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Offline dhard004

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I would like them removed but have grown attached to them? 

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Then you do what's best for you!

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Offline dhard004

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Thanks, I been on the fence for a long time. I get so much grief nearly everytime I take my shirt off anywhere but in my home. 
I have been threated having the police called, Yesterday I took a simple EKG that turned into a calamity, mothers take their children out of the pool when I am there. I still wonder if I have a problem or is it society? 

Offline HairyKnockers

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Dhard004, actually mine have grown attached to me.  My breasts are only a little smaller, my areolas are darker, my nipples stand up taller and my chest a fair bit hairier.  Otherwise I have about the same mess going on as you.  Of course as size goes, well Hammer has us both beat!  But the same thing goes for all of us; it is a situation of mind over matter, if you don’t mind it doesn’t matter.

I don’t see how an EKG could be a problem, if a little gynecomastia bothers someone in a medical office they are in the wrong profession.  My doctor has me have an EKG every 5 years or so and the same nurse does them every time.  See never comments on my breasts but she always says, “You know what we have to do,” as she pulls the razor out of the drawer.  The first time she did it she told her husband hates to get an EKG because he is a really hairy guy too and goes out looking like a checkerboard.  That is about the only thing she has commented on other than my EKG looked very good.  So maybe they just don’t like hairy guys where they did your EKG.

If having breasts or having a bunch of body hair, my wife threatens to braid my back hair, is a bad thing then a whole bunch of us are in real trouble.  Not everyone looks like an anorexic wafe with a perfectly toned body.  Most men, depending upon their ancestry, have varying amounts of body hair.  No matter what Hollywood or Madison Avenue tries to portray we are not all hairless Adonis.  If someone has a problem with your body, they have the problem not you.

Someday I will tell the story about the neighbor who saw me with my shirt off when I was fixing the filter on our swimming pool.  Often times people’s reactions are not what we think.

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I know I've said it before, but I had all that hair too until I lost my testicles, and it was the lost of those testicles that "blessed" me with those darn knockers! But I got to tell you guys I've NEVER had anyone say anything to me about them! I have a lot of medical crap going on and as hairyknockers said, anyone in the medical field shouldn't have a problem with it!

I will in a joking way give a warming before I take my shirt off with a new intern but as I said I have never had comments, however I will get plenty of questions once I take my shirt off! New interns always want to know how I ended up with such big breast, and ultimately the lost of the testicles.

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Thanks, I been on the fence for a long time. I get so much grief nearly everytime I take my shirt off anywhere but in my home.
I have been threated having the police called, Yesterday I took a simple EKG that turned into a calamity, mothers take their children out of the pool when I am there. I still wonder if I have a problem or is it society?

I'm curious.  I worked as a group health consultant for decades.  I've never had a situation where EKG turned into calmity (for some we were the calimity or untangling the patients problems, except for a doctor who billed for many timesthe EKGs  that he could actually have done at a nursing home..  That's fraud.  The doc had a calmity.  How did yours happen?

I've had a woman threates me with "I ought to call the police the way you "display" yourself to children except it wouldn't  do any good.". I was swimming, standing in the water on  a hot daytalking with people. I had a female friend reported and banned from a county pool becasue of exposed breasts in the woman's locker room.  She called the county managementr and they were appalled, corrected the 19 year old and gave her more instruction, that being nude and showering and so on is perfectly normal in a locker room.  That all had to be a good 10 years or so ago.

Offline dhard004

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Yes, i probably should explain my comments better. With prolific heart issues, i have had more test done than the average guy. So a simple EKG should not take 25 minutes more or less. I was in no position to watch the clock. I must admit part of the problem was the technicians' reaction when I lifted my heavy sweater. Things seem to go downhill after that. Second I being very hairy knew one really needs to shave the spots where the stick on electrodes is placed, which she did not do. So she was not getting a good or stable reading. Repeatedly she was pushing on the patches and finally, I asked if there was something wrong? I was snapped at told to be quiet is she could get the test done. I must not move and be quiet. you know the standard bla bla bla. Ok, she just having a bad day thing I understand it. The overall reaction of the technician and her apparent discuss of my male breast was so obvious that it knocked her off her game. (so to speak). I use to be embarrassed in this situation but over time I have let that all pass for me. After the test was complete then the fun part was removing all the patches. Well, i have a high tolerance for pain and the 6 or 8 patches only removed 65 % of the hair it covered. She explains it doesn't hurt that bad this pacthed dont remove that much hair, then she looks in her hand full of removed patches all covered with my chest and stomach hair. Basically, it was the sad ending to a not so comfortable experience for the technician. I, on the other hand, I have gotten used to being completely discarded for my opinion, my respect, and dignity. The technician quickly slammed the stuff down and left the room in a huff. I was trying to comprehend just what was going on and what when wrong? I walked out of the room turned the wrong direction and wander aimlessly out of the hospital. So my use of the word calamity is about all I could think off for this occasion. 

I wish I was making this up, but I am not. Another time I was the local ER with angina. Test where done and I was not having a heart attack and in comes the ER Dr and starts to do a breast exam. More like, these must be inplants and wanted to see if the would be flatted under intense pressure.  My wife finally spoke up and ask the DR what was he doing. So he stopped. I, on the other hand, I was bewildered. I later expressed my bewilderment to my GP. which he lessens to my story intensely and when I was finished he quickly left the room. When Dr came back he apologized and said that it would never have that problem again. As I late found out the ER Dr was fired. 
So am I gun shy or better said gyno sensitive. I say NO not for me, but for the reactions and treatment, I get from others. When and if it becomes detrimental to my health I feel I need to speak up.
 Forums, therapy, consoling, education programs all go for not to a patient that lives in a world so rude and uneducated. "It was not my wishes for gynecomastia"  I, after nearly 24 years dealing with it don't tell me I don't know what is reality. If I said or did anything to provoke any situation of my bear chested ness it would be different. I have come to believe my mere existence is publicly offenses. 
But that ok "I am dealing with my problems I don't want to deal with yours".

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It has been a good number of years since this case came to my attention here but a mother fighting for her son related a story of how her son had been rejected for Breast reduction surgery because it was purely cosmetic.  The Mother argued that her son suffered severe psychological problems as a result of the Gynecomastia and they were seeking the only treatment known to be successful at  getting rid of the source of his psychological distress.   She won and the lad had his surgery. 
I am not a psychologist nor am I a specialist in any healing art, but you posts certainly indicate depression to me.
I  do not know what is the right thing for you to do, but clearly doing nothing does not work for you.  
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I'm sorry. Sorry to have expressed myself and real issues. If my experience and how it played out is presented as depression. I have not communicated in writing as well as I should have. 
« Last Edit: December 26, 2017, 10:34:33 AM by dhard004 »

Offline igotum

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   Just chill when you go to the Dr or whatever you are doing. No one really gives a flip what you look like with your clothes off.  I don't give it a thought unless someone asks. I hope you find peace with the gyne as I have.


 https://www.gynecomastia.org/smf/4/picture-of-my-gyne/msg192232/#msg192232  


Offline dhard004

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Thank you igtum.

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It appears that gynecomastia is looked upon in many many different lights. All depending on where you stand.
Vanity can become such complex human condition. Intertwined with narcotics tendencies. A teeter toter of emotion between, "I want to fit in" or "the hell with you", what your problem. 

GOODBYE.....

 

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