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Title: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on March 27, 2022, 05:17:53 PM
Hi,
Today, I’m wearing a bra for the first time. A lot of things led me to this point. I had gyno surgery 15+ years ago and was left very flat. My hormones have recently got out of control due to having to stop an estrogen blocker a year ago. The past couple months I’ve experienced a lot of growth. I really don’t want another surgery and refuse to ever go back to a compression shirt. Ive decided I’m ok with some growth - not too much tho. They’ve felt full and heavy and I’ve had feelings of tingling to throbbing. Ive both enjoyed the growth and been horrified by it at times. I’ve felt better in tight tanks lately and like a snug fit. I’ve had a little jiggle and chaffing in some activities. After reading all kinds of posts on here, I just wanted to try a bra for around home.
I got my bra today and at first I was disappointed. It looked much too big. It’s a 34B. It has an underwire. I was thinking I should have ordered an A. Once I got it on, I was amazed at how good it felt and how it eliminated my side boobs. I can’t believe I completely filled the cups! No empty space. I don’t jiggle any more either. I’m going to wear this when at home. I could probably conceal it with certain clothing but I won’t be that bold yet. I’m hoping it will give my nips a rest and that it will help me keep tabs on when growth might become too much. I’ll try to attach photos.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Johndoe1 on March 27, 2022, 05:36:45 PM
Congratulations on taking this step of experimentation to see if a bra is something that can help you be more comfortable and confident. It looks like that a 34B is your size and the bra being plunge style works for your breasts. I see no quad boob or trying to fall out of the cups. Your breasts look very supported, secure and contained. I hope your chest is feeling more comfortable.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on March 27, 2022, 07:09:32 PM
Thanks JohnDoe1,
It’s actually a 34B. I think it will take some getting used to but it feels supportive and snug.
-Ben
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Johndoe1 on March 27, 2022, 09:35:40 PM
Snug is good. You want the band to be as snug as is comfortable since the band produces 80 to 90% of support. More snug, more support. The straps shouldn't be carrying much if any load. It's basically to keep the cups from wrinkling and lifting the breasts. You want them snug enough to keep the straps from falling off the shoulders.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on March 28, 2022, 12:47:53 AM
Photo
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Evolver on March 28, 2022, 06:56:01 AM
^ Congratulations for finding a solution that works for you. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on March 28, 2022, 08:14:16 AM
That bra looks great on you. You certainly do fill the cups of your bra!  How does it feel to know you are a full B cup, which is a common breast with many women?

At your bra size, you will have a wide selection of bras to choose from as you build the bra collection you are going to need. Now that you have started wearing a bra, you won’t want to stop.  
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Orb on March 28, 2022, 12:32:34 PM
Looks great!  I hope you become more comfortable and confident as you continue to wear and then build up your wardrobe.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on March 28, 2022, 01:29:09 PM
Thanks guys. As far as fit, it eliminates side boobs but accentuates them - or makes them just look bigger than they are- which is fine because I’m only wearing it around home and it’s really comfortable. I didn’t realize how big they really were though. I plan to only have two bras for home use. I’m looking forward to getting home tonight and getting it on. Having pains in the left one today. I’m glad I tried it after reading all the posts.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on March 28, 2022, 04:19:28 PM
According to this chart, you are the average bra cup size of women in many countries :)
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on March 28, 2022, 04:23:23 PM
Very interesting.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on March 28, 2022, 04:37:07 PM
Ben, after you get over the surprise of finding out your breasts fill the cups of your bra and that you are a B cup like so many woman, there comes the feeling of pride that you are that big and how good you look in a bra.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on March 28, 2022, 09:11:59 PM
Since surgery left me very flat, I didn’t even imagine that they could get big again. It feels like I have glandular tissue now. I am a bit in shock and I wish I knew what to expect in terms of continued growth.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Puna on March 29, 2022, 02:11:55 AM
For me I used to wear it only at home, then I got jealous seeing women walking around with there bras and thought it shouldn’t only be for women. And woman that knows a I wear a bra also agree that bras shouldn’t be just for women. Some will agree that they seen men that could really use a bra.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: MarcoB on March 29, 2022, 04:57:32 PM
For me I used to wear it only at home, then I got jealous seeing women walking around with [their] bras
It's tiring to have to hide it.  I wish I could just go out in a cool tank-top T-shirt and whatever bra best remedies the discomforts, without anyone particularly caring or noticing that an outline—or, gasp, my straps—were showing.  This used to be considered indecent even for women, but now no one cares.  Yeah, we get a bit jealous.  It would be nice to be able to just dress comfortably and forget about it and get on with life.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: blad on March 29, 2022, 08:57:54 PM
For me I used to wear it only at home, then I got jealous seeing women walking around with [their] bras
It's tiring to have to hide it.  I wish I could just go out in a cool tank-top T-shirt and whatever bra best remedies the discomforts, without anyone particularly caring or noticing that an outline—or, gasp, my straps—were showing.  This used to be considered indecent even for women, but now no one cares.  Yeah, we get a bit jealous.  It would be nice to be able to just dress comfortably and forget about it and get on with life.
In an ideal world, it would not matter if our bra outline was visible.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on March 29, 2022, 09:51:44 PM
This is my third evening wearing a bra. I just think it’s very comfortable. Way better than a compression shirt. It does make me have obvious bumps in front.
Going braless at work is less noticeable but I’m becoming increasingly conscious of their shape and size. No plans to wear publicly at this time but I really like it. It’s greatly helped my posture.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on March 30, 2022, 05:40:57 AM
This is my third evening wearing a bra. I just think it’s very comfortable. Way better than a compression shirt. It does make me have obvious bumps in front.
Going braless at work is less noticeable but I’m becoming increasingly conscious of their shape and size. No plans to wear publicly at this time but I really like it. It’s greatly helped my posture.
I was 12 when I had my first "bra talk" with my mother and I started wearing a bra around the house. I also knew that it was comfortable and helped with the typical growing pains in my boobs. I was 16 when I had the second "bra talk" and she asked me to start wearing one all the time. I've been wearing full-time ever since. Bras work. Half of the world wakes up and puts their bra on every day because they have boobs. We just happen to be in that half. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on March 30, 2022, 08:18:34 PM
Did your mom initiate the talk? I can’t imagine what that must have been like. We’re you just starting to get them at 12? I’m glad you are comfortable and confident.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on March 30, 2022, 08:45:13 PM
That's really what happened. I had breasts that were bigger then even most 12 year old girls. They were supposed to go away so nobody would do surgery. She tried her best to make me comfortable. I still appreciate it and know that she did the best she could.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 01, 2022, 09:37:11 PM
It sounds like she was trying to help you. I’m glad you had some kind of support at that difficult time. It sounds like you have come out well on the other side of that. Thanks for sharing. I enjoy your posts.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 01, 2022, 09:51:40 PM
One question about bra fit that I just decided to post to the group. Yesterday I got home and put it on and the fit was more loose. I questioned whether it had stretched or even if I was actually a B cup. Tonight I put it on and it fits very tight. Does anyone else have extreme fluctuations in fit? I’m wondering if this is the norm or if I just have fluid retention or something?
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Johndoe1 on April 02, 2022, 05:44:20 AM
One question about bra fit that I just decided to post to the group. Yesterday I got home and put it on and the fit was more loose. I questioned whether it had stretched or even if I was actually a B cup. Tonight I put it on and it fits very tight. Does anyone else have extreme fluctuations in fit? I’m wondering if this is the norm or if I just have fluid retention or something?
Probably has to do with water retention.

