:51:29 PM
Aye oh! Haha glad y’all had fun. Developing boobs when being intimate can be a stressing thing I feel. Wife and I haven’t been intimate in a year Ive grown almost 2 cup sizes. It’s gonna be interesting like hey babe can you hold these in place for me lol.
Breasts develop with elevated estrogen and diminished testosterone which concurrently leads to reduced libido.  Perhaps the fact you haven't been sexually intimate in a year is part of a larger picture and may be the new normal.  I'm not the only man here who has reported diminished libido along the way.  Hormones have their way with us... a reality that can take time to understand.
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Dudewithboobs on May 05, 2022, 03:46:01 PM
My libido is on fire my wife’s is not she is over worked under staffed and when she’s not running a business she’s running the house while I work and then during event seasons I’m working most Saturdays also the bigger picture is just too busy and too tired both of us. Overall though my libido is def in good health. 
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Evolver on May 07, 2022, 07:46:13 AM
My libido is on fire my wife’s is not she is over worked under staffed and when she’s not running a business she’s running the house while I work and then during event seasons I’m working most Saturdays also the bigger picture is just too busy and too tired both of us. Overall though my libido is def in good health.
An all too common occurrence. Work sucks. People should work to live, not live to work. Do you need to consider a career change to take the pressure off your wife?

Not that I'm an expert, but it sounds like you both need to step back and smell the roses.
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Dudewithboobs on May 07, 2022, 08:11:36 AM
I work in finances and as an event photographer. I don’t have a university degree I worked as a steel worker for 12 years prior to landing in a bank for a career change. My resume will get me not too far per words to get on HRs radars I’m happy where I’m at. 
The pressure she’s under is she owns a business and staff just hasn’t been the best this year. She’s working on that but she has to train post job ads work on classes programs schedules etc all while taking care of the kid when I’m at work. I take the pressures off where I can when I can do she gets a break and time to relax and breathe. But idk. Sex just hasn’t ever been too important in our relationship since having a kid. Not anything anyone complains about with us but just something that’s fallen absent. Part of me thinks because she’s too tired and over worked and her down time is needed to just exit reality a bit in a book or a game. Part of me always felt it’s cause I’m pretty inadequate in bed. I make a minute man look like a marathon man lol. So always felt it’s like a why bother when it’s over so soon to her. But with all factors I’m sure it’s just a mix of all. 
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: aboywithgirls on May 07, 2022, 09:50:35 AM
I had a very, very low libido when I still had my penis. My vagina, now heeled and fully functional enjoys a much healthier sex life. Part of it may be the newness of it all but,still very happy with the increase in activity. Sorry if it was TMI 🙄🤗

Sophie
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: benusa on May 07, 2022, 11:16:12 AM
Hi Dude,
I agree with Aussie. It might be time for a vacation. Or even just a mini vacation. I’m certainly not one to give advice on a solution to job stresses and schedules. If you haven’t looked for a better opportunity in a while you may be surprised by more competitive offers. She also may have a hormone issue and her loss of interest has nothing to do with you.
Hi 42C,
My testosterone is normal to high. My estrogen is also high. I’ve been on testosterone for years. I have high libido. My boobs have also been growing nonstop this year. I had to discontinue an estrogen blocker over a year ago. I don’t think the estrogen has put a dent in libido.
Hi Sophie,
Maybe you’re just more comfortable now. 
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Dudewithboobs on May 07, 2022, 12:04:40 PM
My initial note wasn’t a complaint just a general statement. We are very happy. While sure sex is great and enjoyable we just aren’t overly sexual people. Thanks for the concerns and insights. But yes if vacation was an option we’d surely enjoy one as would anyone
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: aboywithgirls on May 11, 2022, 09:34:04 AM
Hi Sophie,
Maybe you’re just more comfortable now.
I am definitely more comfortable now!

It's not that my breasts fit my presentation better, even though they obviously do.

My breasts never had anything to do with what was between my legs. My breasts were just super convenient and I feel so fortunate that I never had to have any HRT or top surgery. For the last year, my E and T levels are within the normal range for women of my age. It's almost as if womanhood was my destiny.

your sis,
SOphir 🤗💋👭
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: brock123 on May 27, 2022, 12:10:49 AM
This is probably an unwanted interjection to the thread, but my wife and I have been "at odds" for a long while now (not related to sexual orientation), but I extended an Olive Branch this evening, which resulted in some much welcome and all-too-absent "cuddling". My input here is that she almost immediately started fondling my (little/pseudo) man boobs.

Women are complex creatures that seem to fall outside of the norms and understandings that men tend to impose upon themselves. As a male, would you arbitrarily pass (negative) judgment on a fellow male that has boobs, or would you feel bad/sympathize with him?

To me, "boobs" are essentially a whole lot of fun for all involved? As a male, it's something that I cannot fully appreciate, but I do enjoy what I have. I can speculate that females have a much more intimate relationship with their breasts. Men aren't supposed to have "them", but some of us do. How we interpret this reality is important? Do we accept and/or embrace this, or do we shun it?

Can we admit that no human is upset about having access to another human's big "chest" and our shared desire to fondle it? It makes us feel good, gender notwithstanding. 
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: SideSet on May 28, 2022, 12:10:27 AM
I think it is wonderful she fondled your breasts
Title: Re: Girlfriend noticing
Post by: Busted (and happy) on June 04, 2022, 04:00:19 PM
Brock
There is no natural law that says men should not have (noticeable) breasts, nor that women's breast ought to be. 
Plain fact is we all have them. Size is just a matter of the hormonal stew we are born with or acquire with age or more recently from environmental factors. 
Most women just enjoy their breasts and I intend to as well. 
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