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Title: Shapewear
Post by: Busty on February 22, 2022, 01:44:26 PM
Sometimes I wonder if we are more prone to gaining weight, more fat, less muscle than the typical male.  I was looking for something that might help me look better with that.  The lady at the small bra boutique I sometimes go to asked if I had tried shapewear.  She said you already wear a bra, so no big deal if a shaper, too, right?  She showed me this Rago which she called a high waist panty girdle.

I think it trims my waist, flattens my stomach and makes me seem more toned.  I have to confess it takes some getting used to.  But I found my clothes fit and look better.

Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Evolver on February 23, 2022, 04:57:52 AM
I also think that it looks good. Let's face it, there are probably not many 'male' foundation garments around to cater for such curves. Similar to a bra, if it suits your shape and you get a benefit out of it, go for it!

Rago is famous for its retro styled shapewear. Have you considerd their all-in-ones? Nothing says you have to attach stockings though!
Rago 9057 Body Briefer Extra Firm Shaping | White Body Shaper – American Shapewear (ragoshapewear.com) (https://ragoshapewear.com/collections/all-in-one-body-briefer/products/rago-style-9057-body-briefer-extra-firm-shaping?variant=19167808520303)
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Busty on February 23, 2022, 09:59:07 AM
Oh, I like that all-in-one. I will have to try it. The shaper I am wearing in the picture comes right up to the bottom of my bra, but it would be nice to have it all one piece. 

I tried the men’s shapewear, both tops and bottoms, but they just didn’t seem to fit right or work for me. The tops were more like compression vests.  And the bottoms did not come to the base of my bra, so I was getting muffin top.   
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: aboywithgirls on February 28, 2022, 08:36:50 AM
Absolutely the right choice and good for you to realize that your body has feminine curves that definitely benefits wearing shape wear. I ad worn full torso shapewear for years prior to transitioning.

Sophie
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: 42CSurprise! on March 03, 2022, 12:53:29 PM
It makes perfect sense that the hormones that create our breasts would affect the rest of our bodies.  Some of us have lost hair on arms and legs and definitely there is both a softening and rounding of our bodies.  The men here who choose to wear brassieres clearly have made peace with those changes.  Taking a further step into other undergarments or even outer garments doesn't seem out of the question.  Reading reviews by men at Her Room suggests every item of intimate wear worn by women has enthusiasts among men and not all of them are transvestites.  Yes, there is a fetishistic element in all of this, but where's the harm in that?  There is nothing wrong with enjoying how we look in garments that are often designed to be appealing.  And who would argue that these garments are not only appealing to the eye but also to the touch?  Personally, I'm enjoying this ride.  It appears you are as well.  Good for you!
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: aboywithgirls on March 04, 2022, 09:55:34 AM
I totally agree with 42C!

As a woman, shape wear is part of my daily wardrobe at work. I mostly wear a W.Y.O.B. or wear your own bra style because it's difficult to find decent shapewear that fits a 36H-36J bust. Since puberty, I have had a feminine figure which is why I have been wearing a bra and panties since I was sixteen.

Time takes its toll on all of us. I typically wear a skirt suit or occasionally a dress every day for work. I want to look my best and shapewear helps reduce the unwanted bumps or rolls a moves it to a better location.

A feminine figure is a feminine figure regardless of what's between your legs. Whether male or female, it is still just clothing. Wear what fits, makes you feel better, and especially what works best for your body and soul.

🤗🥰🤗🥰

Sophie
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: SideSet on March 06, 2022, 02:56:40 PM
I agree.  Wear what fits.  And if you have a body shape more like a woman, then bras, and this case, women’s  shapewear, will most likely fit best.  You will feel and look better.  
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Confused old man on March 06, 2022, 05:10:28 PM
I agree, that shapewear looks good on you. There are a lot of men that wear shapewear at the gym. Mostly middle age to seniors. Keeps the jiggle down I suppose..lol. I have no idea if it’s men’s or women’s. But over the years I have seen more and more wear shapewear. As I recall in years past spandex was a big seller for men’s shapewear.
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Confused old man on March 06, 2022, 10:00:46 PM
I mean spanx 
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Busty on March 07, 2022, 09:11:20 AM
The first shapewear I tried was Spanx.  Men’s, sort of like boxers and undershirt.  Did not work for me at all. The fit was bad for me, too tight in some places, but too loose in others. 