It's also not a good idea to wear the same bra everyday. It is recommended to give at least a 24 hour to 48 hour period for the elastane in the bra time to naturally relax or you will stretch out your bra. That is why it is recommended a bra rotation of a minimum of three bras for three day rotation. The normal wear should be around 100 wears is considered normal life for a bra. Obviously size and weight of the bust will effect that number along with care and cleaning of the bra. About 4 wearings is considered a normal pattern before hand washing or gently machine washing in a lingerie bag then hang dry by the gore, not dryer, it will break the wires and no one wants their wires poking them.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 02, 2022, 07:06:21 AM
I've been wearing a bra for most of my life and I do the same as John. I get about 3-4 wears out of my bra before I hand wash them. The exception is my sports bras. I actually take them into the shower with me and wash them with Olay body wash. I have a suction cup hook in the shower where I hang my sports bras to dry. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 02, 2022, 08:07:01 AM
Why do you wash sports bras in shower? Do they have a wire too?
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 02, 2022, 09:01:37 AM
Hi Ben 👋,

I wash my sports bra I  the shower out of pure convenience. Of course they get sweaty and can get stinky even after a single wear. So when I take my shower after my palates class, I wash my bra by hand and let it dry there too. It's clean and ready to go for another workout. 

My sports bras are underwire. I wear the Elomi Energize encapsulating sports bra. It has the best support of any sports bra that I've ever worn. I wear a 36H UK sizing. So, I need all the support that I can get.

Everyone has different things that they look for in a sports bra. I have found that an encapsulating underwire sports bra checks all the boxes for me. It gives me support, shape, and breast and self comfort. It helped me extend and intensify my workouts because my boobs were comfortable and they look good too 🥰

your sis,
😍🤗❤️🥰💋❣️
Sophie
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 03, 2022, 07:57:53 AM
I ordered another underwire bra so I can rotate them. I also ordered two wireless sports bras for yard work. I don’t plan to wear a bra in public but have really enjoyed one around home since I got my first one a week ago. I never intended to have more than two but I’m still experimenting.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Orb on April 03, 2022, 05:35:16 PM
Once you see the need and appreciate the comfort you'll find styles that help assist in those areas. 
Personally, I never thought I would have acquired the variety I now have either.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 03, 2022, 11:26:31 PM
I’m looking forward to trying a couple different ones. I thought after wearing one at home for a week I might get tired of it but I’m still wearing it every evening.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on April 04, 2022, 07:58:45 AM
Once you have seen how fully your breasts fill the cups of your bra, how comfortable it feels having your breasts contained in a bra and how good you look in a bra, there is no turning back. You have already realized you need to wear a bra as much as any woman does. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: blad on April 04, 2022, 11:21:46 AM
Once you have seen how fully your breasts fill the cups of your bra, how comfortable it feels having your breasts contained in a bra and how good you look in a bra, there is no turning back. You have already realized you need to wear a bra as much as any woman does.
I definitely agree.

It was an instant turning point for me a long time ago when I tried on a bra for the first time. Prior to trying a bra, I hated my breast growth and was embarrassed. But once I tried a bra and saw how well I filled it out and saw how my breasts looked held in the cups I was instantly more accepting and appreciated how it felt to wear a bra. The embarrassment in public about my breasts still required time to sort out in my mind, but it was a big first step.

But I knew from that point that I was likely going to need to wear a bra for the rest of my life to look and feel my best. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Orb on April 04, 2022, 01:22:55 PM
Blad your so right.  For me it was the same.  I now enjoy being held in place with a nice fitting, nice looking bra.  I like most here will say filling it out continues to shock me however inside I'm thinking WOW.  Finding acceptance with myself has allowed me to wear nicer looking bras.  It's hard to hide the high beam look with a thinner style but feel most of the time it's acceptable as you see many men having the same issue.  I just need a bit more coverage than most to make me look the same.  There are days, like today, that while wearing, nipple chafing is down as I'm discreetly scratching away.  The itching is driving me crazy.  
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 04, 2022, 08:14:55 PM
Hi guys,
I really thought that I would get tired of wearing a bra but I’ve came home and put it on every day for the past week. I love how it eliminates the side boob and how it feels when it lifts and cups them. I like it so much I ordered a few more bras to try. Im still not over the shock of how big the bra makes them look or how well they fill it. It’s just for home tho. Despite insistence on here, I don’t intend to wear one away from home. I don’t think I will buy any more bras for now either. I should get the ones I ordered this week. Looking forward to trying them. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 05, 2022, 06:18:22 AM
Hi Ben,

I'm really happy that you have discovered the comfort that a well fitted bra can provide. I was much younger than most here when I started wearing one however, I do still remember how much better I felt and secretly, how much I liked how I looked. For almost 20 years I had worn a bra every day and thought that wearing the right layers, nobody noticed. It turned out that it was the worst kept secret in the world! It also turned out that it didn't matter. No one cared. The ladies I worked with all knew. They weren't wondering why I was wearing a bra, that part was obvious to them. They were wondering WHAT I was wearing for a bra! Women notice these things. Now, no single bra style will work for everyone, if your chest looks good as a result of the bra your wearing, someone else will want their's looking as good and want to know how you achieved the look and shape. 

Women talk and they do talk about their breasts and bras. They say what they like and don't like. They talk about where they shop and they even shop together. I quickly became aware of this after I was wearing a bra openly. My "monsters under bed" all disappeared as soon as I "turned on the light". I discovered that a was being afraid of nothing. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 08, 2022, 06:32:06 PM
Update…
I ordered a couple more bras. The sports bra flattens things a bit but doesn’t have the support of the underwire. The new underwire bra has larger cups and they sort of make a dent since I don’t fill them. Overall they’re not as comfy as my first one but I will give them a try.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on April 09, 2022, 05:13:49 AM
Those bras look good on you, especially the underwire 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Johndoe1 on April 09, 2022, 05:31:38 AM
Compression sports bras do flatten you. They use compression to support and that means they will squish your breasts where underwire or structured cups will provide a pocket or encapsulate the breasts to hold and support your breasts. Different technology to do the same thing. And the name of the game in sports bras is maximum support to keep the breasts immobile for high levels of activity.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Passant on April 09, 2022, 06:51:31 AM
I like wire bras. I also had a void on one bra. Over time, that gap filled. Also, the bra must be comfortable and always wear such a bra.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 09, 2022, 08:06:38 AM
Thanks guys. I don’t know yet if I will like the sports bra. It will take getting used to. I like a snug fit but it feels more like the compression shirt I used to wear. It could hide them if I wanted to wear it publicly. Makes me look flat under a shirt.  I didn’t really give the new underwire a chance since I thought it was too big. I may return it and get another like my first. I really thought I was a 34B since the last one fit so well but maybe not.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on April 09, 2022, 11:53:45 AM
Yeah a sports bra is definitely an adjustment to the comfort of a underwire. I tend to go for more comfy pullover bras than sports bras for the tank top and secure feel of a sports bra without the strangulating my midsection feel lol. Avia makes great comfortable pullovers and I really enjoy no boundary pullover brand and their bralettes for the not crazy support giving but nice feel and lessened projection 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 09, 2022, 01:59:21 PM
Update…
Adjusted the bra with the underwire and it fits much tighter now. I’m going to keep and wear it.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on April 09, 2022, 07:30:22 PM
Wow, your breasts look so big
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 09, 2022, 07:40:22 PM
They look a lot bigger in the underwire bras than they are. Not exactly great for concealment but very comfortable 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on April 10, 2022, 05:32:27 AM
You clearly belong in a bra as much as a woman does. It does feel nice to have everything in your bra cups, contained and lifted, doesn’t it?  How does it feel seeing your bust to look so big and shapely?  To see the cups of your bra completely filled by your breasts?
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on April 10, 2022, 08:22:31 AM
Your breasts definitely look pretty full there. When you said it was growing back it looks like it came back with a vengeance. 

