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Acceptance / Re: Other stuff, maybe due to estrogen, that we haven't discussed yet.

« Last post by Evolver on Yesterday at 11:27:34 PM »

My new question is:  Do any of you here take the personal grooming a bit further?

I also quoted and answered this a couple of months ago near the top of the previous page, but I've actually got more to add.

I think if I ever took the time to write down every single change in my grooming, presentation, clothing, mannerisms, emotions, the way I think etc. over the past two or three years, I would truly astound myself.

As far as grooming goes, in the past couple of months I have begun to trim my eyebrows just a little bit shorter again, but I need to pay a bit more ongoing attention to their uneven appearance in between times. I have also started to shave the back of my hands and fingers. Although I continue to use conditioner every day, I still get a bit of frizz, so a hack that my hairdresser told me is to smear a bit of moisturizer in your palms and rub it over your hair. It works! But now what I also do is make sure that I rub the excess all over my hands. More recently, while I'm at it, I also apply the moisturizer to my face! It actually does feel really nice too, and it's a part of my morning routine now, which seems to take longer and longer to complete!

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Acceptance Garments / Re: Finding clothes that fit.

« Last post by oldguy on Yesterday at 04:43:26 PM »

I am wearing a 40" band and still filling a C cup.  I don't expect I will reach a 38 band size, with 25 more lost lbs to get to ideal weight.

I have been spending 3 days in Physical Torture, each week for 5 weeks.  I have not worn any support.  I have not been conspicuous.  Just a curious glance, every so often. 

My main concern is how to disguise these boobs, during the approaching summer, when it's gets 90+ degrees.  Good thing is that I wear a life vest when water skiing.  Once the knee is healed, I'm there.

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Acceptance Garments / Re: Finding clothes that fit.

« Last post by Johndoe1 on April 14, 2024, 01:20:44 PM »

It seems like that's how it goes. Whenever I gained weight it went to my bottom and boobs. Then, when I lost weight, it came off of my bottom and my band size but not from my bra cups.

❤️Sophie❤️

Yep. That's me.

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Acceptance Garments / Re: Finding clothes that fit.

« Last post by Sophie on April 14, 2024, 09:22:11 AM »

It seems like that's how it goes. Whenever I gained weight it went to my bottom and boobs. Then, when I lost weight, it came off of my bottom and my band size but not from my bra cups.

❤️Sophie❤️

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Acceptance Garments / Re: Finding clothes that fit.

« Last post by Justagirl💃 on April 13, 2024, 03:14:45 PM »

I have some 48DDD's in my closet, but I thought I might fit into a 46DDD with recent weight loss. That would get me wearing 'off-the-shelf' at Torrid. 

I can't quite fit into the 46 band yet, and the 46DDD is too tight in the cups. 

Little bit more weight loss and I'll be a 46G 🤗

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Acceptance / Re: Illusions?

« Last post by Johndoe1 on April 13, 2024, 09:06:51 AM »

It's a different matter when the bra is actually needed for practical reasons.
This is probably the case for some of us.
I don't know at what bust size it is impossible to function without a bra.
In my case, with a size 40C (GB) the potential benefit is negligible in the face of the dilemmas of whether someone will see or not, what a friend or colleague will say, etc. etc.

The benefit of a bra is when you say it is. Size doesn't matter usually. It has more to do with self comfort and that could be physical, that could be mental. Personally, it got real for me when I started to jog. I had been feeling the need for support for a long time, but couldn't bring myself to do it. I had no idea I was as large as I was. I thought I was a large B or small C. My first official fitting had me at DD! Anyway, before that, I got a nasty rash in my IMF and that started the serious thought process of getting them off my chest, literally. In the mean time, I started an exercise program that included jogging. The physical pain from the bouncing was agonizing. It felt like my breasts were being ripped off my chest as they bounced up and down in time with my jogging. I had a talk with the doctor I was seeing for this exercise program. In my case, the doctor happen to be female. She examined my chest and said I had three options. Surgery, live with the pain or wear support and she said I should consider support in the short term if nothing else to avoid injury to my breasts when exercising if I was considering surgery. The rest, is history, as they say.

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Acceptance / Re: Other stuff, maybe due to estrogen, that we haven't discussed yet.

« Last post by Johndoe1 on April 13, 2024, 08:50:30 AM »

 I have trouble defining it sometimes, but I wouldn't change it for the world.

That's me too. There was a time I didn't like me very much. But times and circumstances have changed and due to some very awesome people in my life who have come to accept me for me, I have changed my self opinion and like what I am and wouldn't change a bit of it.

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Acceptance / Re: Illusions?

« Last post by Benusa2 on April 13, 2024, 08:47:50 AM »

Hi John,
I’m happy that you have a new found ally. I agree it sounds like she was trying to let you know that and coming from a place of love. She understands how long your journey has been. Sometimes it takes courage to be kind and it must have taken a bit of courage to bring up a sensitive topic in perhaps the only way she knew how. I hope it’s been healing for you. It sounds like she’s extending an invitation.
The same thing happened to me at that age and I can assure you I made every effort to make sure no photos survived. In recent years I’ve just submitted to the fact that I’m prone to development and that it’s lifelong.
I hope you’re doing well and having a good week. Wishing you the best in dealing with family on the subject.
-Ben

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Your Stories / Re: Back Home

« Last post by Evolver on April 13, 2024, 07:10:36 AM »

I'm late to the party here, but like others, I want to welcome you back and convey my best wishes, DWB.

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Acceptance / Re: Other stuff, maybe due to estrogen, that we haven't discussed yet.

« Last post by Evolver on April 13, 2024, 07:02:05 AM »

She didn't mean competition in the literal sense. She was a little surprised that my initial reaction was more like hers and not more traditional male. I don't think she was expecting that. I explained to her that I suspected that because of the amount of estrogen I have had in my system for the amount of time has allowed me to see life through feminine eyes as well as male eyes. While I consider myself a male, and always have, the estrogen has affected my body and my mind in certain ways. I then asked her how she saw me. She hesitated for a second and then answered, there are times she forgets I am a guy and hears girl because of something I say or something I do and she hoped that didn't offend me. I told her no offense taken. She said she felt safe around me, like with other women. I thanked her for her honesty. I don't know what she was expecting from me.

 I didn't ask to be this way. I have learned to accept what I can't change and be happy with what I have. I think she began to understand. I am a mutt!

Yes, I know, figuratively not literally, but the gist is the same.

Regarding "I then asked her how she saw me. She hesitated for a second and then answered, there are times she forgets I am a guy and hears girl because of something I say or something I do..." I have had two salient but contrasting examples of this that I can easily recall. The first was about 15 years ago on a different forum where most of the members were women. I fitted right in, especially in the lounge forum where there was plenty of friendly banter and chit-chat going on. But, there was one particularly snooty lady there who said in a condescending manner that I was acting like One Of The Girls. It was framed as a put-down and it hit the mark. I found her comment hurtful and it upset me for quite a while. All I was doing was naturally fitting in by being me, for God's sake! Fast forward about 12 years and on another forum which I often contribute to nowadays, a similar thing was said to me, but it was made in a warm, inclusive, complimentary way. The difference was amazing, and it actually set me on the path towards self-acceptance. ❤️

I am also happy with what I have in this context. I have trouble defining it sometimes, but I wouldn't change it for the world.