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General => Parents/Family/Friends => Topic started by: gayandproud on March 23, 2022, 09:28:08 AM

Title: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: gayandproud on March 23, 2022, 09:28:08 AM
I (25 year old male) recently saw my boyfriend (27 year old male) shirtless for the first time, and I think he has gynecomastia. It could be just that he's a heavy set guy, but still, they struck me as too big and too feminine-shaped to be just fat.

I don't mind them at all, if anything I think they look kind of cute. Only thing I'm wondering if is I should bring it up with him or not. He's a lot more masculine than I am (I like to joke that I'm the girlfriend in the relationship), so I'm not sure he'd take it well if I told him that I think he has breasts. I have female friends who work in clothing stores, who I'm sure they would be happy to get him sized and fitted for a bra if he wanted one. Only issue is that I fear he won't want to and wouldn't take it well if I bring it up.

Should I talk to him about it, and if yes, how should I talk about it with him?
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: blad on March 23, 2022, 11:37:38 AM
Probably hard to bring up if it is early in the relationship.

There may be a natural lead in at some point. 

But it is more a question of how he feels and his comfort.
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: SideSet on March 23, 2022, 05:47:06 PM
Be cautious with what you say, but look for opportunities to subtly know you feel positive about his chest and him. 
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: gayandproud on March 27, 2022, 09:17:16 AM
Thanks for the advice fellas!
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: aboywithgirls on March 27, 2022, 09:31:43 AM
Justa side note. I mentioned in another post. I was a straight male who had gynecomastia and was also a crossdresser who wore women's tops and slacks for years as well as bra and panties every day because the fit and feel were better than anything in the men's department. Now, I'm just a gay woman who no longer crossdresses and my gynecomastia is cured with no surgery. 

Labels are overrated.🤗

your sis,
Sophie❤
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: Busty on March 27, 2022, 10:46:20 AM
If your actions show you find his breasts attractive, then it will be easier when you talk with him about his breasts and him needing to start wearing a bra to look and feel better and that you would find him attractive in a bra.
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: SideSet on March 27, 2022, 12:52:39 PM
 Please keep us informed about how it is going and any way we can further help 
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: gayandproud on March 28, 2022, 08:56:56 AM
Yeah, I'll make sure to keep you guys updated.
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: gayandproud on April 17, 2022, 11:03:04 AM
All this time, and I still haven't brought it up to him yet.

The biggest thing in my way is that I'm worried that he already has insecurities (the gay community can be brutal to fat guys), and I'm terrified that I'll just end up making things worse no matter how gently I break it to him.
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 17, 2022, 12:44:57 PM
Maybe you could start with a little "affection" towards them and se how he responds?

Sophie
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: gayandproud on April 17, 2022, 03:01:41 PM
Ooh, good idea. Might try to draw attention to them next time we're rolling around. That way he'll know that they're not a turn-off for me.
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: Evolver on April 21, 2022, 07:58:41 AM
Ooh, good idea. Might try to draw attention to them next time we're rolling around. That way he'll know that they're not a turn-off for me.
Yes. It's all about communication, whether verbal or otherwise.

Good luck.
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: SideSet on April 21, 2022, 08:24:21 AM
Yes, just play with them like a woman enjoys having her breasts and nipples played  with 
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: gayandproud on April 25, 2022, 08:38:27 AM
Success! After getting some action on Sunday (where I made sure to play with his breasts a little), we talked, and he's tentatively agreed to have a friend of mine (a woman) who works at Dillard get him a bra.
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: SideSet on April 25, 2022, 10:02:15 AM
That is great.  She should give him a bra fitting 
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: blad on April 26, 2022, 04:11:29 AM
Given the experience of most here, once he tries a bra there will be no turning back.
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: gotgyne on May 10, 2022, 08:57:57 AM
Success! After getting some action on Sunday (where I made sure to play with his breasts a little), we talked, and he's tentatively agreed to have a friend of mine (a woman) who works at Dillard get him a bra.
Did the fitting happen already? If yes, is your friend convinced meanwhile that wearing a bra is useful or even good for him?
Title: Re: I think my boyfriend has gynecomastia: how should I talk to him about it?
Post by: MychalBloodwing on May 21, 2022, 02:51:03 PM
Success! After getting some action on Sunday (where I made sure to play with his breasts a little), we talked, and he's tentatively agreed to have a friend of mine (a woman) who works at Dillard get him a bra.
Great idea! I can attest to the fact that Dillards gives great bra fittings! I had one done six months ago and the ladies were running bras back and forth to my fitting room for an hour, having me trying on at least a dozen before settling on a Wacoal Retro Chic lace bra.
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