I’m in agreement with wearing a bra and seeing that you fill it and it becoming a no turning back. I wear a bra most days and some I don’t just depends if I feel like it. When I don’t feel like it I usually regret it as I feel the tug. But looking down and seeing your own chest in a bra and filling it is pretty hard to adjust to at first. For me at least it was but eventually it became normal to me and hopefully for you too. Just glad you got those around you on board it seems. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 10, 2022, 09:04:13 AM
Ben,

First, that bra looks like a great fit! I'm happy that you're happy with it.

Over the years I noticed that there seem to be two aspects of wearing a bra that cannot coexist. They are comfort and concealment. 

When your breasts are concealed, it's because they are compressed is a gynecomastia vest or compression style sports bra , either of them will squash your boobs and become uncomfortable for the wearer.

To achieve comfort, a bra literally " cup" your boobs. A bra, particularly an underwire bra provides support, it shifts any side boob you have in front and out from your arm pits where they get in the way. A bra also lifts your breasts and prevents unwanted sweat and a potential rash that can and likely will occur.

I absolutely applaud 👏 you for wearing a bra that works for you. While compression works, In my opinion, comfort ad support win every time.

🤗🥰❣️😍🥰
Sophie
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on April 10, 2022, 09:33:19 AM
I would advocate a cami bra or general pullover bra does provide comfort and support without smashing and gives concealment with soft cups and keeps side boob up front for nice shape without projection of a underwire. I find the cami and pullover bras I wear give me great support and comfort without any smashing and decent concealing. 
Now if smashing and being flat as can be is the objective then yeah but if blending in without the risk of projecting much at all like other bras may then I think there are bras that will do the job very well without being uncomfortable at all. But I’m a large b cup not crazy busty so mass may determine what works and what no lingers an option. But definitely agree comfort wins every time. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Orb on April 10, 2022, 11:27:29 AM
Ben,

First, that bra looks like a great fit! I'm happy that you're happy with it.

Over the years I noticed that there seem to be two aspects of wearing a bra that cannot coexist. They are comfort and concealment.

When your breasts are concealed, it's because they are compressed is a gynecomastia vest or compression style sports bra , either of them will squash your boobs and become uncomfortable for the wearer.

To achieve comfort, a bra literally " cup" your boobs. A bra, particularly an underwire bra provides support, it shifts any side boob you have in front and out from your arm pits where they get in the way. A bra also lifts your breasts and prevents unwanted sweat and a potential rash that can and likely will occur.

I absolutely applaud 👏 you for wearing a bra that works for you. While compression works, In my opinion, comfort ad support win every time.

🤗🥰❣️😍🥰
Sophie
  So true.  Never actually thought about it that way but found you can't have it both ways.  I actually like and enjoy the comfort, fit  and support of my underwires however it does give a much different profile.  
  I can see the fit is good with that one your wearing.  There are times even I sacrifice a bit of comfort and wear one that is a soft cup to reduce the definition of each breast if you will. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 10, 2022, 03:08:42 PM
I've posted this bra before. It's any Elomi Matilda. It's an underwire with just a thin lace mesh cup. Everyone is different and everyone has different looks that they are trying to achieve. There is no one right answer for what bra to wear. I went through a phase in my 20s where I wore minimizer bras with a compression tops over it. Finally, I decided that wasn't comfortable. I started looking and seeing what the ladies in the office were wearing. They would were just a regular bra with a cami or just a well fitted bra with a blouse or sweater. I did the same. 

I discovered women already have all of this figured out. Sports bras, t shirt bras, unlined bras, leisure / sleep bras, underwire or soft cup. There are so many different bras for different occasions. All tolled, I have about 20 bras. It May sound like a lot but the truth is that I really need a couple more. I have 5 sports bras in different colors, 5 leisure/sleep bras, 1 strapless, 2 minimizer bras so I can button a couple of blouses, 5 everyday underwire bras, and a couple for special occasions.

The Matilda pictured is an everyday, full coverage bra. I also have her in black and another in sand.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 10, 2022, 09:48:44 PM
Thanks for the advice everyone. I didn’t really know what I was getting. I thought the sports bra was soft cloth and wireless and would be just comfortable for lounging around the house. It really wasn’t. This new underwire bra is extremely comfortable though. I’m wearing it now after having scar pain and soreness today. It’s ok if it makes them look huge. Just wearing it around home.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: p.r.1974 on April 11, 2022, 03:02:20 PM
They do make encapsulated sports bras with underwires, and the pull over sports bras, and a few in between. I am with Sophie, in choosing underwires all but exclusively.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 12, 2022, 05:39:26 AM
They do make encapsulated sports bras with underwires, and the pull over sports bras, and a few in between. I am with Sophie, in choosing underwires all but exclusively.
I love Elomi's Energize sports bras. It's really the only sports bra I wear. There are others that I have liked over the years, however Elomi's Energize did change my life.

https://www.barenecessities.com/product.aspx?pfid=ElomiEL8042&cm_mmc=GLPA_NonBrand-_-Bra-_-Elomi320-_-ElomiEL8042&BillboardPopupEnabled=false&BorderfreeEnabled=False&color=Navy%20Geo&amsk=w9a4hfr3k4&cmp=p1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwxtSSBhDYARIsAEn0thQQ7fJLwJDOO0Xwcj5-KzYQI9ndgncwXk90jRrAxDdx9DwWu1rxtrMaAvA1EALw_wcB#mz-expanded-view-148421960458

I have a few of them including one identical to this one pictured above. I have never had so much control over my chest since puberty! I can go for a 5 mile run and still have a comfortable chest when Im done. It is an underwire encapsulated  sports bra.

I know that many here probably do not go shirtless in public but, when bra wearing for men becomes more main stream, Sports bras with cute patterns are a great option to stay cool in the summer ☀️.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 14, 2022, 07:37:11 AM
Thanks everyone. I’ve been wearing a bra at home for over 2 weeks now. I like the support and prefer the underwires. I don’t plan on buying any more right now. I will probably never wear the sports bra.
I’m trying to find an old photo that shows what I looked like before surgery. I’ll post if I find it.
I’ve had a lot of sensations I normally don’t have such as my nipples feeling very heavy at times. Haven’t noticed any changes in size in past few weeks.
That’s about all the updates. I’ve been reading a lot of posts on the forum. I appreciate all the advice I’ve received.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on April 14, 2022, 10:51:54 AM
Nipple heaviness is interesting. Is this sensation when wearing a bra? Curious if it’s related to breast being lifted and sitting in a bra so weight while supported is lifted and gravity trying to do its thing but unable. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 14, 2022, 10:58:02 AM
No just seated braless. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on April 14, 2022, 04:37:26 PM
This is not easy.  You are doing great, though. We know from experience 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Orb on April 14, 2022, 04:48:44 PM
Breast growth has been described many ways.  I feel everyone will have their own description of the growing of tissue.
Itching, aching, heavy feeling, the nipple may feel like at time to have a string being pulled through it.  I have woken up scratching like a mad person. 
  Watch for any visual signs of something wrong.  Then evaluate in a month.  Take note of further discomfort, note ways and things that helped.  visual signs of enlargement?  I could be just that. 

  Again I'm only one here but have found many of the afore mentioned symptoms  come and go. 

Hope this helps.

Best and cheers mate
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Puna on April 19, 2022, 01:47:37 AM
It will take time to learn the in’s n outs of the world of bras, but you’ll eventually figure it out. I would experiment with different sizes and try it out for few hours. Also try using extender’s, with extender’s you have a lot more a choices of how tight you want the band. Also it might be surprise, but try playing with the cup size as well. For the longest time I thought I was a b cup, but I ordered a c by accident. It turned out to be way more comfortable. Larger cups has wider wires, so it spreads across my chest and the sides is right by my arm pit. Which is from what I’ve researched, that’s how the bra should be sitting. 

