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Acceptance / Re: Crossdressers Excited by Their Gynecomastia
« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Today at 11:07:49 AM »
Black is black. White is white.  Color blind people don't change the real colors they misperceive.  While I have compassion for the color blind, I don't change my acceptance of real colors to humor them.
Your Color Red Could Be My Blue.

Couldn't resist Moobzie.  
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Acceptance / Re: Transgender But Not Transitioning
« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Today at 11:01:17 AM »
...Unjust violence is a problem of morality - acts chosen, for the most part, by the perpetrators.  Can't really blame patriarchy, matriarchy, oligarchy or even malarchy.
This clearly isn't the place to take a deep dive into this topic but a factor you're not acknowledging with which I am familiar is the impact trauma has on all of us.  Acts of violence can certainly be called immoral and on the surface it can appear they are volitional but we now have a much deeper understanding of how trauma impacts the brain and can lead to behaviors that can cause great suffering both for the perpetrator and those around him or her.  That will never be relieve the perpetrator of responsibility and it will always be society's determination of what is a fair and useful punishment.  But none of us is free of the influence of the environment into which we were born.  The acorn doesn't fall far from the tree and not every home is a happy one.
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Photos / Been a hard day
« Last post by Charli 💕 on Yesterday at 09:15:46 PM »
It's been a hard day. I'm just now putting on my pajamas so I'll be changing out of my top and my underwire bra and putting on my sleeping bra and my nightgown. But I just thought I'd share with you what I wore today nothing glamorous just something that was comfortable all day under my man shirt. 
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Acceptance / Re: Crossdressers Excited by Their Gynecomastia
« Last post by Moobzie on Yesterday at 08:55:13 PM »
Black is black. White is white.  Color blind people don't change the real colors they misperceive.  While I have compassion for the color blind, I don't change my acceptance of real colors to humor them.
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Acceptance / Re: Transgender But Not Transitioning
« Last post by Moobzie on Yesterday at 08:50:21 PM »
I agree that there is a causal correlation between testosterone and aggressive behavior - even with females who get it during trans treatment (e.g., Nashville shooter who killed 3 kids and 3 adults).  It even occurs in other species (male cervids during the rut, bull elephants in theirs).  However, the point I was making is that violence is not perpetrated exclusively by males or testosteronized females.  There are also many examples of female mass murderesses (yeah, I know - old fashioned word, but it fits here).  Unjust violence is a problem of morality - acts chosen, for the most part, by the perpetrators.  Can't really blame patriarchy, matriarchy, oligarchy or even malarchy.
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Acceptance / Re: Transgender But Not Transitioning
« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Yesterday at 07:58:21 PM »
You obviously have a better memory of that book than I do Moobzie.  I haven't looked at it in over forty years and it was definitely not the focus of my graduate studies.  The title popped into my mind reading Evolver's comments with which I agree.  Perhaps this article sheds some light on the topic of testosterone and violence.

https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/09/harvard-biologist-discusses-testosterones-role-in-society/
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Acceptance / Re: Crossdressers Excited by Their Gynecomastia
« Last post by Parity on Yesterday at 04:40:22 PM »
  I tend to think of it in simple terms.

  If someone, born with an appendage between their legs and raised as a boy,  then truly feels in their head and heart they are a woman I would argue every time they dress in men's clothing they are cross dressing.  Wearing clothing you feel is wrong for you would then be cross dressing.  Shame society has the power to see things as only black and white.
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Acceptance / Re: Transgender But Not Transitioning
« Last post by Moobzie on Yesterday at 03:10:03 PM »
There is also a whole bunch of historico-archeological evidence that matriarchal societies were not all that benevolent - lots and lots of infanticide.  Unjust violence is not limited to males (Cleopatra's Egypt, Elizabethan and Victorian England - duh!).

The book you showed the link to has some major historical falsehoods.  The author's thesis that patriarchy is the father (pun intended!) of all aggression while matriarchalism is pacific  - using monarchial England as an example - is ludicrous (just ask the Scots and the  Irish!!!).  And claiming that humanity was mostly peaceful until those terrible Jews invented violence and those terrible Catholics "demoted" Christ's Mother is asinine.
Human history - actual history - is far more complex, nuanced, and interesting than the crap-headed bigotry in that book.
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Acceptance / Re: Transgender But Not Transitioning
« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Yesterday at 12:07:09 PM »
It is worth noting that it hasn't always been this way... testosterone in charge of everything that matters... or so it believes.  I read a fascinating book years ago that looks at archaeological evidence of female values predominating in some early cultures.  Yes, we could use more estrogen and less testosterone when it comes both to international relations AND family relations...

Chalice and the Blade
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Acceptance / Re: Crossdressers Excited by Their Gynecomastia
« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Yesterday at 11:57:57 AM »
  I think the difference between me and a CD is, in my mind I don't have the desire to dress fully as a woman to feel complete.  I do enjoy some aspects of woman's clothing but have no desire to dress completely and present that way. 
I'm exactly the same. I'm not a crossdresser. I feel complete as I am...

Sorry if I've just blurred this thread and the 'transgender but not transitioning' one, but I think the reference to CD's is relevant.
I bring up what I encounter on the CD website not because I'm an advocate for going in that direction.  I feel much the same as you and Parity do... even when registering on that website I couldn't find it in myself to select a feminine name.  My beard is likely older than many of the folks on this thread and it isn't going anywhere.  BUT, we are all contending with issues outside of the norm.  Not only do men not generally develop breasts they conclude would benefit from wearing a brassiere, but they also on occasion enjoy the experience of wearing panties, sleeping in a negligee, putting on nylon stockings... whether they intend to present as female or not.  We each draw the line where it feels most comfortable for us.  We know that even within this group we have one person who chose to transition and one who chooses to present each day as a woman.  They both came because they'd developed breasts and both chose the path they are on at the moment.  Neither is the path for me... hence I wrote the post Transgender but not Transitioning.  I say transgender because of the reality estrogen is taking me to a place close to the center of the gender continuum.  Honestly, that is true for all of us with burgeoning bosoms.

Gender bending is happening in many ways.  Those of us wearing brassieres are doing it that way... however we choose to describe it.  I don't call it crossdressing but my guess those who embrace crossdressing as a way of life probably would shake their heads and disagree with me... different strokes for different folks.  
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