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Acceptance Garments / Re: Finding clothes that fit.

« Last post by Justagirl💃 on Yesterday at 10:15:33 AM »

I have a friend who is a professional bra fitter and owned her own successful store for years. She recently went to work at TWO different major department store clothiers and got so fed up with the lack of knowledge or care the fitters had for the customers so quit in short order. According to her, it's all about moving in stock product. It doesn't matter if it fits, if it is close and you can talk the customer into buying it, do what it takes to sell it. No training other than get a reference measurement and start throwing bras at them until they bite. As you can imagine, she's fed up with the whole industry.

The amount of ignorance in the industry is astounding coupled with "sales quotas" they send to all the outlets. Last Saturday the manager told the assistant manager, "did you see our expected quota for today?"

That makes a dangerous combo, but I'm glad our Torrid has girls that "know their bras!"

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Acceptance Garments / Re: Finding clothes that fit.

« Last post by Dudewithboobs on Yesterday at 10:15:21 AM »

I can only imagine. That is ridiculous, but not surprising. I imagine they understand as well, that it's all about sex appeal and confidence when wearing. So an ill fitting bra that still looks good or provides the look of interest, may be easier to sell than a properly fitting bra that isn't the same intrigue. I'd assume they have the same bra in the right size no matter what, but who knows. 

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Sex / Re: ED from ED

« Last post by Johndoe1 on Yesterday at 10:12:35 AM »

Atrophy is another thing that is a sign of low T/elevated E men don't want to talk about either. I have heard nurses say that if they need to do a catheterization on a man with atrophy, they will use the female catheter because it works better for the patient. 

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Acceptance Garments / Re: Finding clothes that fit.

« Last post by Johndoe1 on Yesterday at 09:54:55 AM »

I have a friend who is a professional bra fitter and owned her own successful store for years. She recently went to work at TWO different major department store clothiers and got so fed up with the lack of knowledge or care the fitters had for the customers so quit in short order. According to her, it's all about moving in stock product. It doesn't matter if it fits, if it is close and you can talk the customer into buying it, do what it takes to sell it. No training other than get a reference measurement and start throwing bras at them until they bite. As you can imagine, she's fed up with the whole industry.

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Sex / Re: ED from ED

« Last post by Dudewithboobs on Yesterday at 09:38:08 AM »

Thanks 42! I know it's a topic that is tough to talk about sometimes. Not everyone has an issue there. Some guys with gynecomastia have DD's and are still able to function like they're in their prime, others barlely budding and can't get anything to work. Estrogen dominance effects us all differently and to a severity different from the next. 
Wife and I use things to spice things up and it works/helps but to a degree. Not going to discuss such things on an open forum here but we have explored other things. 

Thanks WPW and am glad you are blessed to have been married for such a duration of time and with milestones and hiccups all seems to have been a great relationship together. I'm happy to hear that. 

The thing that hits me most odd with ED is how "numb" things feel. Unsure if loss of feeling goes with loss of libido and other things but it's just been odd. 

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: Nair on the breasts

« Last post by Dudewithboobs on Yesterday at 09:31:41 AM »

I used nair on my legs when I began shaving them and looked at my legs and went, jeez, how many razors is this going to take. Drew a bath, applied, rinsed, and shaved the little that was remaining. It worked like magic, always heard how well it did from relationships, but didn't realize it till using it myself. I did not enjoy the smell afterward and it lingered a bit. My wife came home hours later and asked what that smell was. Only thing I didn't like about using it. My chest has always been fairly hairless and little that shows up is easily taken care of with a couple swipes of a razor. I'd be curious how well nair works there, with how thin and sensitive the skin on the areola is and if it would cause any irritation or harm there? Had a buddy when I was younger who got tired of shaving his head with a razor and used nair and it blistered the heck out of his scalp. 

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Sex / Re: ED from ED

« Last post by WPW717 on Yesterday at 09:29:24 AM »

Libido lost was easy to spot here. The rapidity of onset was remarkable. With MD’s at the helm the trials of pharmaceutical remedies failed completely. Even as the amounts were tripled. The wife is 12 years younger and was perimenopausal at the time.
As you said, 42, not all intimacy requires a working stiffie. Those conversations took place and were lighthearted. I am a very lucky man to be with her for the past 36 years. As the hormonal ship rights itself here we know it’ll never be the same as it was. The ‘ uncut eunuch’ status is here to stay. We just move ahead with the understanding that it is the stage and age of life for us. The key to success is again exploring alternatives and the acceptance of the facts once the landscape is mapped clearly. That can be a lot of work for us all. I wish everyone well in that endeavor. The peace and calm of arriving to that place is worth the effort, partnered or not.

The exploration of alternative paths to intimacy can be fun, it was for us. It does take courage and resolve, so hang in there, DwB.

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: Nair on the breasts

« Last post by mgr on Yesterday at 09:27:46 AM »

I have never tried Nair.  I had a few treatments to remove the hair with light therapy. It works great on dark hairs, but my grey hairs remain, which I shave everyday with an electric razor.  Breasts just do not look good with hair on them.  It is also much more comfortable in a bra.  It has been about 10 years now that I have shaved them.  

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Acceptance Garments / Re: Finding clothes that fit.

« Last post by Dudewithboobs on Yesterday at 09:21:59 AM »

Seems to be the general consensus for incorrect bra wearing. That they just try it on. It works and call it a day. When it may work it isn’t working right. As well, what I learned myself in trying bras on was wow a t shirt does not fit like a bralette or cami does not fit like a balconette and such. Who knew there was so much science to something simple as a bra. 
When I was an iron worker there was a banner that hung saying “take the time to make it right” and “a mistake happens when what could be done right is done wrong the first time”. I found this to be the slogan I carried when I became a b cup and a bra felt it wasn’t much of an option for comfort. I knew I didn’t “belong” in the women’s dept so I did my homework, studied what I could, asked those on forums who may be my height weight and body type and get their suggestions and so forth. After awhile I felt comfortable and confident going to try bras on myself. It took a few trial and errors but in 10-15 min in a fitting room and several bras and styles I felt I found my size. I am now bordering on a c cup and continue to take the time to make sure it’s right before checking out. 
I couldn’t do a pro fitting and figuring it out on my own was my best bet and it’s been a great return on investment. 

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Acceptance Garments / Re: Finding clothes that fit.

« Last post by Justagirl💃 on Yesterday at 09:06:39 AM »

Amazingly I have found many cis women are absolutely wrong in their assumptions about bra fittings. I knew an elderly lady that said, "I have been a C cup since school, I just buy a bigger band size as my breasts grow." This is completely WRONG as the band should always fit snug with the gore firmly against the chest (her breasts were hanging way down over her belly). 


One of CNA's came into Torrid and I helped her pick out a new bra. She didn't even understand band size was inches and the cups/band combo were based off Victorian shirt sizes.

She said, "how do you know so much?"

We found her proper fitting band size, then found a cup she fit (Measurements just bring you to a starting point).

How can people that make the vast majority of bra users know so little about them? Seems most cis women just use "try it on" only.