As for going out in public, it’s not easy. Just continue doing what you’re doing. As time goes on, you’re gonna notice when your in public, you’ll gonna to notice the uncomfortableness and start considering wearing outside. You’ll be surprised that nobody notices a lightly padded t- shirt bra under a single layer shirt. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 19, 2022, 07:44:17 AM
Thanks guys. I appreciate your posts. Last night I actually went out wearing a bra. I only went to the laundromat and it was covered by a tshirt and denim jacket so no one could see. I just didn’t want to take it off to go out.
I’m ready for the growth to stop. Still having lots of sensations. I’m glad I tried on a bra though. I like how it feels. I finally stretched out the sports bra I didn’t like and it’s not as bad. That’s about all the updates. I may try different cup sizes later but I’m not buying any more right now.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 19, 2022, 07:52:56 AM
Here’s a pic without the bra.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Orb on April 19, 2022, 10:31:24 AM
I'm glad to hear you went out wearing.  Confidence comes in small steps and at various stages.  I think most would agree the greater the need for, and the more worn, a greater level of confidence is achieved.  Go at your pace.  If the growth continues and a greater need for wearing for comfort is noticed, I feel self confidence will be gained also.  For me it was, I'm doing this for me and if others don't understand, that's their problem.  
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Johndoe1 on April 19, 2022, 01:25:35 PM
Congratulations on seeing a need to take the next step. At this point size doesn't really matter. It's how you deal with the size you have. Go at your own pace, whatever that is.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: curiousk on April 19, 2022, 08:24:58 PM
Johndoe,  I agree wholeheartedly.  I think sometimes us guys make too big a deal about the bra size and not enough about comfort.  That’s the reason why I’m not interested in disclosing my bra size because it’s not important.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Johndoe1 on April 20, 2022, 07:24:20 AM
Johndoe,  I agree wholeheartedly.  I think sometimes us guys make too big a deal about the bra size and not enough about comfort.  That’s the reason why I’m interested in disclosing my bra size because it’s not important.
And that is said to be one of the main reasons women wear the wrong size bra. They get hung up on the letter and not the fit, support and comfort. If I had a choice, I would have not chosen to have breasts. I have them, 38DD/DDD in size, so how do I deal with them? I can't hide them anymore than a woman can. So I deal with them the same way women do to be as comfortable as I can with two projections hanging off my chest. That means garments that are considered traditionally as women's. It works for them, why should I deny myself the comfort and confidence a bra can bring me? Because it's for girls only? 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 20, 2022, 09:36:51 AM
Johndoe,  I agree wholeheartedly.  I think sometimes us guys make too big a deal about the bra size and not enough about comfort.  That’s the reason why I’m interested in disclosing my bra size because it’s not important.
And that is said to be one of the main reasons women wear the wrong size bra. They get hung up on the letter and not the fit, support and comfort. If I had a choice, I would have not chosen to have breasts. I have them, 38DD/DDD in size, so how do I deal with them? I can't hide them anymore than a woman can. So I deal with them the same way women do to be as comfortable as I can with two projections hanging off my chest. That means garments that are considered traditionally as women's. It works for them, why should I deny myself the comfort and confidence a bra can bring me? Because it's for girls only?
John, You are correct, again!

Women do not have an exclusive license to purchase or wear a bra! I wore a bra every day for 30 years before I transitioned to womanhood. I was fitted, purchased and wore a bra because it helped me.

I did start wearing a bra at a relatively young age for a boy. I was 12. I have gone through several growth spurts along the way. I knew when it was time to go bra shopping. Sometimes however, I found that I wasn't mentally prepared for the cup size I wore walking into the boutique verses the cup size I wore walking out. There's a boutique in particular that I have shopped at for years called Zoe and Company. I had a fitter tell me years ago " it's not the size that's important, it's all about the fit". I totally get it now. 

Your sis,
Sophie
👩‍🦰🥰❤️😍💋👭
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 20, 2022, 10:34:25 PM
I’m glad I know my bra size. It was actually a shock to me to be 34B. Initially I wasn’t even sure I would fill an A cup because the measurements can be interpreted differently with different brands and sizing charts.
I don’t care about size either just glad I found one that fits so well.
I ended up shaving my chest after a suggestion on here. I like the change. I’ll try to attach pics.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Evolver on April 21, 2022, 06:36:39 AM
Looking good, benusa.

Shaving gives a totally different look. I'm not allowed to ;) but sometimes I get rid of the tuft of hair that sticks up over the gore of the bra. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Passant on April 21, 2022, 07:00:37 AM
The breasts in the bra look nice. It can be seen that the bra holds your breasts together and gives them support :)

I also shave my breasts, but naturally I have very little hair, so shaving takes me very little time. Shaved breasts look aesthetically beautiful to me.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on April 21, 2022, 08:13:23 AM
I agree. Your breasts look very attractive.  Much more womanly without the hair.  Your breast’s B cup size and larger feminine areolae are now so obvious. 

You look great in that bra. You clearly completely fill the cups of your bra. And your bra gives you such nice shaping. 

If you have breasts like a woman, which you do, then you should wear a bra like a woman, which you are now doing.  And I believe a bra looks and feels best on a smooth hairless chest, like a woman’s, and like you now have.  

Congratulations on taking this next step in embracing your breasts.  I bet your GF will be impressed at how even more feminine your breasts now look. Are you going to give her a heads up or let it be a playtime surprise?
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on April 21, 2022, 09:14:50 AM
Hey Ben!

It's only my opinion but, I think that your chest is 100% more attractive! I've never had more that literally 3 chest hairs so I have nothing to compare it to so I'll ask the question. Do you prefer a shaved chest to a hairy one for yourself? Does it feel different or better with a bra? I was just curious.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 21, 2022, 09:16:19 AM
Thanks guys. I do like the shaved look and feel. I may keep them shaved. Normally I would use a trimmer once every few months. They do look much more feminine shaved but I agree they look and feel better. Even the bra feels better to the skin.
My girlfriend isn’t surprised when I’ve used trimmer on my chest and stomach. I won’t say anything. I’ll let you know if she likes it ;).
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Johndoe1 on April 21, 2022, 09:29:46 AM
I don't shave my chest but have way less hair than I used to. That's actually true of my whole body. My legs used to be pretty hairy but now they are as smooth as can be. I suspect the elevated estrogen has something to do with it.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Busty on April 21, 2022, 09:30:34 AM
First of all, you look great, all smooth, both bare breasted and in a bra.  

Several years ago, I was where you are now. With noticeable female breasts continuing to grow. Also, with a quite hairy chest. I knew I was busty, and I knew I felt and look better in a bra, but until I removed all my hair, I had no idea how feminine my breasts were. And I found I looked so much better in a bra without that hair.

It was a revelation, but also a bit shocking, as I’m sure you experienced, also.  But I very quickly came to enjoy how I looked and felt with my breasts hairless and I quickly realized that it looks silly to have hairy breasts filling out the cups of my bra, and that smooth feminine breasts, like yours and mine, and all the women, look most appropriate in a bra. 

Admitting you have breasts like a woman, starting to wear a bra like a woman are both big emotional steps, and I understood that. I didn’t realize that making my breasts smooth and hairless like a woman’s, was also such a big step.

What I found was after I took each step, there was no looking back. I believe, like me, you will come to embrace more and more having female breasts and feminine nipples and wearing a bra, and, yes, even enjoying them, just like a woman. 

Welcome to the next step of your journey. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 22, 2022, 04:24:16 PM
Hi JohnDoe1, I suspect it does have a lot to do with it. Hopefully you prefer less hair.

Hi Bustymale, that has been my experience exactly. I had surgery years ago to remove very female breasts. I didn’t have hair when they developed or through my teen years. I started taking testosterone prior to surgery. Growing breasts again has reminded me of what that was like. I was still taken aback to see them so feminine looking after I shaved. I’m actually quite masculine in personality and not trying to appear feminine but I agree I like how they look and feel.
My nipples are quite flat and my breasts are misshapen a bit from surgery but they’re looking rounder. I’m starting to enjoy the growth but ultimately don’t want huge boobs again. Not wanting to go the surgery route again, I’ve sort of given in to having them.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Busty on April 24, 2022, 01:09:01 PM
Sort of nice having breasts like a woman, isn’t it?  If you have breasts, you want them to look good 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 24, 2022, 01:32:20 PM
Actually, I had been thinking it was just misplaced chest fat until I got lab work back my hormone levels. That was when I realized I was growing breasts again!
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on April 24, 2022, 02:23:21 PM
Oh, you definitely are growing female breasts 😘
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 30, 2022, 03:49:32 PM
I’m actually ok with that now. I’m starting to like the more feminine shape they’re taking. It was a bit of a shock to me though.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on April 30, 2022, 10:03:09 PM
I think for many of use, myself certainly, the fact of growing breasts is surreal and a bit of a shock. I mean, hormone levels fluctuating is one thing, and of course common. But enough to grow breasts? I mean, trans women often are on hormones for a year+ before they see breasts really taking off to my understanding from a few friends who are. And here some of us are minding our business, no sign or tell tale of anything happening and one day hmmm why's this shirt feel tighter or walking by a window or mirror and noticing the projection. Or the soreness and wondering if it's from a workout or pulled muscle and days or week later going ok what is going on LOL. But then eventually you realize having boobs is actually kinda nice lol
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on April 30, 2022, 11:49:04 PM
Yea that was kind of what it was like. Never thought I could go through this again. I have started to see them positively this time. Both underwire bras started to feel tighter today. I’m excited about them getting a little fuller but also worried about having too much growth. I do want to try different types of bras eventually. I’ll post a bra review when I do lol.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on May 01, 2022, 12:54:33 AM
Yeah the bra tightness of filling the cups more is a mind warp of sorts for me. I’ve tried to turn it in to a laughing or positive recognition of it and call it graduation lol i always was a c student and appears I’m gonna be a C cup also soon. It’s nice when they get fuller cause the shape becomes nicer instead of coned or poking out etc but the anxiety is still there of how much more will happen
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on May 03, 2022, 11:55:35 PM
Yea. I’ve been wearing bras for about 5 weeks. I think they’ve changed in shape and size during this time.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on May 04, 2022, 07:08:24 AM
So full and big. You are too big to go out braless now, both for comfort and appearance. What cup size would most here estimate?
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on May 04, 2022, 08:44:51 AM
Wearing 34B. I think it’s just right. I’m sure bras fit differently though. I’ve discovered that a B cup in one band size isn’t the same as a B cup in another. If my current bra gets uncomfortable I will look at other sizes. I think it’s just hard to look and tell.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Busty on May 04, 2022, 10:21:02 AM
Most women wear the wrong size bra. Only way to be sure is to get a fitting and try bras on in the store. Different brands and styles will end up fitting you in different cup and band sizes.  

The fullness, wide root, and side boob of your breasts would be consistent with more than a B cup, especially in a nice underwire that gathers up everything, puts it in your bra cup, points forward not out, nicely shaped and lifted. I would not be surprised at a D cup with the right bra. You would be amazed. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on May 04, 2022, 03:40:31 PM
I agree you might wish to try a D cup. A lot of women say they aren’t a certain bra size, but they are.  So I know it might be hard for you to wrap your head around being a D cup. But you should try on a D cup and you might be surprised at how comfortable it feels, how good you look at it, and how completely you fill the cups, especially after you have done the scoop and scoop. 

Also, looks like your breasts may be fairly firm, so most likely mammary gland as well as fatty tissue. 

You have full female breasts like a woman and you need those womanly breasts of yours to be in a bra, like a woman. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on May 05, 2022, 08:45:29 AM
I will be devils advocate in the sense of only way to know for sure is to get a professional bra fitting. I disagree entirely.  While sure it’s helps, and removes your time needed to figure it out yourself, it is being measured for a bra not a suit. If you got some time to kill you can measure yourself just as well as a boutique can. YouTube, articles, etc. it isn’t hard to find resources of professionals telling you how and how to for your shape, etc. along with simply going to a store grabbing a few brands bands and styles and hitting the fitting room. I don’t know s*** about plumbing. Know what I did cause of YouTube? Installed new pipes and vanity and ripped out a shower and remodeled the bathroom. I didn’t even have tools or know what to use but it had to be done so I figured it out. People can figure anything out. They just don’t want to or don’t care to or have the time and money to let someone else do it for them or just find pleasure letting someone else do it.
If a B cup works for you and is comfortable and you aren’t spilling out keep with the size you are. If it keeps you in place and doesn’t warrant anything that says otherwise in fit stay with the size you are. Until you are the size you arent. 


Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Rich meier on May 05, 2022, 01:22:37 PM
I will be devils advocate in the sense of only way to know for sure is to get a professional bra fitting. I disagree entirely.  While sure it’s helps, and removes your time needed to figure it out yourself, it is being measured for a bra not a suit. If you got some time to kill you can measure yourself just as well as a boutique can. YouTube, articles, etc. it isn’t hard to find resources of professionals telling you how and how to for your shape, etc. along with simply going to a store grabbing a few brands bands and styles and hitting the fitting room. I don’t know s*** about plumbing. Know what I did cause of YouTube? Installed new pipes and vanity and ripped out a shower and remodeled the bathroom. I didn’t even have tools or know what to use but it had to be done so I figured it out. People can figure anything out. They just don’t want to or don’t care to or have the time and money to let someone else do it for them or just find pleasure letting someone else do it.
If a B cup works for you and is comfortable and you aren’t spilling out keep with the size you are. If it keeps you in place and doesn’t warrant anything that says otherwise in fit stay with the size you are. Until you are the size you arent.
i totaly agree I did my bathroom and kitchen 3 times and learned to do it same thing with all the bras I have bought. my wife got me my first. when I got bigger Itried one oif hers. fit good so thats what I kept buying. when I got to a bigger band got some online just like the other ones. just measured and used the charts.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: gotgyne on May 10, 2022, 08:44:07 AM
Yea. I’ve been wearing bras for about 5 weeks. I think they’ve changed in shape and size during this time.
The German forum "Busenfreundinnen" (Bosom Buddies) uses a special term for this. They call it "breast migration". It really works. As a male my nipples were not centered but became more centered with bra wearing. After a while the result is permanent. The same with the breast tissue. It is more rounded and dome-shaped now.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on May 10, 2022, 04:23:17 PM
Are you happy with your breasts now having a fuller more feminine shape?
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on May 10, 2022, 06:32:22 PM
There have been a few days I’ve thought they are getting too big. I’ve wanted to get back on an estrogen blocker. I’m starting to like them fuller and more round though. I can tell a difference over the past 6 weeks. I wonder if they’ll take on more of the shape they had before surgery.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on May 11, 2022, 09:24:16 AM
Ben, I am soooooooo happy that you are enjoying your natural body shape 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗

Like others here, including myself, have realized that our breasts are just that, OUR BREASTS. As long as ther is no medical reason to have them removed,  surgery will incur pain, suffering, recovery and cost that is unnecessary.

Wearing a bra is definitely not the worst thing that can happen to us. I've worn a bra every day for the last 30+ years. Of course, as a woman, I'm expected to wear a bra. Even before I transitioned, I wore a bra because I wanted to keep and have my breasts. I hope that your peace and acceptance of your breasts continue and you embrace and love your body as your journey continues.

your sister,
Sophie ❤️
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: blad on May 13, 2022, 02:52:19 AM
Wearing a bra turns out to be no big deal and it just works to comfortably manage breasts.

You usually forget you are even wearing one after a while and you can get on with life.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on May 14, 2022, 05:52:04 PM
I don’t wear a bra to work so it’s only on the weekend that I wear one all day. It’s felt good to have one on all day today.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on May 14, 2022, 11:51:14 PM
Why not be comfortable at work, too?
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on June 02, 2022, 07:29:55 AM
Some days I feel like wearing one to work. I’m wearing them more and more. I’ve started to like sports bras more even though I hated them at first.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on June 02, 2022, 07:46:47 AM
Last weekend I went on a trip and shared a dorm with 3 roommates for a couple nights. The lights were off and two of them came in. I guess they didn’t realize they woke me up because I heard them whispering. One guy said “that guy needs to wear a bra. Look how his boobs touch when he’s laying on his side”. They were snickering. I left early before they got up and thankfully I won’t see them again. I was a little embarrassed. I should have worn a shirt since I was staying with other folks. I suspect they would also have something to say about men wearing bras. I also had an experience at the airport. I was sitting down and a group of older guys were standing around. They kept looking up from their phones and staring at me and grinning. They kept smirking at each other. I never figured out why but it was weird and definitely directed at me. Now I’m really getting self conscious.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Evolver on June 02, 2022, 08:33:37 AM
Last weekend I went on a trip and shared a dorm with 3 roommates for a couple nights. The lights were off and two of them came in. I guess they didn’t realize they woke me up because I heard them whispering. One guy said “that guy needs to wear a bra. Look how his boobs touch when he’s laying on his side”. They were snickering. I left early before they got up and thankfully I won’t see them again. I was a little embarrassed. I should have worn a shirt since I was staying with other folks. I suspect they would also have something to say about men wearing bras. I also had an experience at the airport. I was sitting down and a group of older guys were standing around. They kept looking up from their phones and staring at me and grinning. They kept smirking at each other. I never figured out why but it was weird and definitely directed at me. Now I’m really getting self conscious.
It's pretty obvious that the guys in both situations were just ignorant and were acting like dickheads.

It's easy to offer what might appear to be glib advice from behind a keyboard without experiencing the pressure of the situations that you found yourself in, but is it in your nature to fight back? I don't mean physically fight, but in the case of your experience at the airport, maybe take a pic of THEM and if they question you, tell them that you will post it at ignoramus.com (I just made that up ;) ). They're not going to punch you up in front of hundreds of other people.

I'm certainly not advising you to become aggressive or to get in peoples faces, and I can imagine that as time goes on you will care less and less about what people think anyway, but in the meantime you need to remind yourself that YOU are more in tune with what you are going through than they are. If they snicker or smirk, that's their problem.

Stay strong, Ben. :)
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on June 02, 2022, 03:49:21 PM
You are becoming quite busty 😘
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Orb on June 02, 2022, 05:54:10 PM
I'm sorry you had to go through that.  I'm not going to sugar coat it.  People are ignorant self absorbed and just plain fools.  I have my days of self doubt.  I just made mention of it on the other thread.  Even for me it comes and goes.  That being said, I'm human.  For the most part it is their problem.  We do feel embarrassment at times but I remind myself I will not accept that feeling imposed by them.  My body, my life.  I know who I am, who I love and in spite of it all, that includes them.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on June 02, 2022, 07:38:00 PM
Thanks guys. I don’t let things like that get to me much. I wasn’t worried because I won’t see any of them again. It did catch me off guard both times. I actually brought a sports bra to discretely wear during the trip but didn’t have it on at the airport because I didn’t want to get stopped at the screening. It was also rainy and I didn’t want to get wet with a bra on, and other reasons. I ended up deciding it was best not to wear it while out of town this time. It feels good to come home and put it on and have some support though. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Moobzie on June 03, 2022, 02:10:48 AM
While those of us who 'accept' our gynecomastia have come to terms with the condition, and the varied ways we deal with it, it's well to remember that most people aren't aware of it, and to keep in mind that the biological norm is that women' breasts develop - not men's.  If someone notices and reacts the way you experienced, Ben, it could be that they're jerks.  It could also be that they simply never encountered it before, and their reaction could be from surprise.  And their own nervousness at encountering what they see because it is strange to them.

We can't force others to react to our gynecomastia in ways we would like.  I can't help not liking seeing women with beards.  If someone can't help not being comfortable or liking me with developed breasts, so what?  As others have pointed out, ultimately how we deal with it is our business - and I won't live my life in fearful reaction to others reaction to my breasts.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on June 04, 2022, 07:58:44 AM
Yeah sorry you had to deal with that. People are jerks and ignorant and sadly men often like to poke fun at others rather than empathize. I’ve learned to try and have fun with it. It’s easy to be self conscious. Especially when laying on your side. Don’t let it get to you. If on a trip by yourself who cares what people you’ll never see again may think. I definitely get the airport issue. Last thing I’d want is pulled aside cause a scanner saw I was wearing a bra and believe I was smuggling something. But I feel they would see the bra and see anatomy filling it and no foreign object and just say get your stuff and scan the next one. In that bra your breasts definitely look fuller. Have you gained any weight that’s promoting that or have things just accelerated.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Evolver on June 04, 2022, 08:57:11 AM
Picking up on what Moobzie said, yes, putting yourself in the shoes of an ignorant person not faced with that before, how would one expect them to react? I accept that side of the argument.

It still doesn't excuse them though. Referencing the 'Me Too' movement as an example, if a male boss never had a pretty or voluptuous female secretary before, should he be allowed to pass judgement on her based on her physical attributes? Why should it be any different for men judging other men for casually seeing something unusual that takes their attention?

I long for the day when the guy wearing the sunglasses in this pic is considered not to be abnormal!:
avalanches subways man with boobs - Bing images (https://www.bing.com/images/search?view=detailV2&ccid=YXKh8Tjb&id=98824C33A4FD96B18730CFDB1C0C6989BE6B79BF&thid=OIP.YXKh8Tjb93Q_wQuX3rvKfAHaD3&mediaurl=https%3A%2F%2Fadmin.promonews.tv%2Fsites%2Fdefault%2Ffiles%2Fstyles%2Fbmvd_list%2Fpublic%2Favalanches.jpg%3Fitok%3DNKNMb72i&exph=266&expw=510&q=avalanches+subways+man+with+boobs&simid=607987161226629313&form=IRPRST&ck=A511C885AA26356D7A45697C7EDE8691&selectedindex=0&ajaxhist=0&ajaxserp=0&vt=0&sim=11&iss=VSI&ajaxhist=0&ajaxserp=0)  (youtube the avalanches subways for full clip)
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on June 04, 2022, 02:16:32 PM
I didn’t feel threatened at all. Just scrutinized. Not going to worry about it anymore.
No actually lost a little weight. I know I’m a little chubby and thought it was just extra fat until I got my estrogen level results. I’ve had hormone issues most of my life. Had to discontinue estrogen blocker over a year ago. Still take testosterone but seem to be growing breasts again anyway.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: SideSet on June 04, 2022, 06:13:08 PM
I bet your breasts have become more prominent as you have lost weight 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on June 27, 2022, 02:33:50 PM
I can’t really tell about the weight loss and prominence. I do think I’m seeing continued growth. The first bra I bought had huge cups and I set it aside. Now I fill it. Still getting sore boobies but less frequently. I’m still wearing bras at home.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Moobzie on June 28, 2022, 07:21:55 PM
If you're taking supplemental testosterone you can expect more breast development - because our bodies try to maintain biochemical balance hormonally.  More T 'tells' the body to produce more E.
Also, if there is any anti-androgen effects occurring from other meds (e.g., spironolactone, prostate treatments, some psychoactive meds), then the body aromatizes (converts) its 'extra T into E - again, exacerbating feminizing effects (esp gyno).
Good idea to check with an endocrinologist.
All the best!
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on July 10, 2022, 12:33:50 PM
Thanks. I have an appointment next month. I’ll find out where my levels are.
Posting braless update pic.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on September 15, 2022, 10:20:39 PM
Hi guys,
It’s been a while. I actually went off testosterone for a couple months. Just saw doctor and got back on it. I stopped wearing a bra entirely for that time. Put one on this evening for support. I was surprised by a little growth. I’ve enjoyed being braless for a while but guess I’m going to start back wearing one.
-Ben
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: gotgyne on September 16, 2022, 08:01:29 AM
Last weekend I went on a trip and shared a dorm with 3 roommates for a couple nights. The lights were off and two of them came in. I guess they didn’t realize they woke me up because I heard them whispering. One guy said “that guy needs to wear a bra. Look how his boobs touch when he’s laying on his side”. They were snickering. I left early before they got up and thankfully I won’t see them again. I was a little embarrassed. I should have worn a shirt since I was staying with other folks. I suspect they would also have something to say about men wearing bras. I also had an experience at the airport. I was sitting down and a group of older guys were standing around. They kept looking up from their phones and staring at me and grinning. They kept smirking at each other. I never figured out why but it was weird and definitely directed at me. Now I’m really getting self conscious.
Exactly such incidents are the reason why I think that we (the men with gynecomastia who totally accept it and wear a bra) must not hide it. Only if a large number of men wear their bras visibly it may eventually become normal in a couple of years. Of course visibility only means that the bra could be noticed through the shirt or t-shirt but not visible bra straps on bare shoulders as many girls and young women show. But I frankly admit that in most cases I don't have the guts myself to do so.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on September 17, 2022, 10:34:19 AM
I just tried one for the first time earlier this year. Wearing one today at home. Found the perfect shirt to hide it. I probably won’t venture out with one much. Maybe when it’s colder and I can layer. I haven’t been wearing one for a couple months but it is nice to have everything contained.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Rich meier on September 17, 2022, 11:53:16 AM
Last weekend I went on a trip and shared a dorm with 3 roommates for a couple nights. The lights were off and two of them came in. I guess they didn’t realize they woke me up because I heard them whispering. One guy said “that guy needs to wear a bra. Look how his boobs touch when he’s laying on his side”. They were snickering. I left early before they got up and thankfully I won’t see them again. I was a little embarrassed. I should have worn a shirt since I was staying with other folks. I suspect they would also have something to say about men wearing bras. I also had an experience at the airport. I was sitting down and a group of older guys were standing around. They kept looking up from their phones and staring at me and grinning. They kept smirking at each other. I never figured out why but it was weird and definitely directed at me. Now I’m really getting self conscious.
Exactly such incidents are the reason why I think that we (the men with gynecomastia who totally accept it and wear a bra) must not hide it. Only if a large number of men wear their bras visibly it may eventually become normal in a couple of years. Of course visibility only means that the bra could be noticed through the shirt or t-shirt but not visible bra straps on bare shoulders as many girls and young women show. But I frankly admit that in most cases I don't have the guts myself to do so.
I know what you mean about showing bras. i went shopping to day and not a walmart, there wasa lady with 2 kids wearing a racerback that covered barely nothing. showed shoulder straps the upper portions of he cups  and all of the back strap except for the hooks and her top was loose fitting so when she bent down you could see most of here breasts that wernt in the bra. i was right behind and an dhad a hard time not seein as i was putting y stuff on the belt. I also 5 other women with straps showin plainly as thee were wearing tank tops but notas bad as the lady at check out
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Moobzie on September 18, 2022, 04:27:45 AM
Re:  Women 'showing' their bras / straps ... it has become a fashion thing.  Models and 'famous' women - incl actresses are wearing clothes that show their bras and straps - and often their breasts.  It's quite like the new torn T-shirts and ripped jeans they buy.  Go figure.
And with all the gender confusion these days (e.g., men claiming to be women) it might also be a way for the females to outwardly proclaim themselves as female.

Problem for us guys (or, I should say, one of the problems we face) is that almost all of us with gynecomastia are obviously male, so 'presenting' a female attribute (developed breasts) openly is ... challenging.  Some of us have experienced things like Ben - and others here - have shared. All of us have experienced at least some kind of discomfiture with our condition, and many have expressed the wish (hope?) that 'everyone else' would just accept us how we are.

As many here have come to realize, that may never happen - so we just press on, coming to the conclusion that we will not be shamed by it.  That probably does not mean that we will prance around in public openly displaying show-off lace bras (like those sold at Costco for example), or flaunting our bras / breasts the way women do (and, in a way, are expected to !).

But I think it's ok for us to be seen as 'developed', and also as wearing bras for support like women do...I think we're slowly getting there in society.

I've come to realize that I am more comfortable with my breast development than others might be, and I've also noticed (as have others here) that most of the time 'others' don't even notice, and when they do they don't seem to care anywhere near as much as I do.

Apologies for the long post - but had to 'get it off my chest' (LOL).
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Confused old man on September 18, 2022, 09:23:06 AM
We have two transgendered or crossdressers working at our local Walmart and one at Home Depot. Could be more, who knows. Most people just don’t care. There are a lot more things to worry about anymore then the way people dress. Very few people will even look at each other anymore. I know I don’t. I truly believe if someone sees my bra, or notices my boobs, they will think to themselves, oh look, that man is wearing a bra. Or gosh, that man has boobs. And that’s the end of it. A fleeting thought, and on with their business. And if they really stare at you. Flash them!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Kazmage on September 18, 2022, 11:15:43 AM
I have only noticed a few women noticing I am wearing a bra or I have boobs .
Some have been rude enough to stare i just ignore them and go about my day .
If anyone says anything to me all I would do is say to them the famous quote from Sophie " I have feet so I wear shoes I have boobs so I wear a bra " then simply walk away lol
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on September 18, 2022, 12:05:06 PM
I definitely remember those days. The people who knew me also knew that I wore a bra. Most of them also knew why. It was the same with my outerwear. As my style became more androgynous and eventually decidedly feminine, the stares became less frequent from those two didn't know me.

Whether you are living full-time as a man or a woman or somewhere in between you shouldn't have to justify why you're wearing a bra. 

Love you guys ❤️🥰🤗

Sophie ❤️
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: taxmapper on September 19, 2022, 10:13:51 AM
What I have been slowly noticing is that now that i am a bit larger, women seem to be much less apprehensive in talking to me. 
sorta like.. psudo- sorta sister, kinda... thing. 

"oh you have boobs, your in a bra...your ok.". 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on September 19, 2022, 10:51:55 AM
What I have been slowly noticing is that now that i am a bit larger, women seem to be much less apprehensive in talking to me.
sorta like.. psudo- sorta sister, kinda... thing.

"oh you have boobs, your in a bra...your ok.".
Oh my goodness, yes! Long before I transitioned. I never intentionally flaunted my girls. I also mad very little effort to hide them or the fact that I was wearing a bra ( white blouse with a white bra 🙄). There is definitely understanding and empathy from the women that I worked with and hung around with. You know that your part of the group when the ladies at lunch are having an open discussion about bras and want to know what what bras are my go to's.

Sophie ❤️
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: gotgyne on September 20, 2022, 12:14:48 PM
I have only noticed a few women noticing I am wearing a bra or I have boobs .
Some have been rude enough to stare i just ignore them and go about my day .
If anyone says anything to me all I would do is say to them the famous quote from Sophie " I have feet so I wear shoes I have boobs so I wear a bra " then simply walk away
If someone would stare at my boobs, laugh or even make rude comments, I'd laugh too and answer: "It's all natural. You're just jealous".
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on October 09, 2022, 09:15:10 PM
Update:
I haven’t been wearing my bra for a couple months. During that time I adjusted medication and went off testosterone. Back on it and put bra on the other day. Definitely had some growth in past couple months. This topic has been about my journey this year when I got my first bra. Now I’m afraid I’m outgrowing it. I’ll add pic for comparison. I’m going to try to wear bra more often. Just went to Home Depot and a restaurant in a wired bra and layers. Now my boobs are really sore.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on October 09, 2022, 10:46:19 PM
Here’s a photo from when I first tried this bra earlier this year.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Johndoe1 on October 10, 2022, 06:35:09 AM
It looks like you have grown about a cup or so. Your cleavage is much more defined now compared to the earlier picture. You may need to also look at a different style bra for a more comfortable and better fit since that bra clearly no longer fits.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on October 10, 2022, 07:15:57 AM
I was thinking that John. While 32B is not uncomfortable, I’m considering a 32C and opportunity to possibly try a different kind of bra.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Rich meier on October 10, 2022, 11:38:00 AM
I was thinking that John. While 32B is not uncomfortable, I’m considering a 32C and opportunity to possibly try a different kind of bra.
i would definitely call that a c cup especially for your band size
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on October 10, 2022, 12:11:21 PM
Definitely look like close to more than filling those cups bra looks great so does the chest in it I find the fuller the cups while enhances the insecurity as a reminder of things getting fuller the profile of the shirt and clothing overall seems less pronounced. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on October 11, 2022, 08:12:45 PM
Thanks Rich. You’re probably right. I think I’m going to get a c cup to try. I didn’t want to get something too big though so I’ve been hesitant to move up.
Thanks Dude. I wore a bra in public the other night and today I wore sports bra to do yard work. While layering clothing. I don’t think anything was too noticeable.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: dunkin on October 12, 2022, 07:52:55 AM
I still try to layer with a button down shirt over my t shirts but I am starting to realize that I’m only kidding myself by thinking that I’m hiding something so obvious. I removed the button down shirt in this picture only to show that even when I cover my tshirt it is still very notable. As Sophie once said in a post, we aren’t really fooling anyone by layering cause it’s still going to be noticed. I admit that I still do it but I’m slowly getting more comfortable with going out in just a tshirt over my bra. It’s taking a lot of time to get to this point but with the help from my wife, I’m starting to realize that I need to just live my life without the embarrassment. I’m not completely there yet but slowly getting there.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on October 12, 2022, 10:43:37 AM
Yea. I’m wearing a polo today and it feels clingy. Not wearing a bra. I’m working on getting to the point I’m not embarrassed. I’ve been constantly conscious of my boobs being noticeable this morning.
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on October 12, 2022, 02:01:50 PM
I still try to layer with a button down shirt over my t shirts but I am starting to realize that I’m only kidding myself by thinking that I’m hiding something so obvious. I removed the button down shirt in this picture only to show that even when I cover my tshirt it is still very notable. As Sophie once said in a post, we aren’t really fooling anyone by layering cause it’s still going to be noticed. I admit that I still do it but I’m slowly getting more comfortable with going out in just a tshirt over my bra. It’s taking a lot of time to get to this point but with the help from my wife, I’m starting to realize that I need to just live my life without the embarrassment. I’m not completely there yet but slowly getting there.
I think on one hand, having breasts is easy. On the other hand, having to deal with them as man is the hard part. I know what I went through a good portion of my life wondering "is my bra was visible?", "do I project too much with this bra?", " can they see the band and adjusters on my back?".

Keep in mind it is not a crime to wear a bra. You should not feel shame or embarrassment for doing what is best for you.

Sophie ❤️ 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on October 12, 2022, 02:03:44 PM
Hi Dunkin,
Thanks for sharing btw. I’m glad you’re gradually getting more comfortable.
-Ben
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on October 12, 2022, 02:06:00 PM
Hi Sophie,
For me right now I think there would be more embarrassment towards someone knowing I was wearing a bra than someone seeing I have boobs. I’m feeling a lot better about having boobs but worried about wearing bra in public still.
-Ben
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: aboywithgirls on October 12, 2022, 02:49:12 PM
Ben,
Most here or at least many will tell you that with your breasts under the control of a good bra, they become less noticeable. Without a bra,  they tend to have a mind of their own and bounce around accordingly. 

I do understand what you're saying. At least when it comes to your breasts,  you didn't have a choice. When you put on a bra because you have breasts, it IS your choice.  I think that wearing a bra when you have breasts is a good choice. 

❤️Sophie ❤️
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: blad on October 12, 2022, 07:47:19 PM
Yes, there is no real hiding of the bust line, but I guess most of us do not want to advertise that we have a bra on.

It is true that a bra can make our bust line a bit tidier. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Johndoe1 on October 12, 2022, 08:43:28 PM
https://www.thebreastlife.com/blog/men-with-breasts-who-wear-bras/
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on October 13, 2022, 07:42:47 AM
Spent a solid chunk of time on the breast life before finding this forum years ago. Glad to see it’s still there and active. The author of the site is wonderful and the commitment to the male breast portion of it really helped me accept the initial development of my chest. 
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: 42CSurprise! on October 13, 2022, 07:16:48 PM
Spent a solid chunk of time on the breast life before finding this forum years ago. Glad to see it’s still there and active. The author of the site is wonderful and the commitment to the male breast portion of it really helped me accept the initial development of my chest.
I too found that site before discovering this site... but alas, though these threads about male breasts and brassieres are still available, they are all old.  The one John posts was written in 2015.  I posted on a few of them under a different username, but I noted no one had posted for years and no one responded to what I wrote.  I've no doubt that some of our friends on this board were active there.  Sophie even used the same username...  :)  There are only so many places where conversations on this subject are found...
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: benusa on October 17, 2022, 10:28:37 PM
I just looked up the site but don’t see a forum or a male section. Just a blog. Am I missing something?
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: 42CSurprise! on October 18, 2022, 01:13:27 AM
If you scroll down to the bottom of each article you'll find a great many comments from men.  It is many years old but the conversations are still worth reading.  You'll find Sophie's comments under the same username she uses here... A Boy With Girls.  I'm quite certain others from this site were involved in those exchanges.  If I recall there are perhaps three or four articles focused on men, breasts and brassieres... our friends...
Title: Re: My First Bra
Post by: Dudewithboobs on October 18, 2022, 08:58:35 AM
Yup I spent a bit of time there and recall seeing some names here later on that were there. It was nice seeing that cause it felt like an actual community and not just a random stumbled upon forum of sorts. It was nice to find other guys dealing with or have dealt with or coming to terms with what I felt I was experiencing. Back then I was just budding and feeling the itchiness and seeing subtle projection and shopping immediately for a surgeon to remedy it. But between driving to consultations and spending time looking more in to other areas of guys with this issue I learned to just deal with it. 
Over the last couple years of here I’ve made some friends and have DMd with some, had a small chat group on kik with a couple others where we’d talk more directly off the forum and when they exited over some time tried again to no avail. But this forum has been great and breastlife started it for me so wish they had more activity than what I’ve heard it is now here but still a great resource I think to check in on even if the most recent stuff is quite archived. 
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