I returned them to the Spanx store where I bought them.  The sales associate at the cash register doing the return said she wished she had been there when I bought the shapers, as she would have advised me against them.  She said, although they were good shapers, they would not work at all with my “figure.“ I was struck by her using that word.   She asked if I would like her to show me some things she thought might work better for me.
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: SideSet on March 09, 2022, 06:15:22 AM
What did she show you?
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Busty on March 11, 2022, 11:44:40 AM
 Even though she said “figure,”  I was expecting her to show me some different men’s shapers when she came from behind the checkout counter.   But then, as she led me to the clothing display racks,  she asked me what size bra I was wearing 😉
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: aboywithgirls on March 11, 2022, 12:30:49 PM
I remember my first time getting fitted at one of my boutiques that I still shop at. I was presenting male. She asked "are those the breast forms that you are going to be wearing for the fitting?" I told her no, they're real.
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Busty on March 11, 2022, 02:05:46 PM
ABWG, What did she say then?

My sales associate assumed mine were real. And she was right! 
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Busty on March 12, 2022, 08:17:32 AM
Heading us toward the display racks, the sales associate at Spanx asked me what size bra I had on, as she walked right past the men’s shapewear, not even glancing at them. 

I then realized she had been saying she would have advised me against trying any men’s shapers, but thought women’s shapewear would work better for me. 
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: SideSet on March 12, 2022, 12:37:44 PM
I like Spanx. I have several. I have higher power, on core, and braleluleh. Such names 😘

Busty, you get anything?
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Busty on March 14, 2022, 04:12:23 AM
Speaking of funny names, I ended up getting Thinstincts ;)

She showed me the tank and bodysuit, pointing out the “smoosh-free” bust, which she noted was non-compressive and good for any breast size.  I asked why she asked my bra size then? She said to let me know I should be looking at women’s, not men’s Spanx.  She then showed me the girl shorts, which she said should fit me better than the men’s boxers I had just returned.

She asked if I would like to try on.  She said I would need to leave on my panties to try on, but should try with and without my bra.  She said they were made to give you the option of single layer wearing.

She said I could choose between spaghetti or wider straps, and thought I might prefer wider, as spaghetti were a bit more feminine.  She also said I would have no bra or panty lines with my Spanx shapers.  With the bodysuit, she pointed out the hook and eye gusset for when “nature calls,” but said candidly it is still not that convenient, saying something I did not quite catch about “sitting,” but which I later realized implied she assumed I sat to pee.  I was also later thinking she had automatically assumed I wore panties, which I, in fact, do.   

She was very nice, helpful, and non judgmental. And I may add, a very good saleswoman who knew her products and what would work best for my shape. 

Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: SideSet on March 17, 2022, 05:07:30 PM
So, did you?  Try on, that is.
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: Busty on March 17, 2022, 09:18:02 PM
It does seem to hide bra lines.  Everything is hot in summer 🥵 
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: aboywithgirls on March 18, 2022, 08:21:48 AM
It May not apply for most men here but I usually go with a WYOB or wear your own bra style. It definitely helps hide my bra lines on my back because they come up over my bra. On the front, they lay just below my underwire. They really help smooth things out.
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: SideSet on March 18, 2022, 11:03:07 AM
I second the WYOB shapers 
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: aboywithgirls on March 18, 2022, 11:51:16 AM
There are a few companies out there that do make shapewear that fits my bust but, they are soooo expensive! I wear one every day for work and even wearing one that frequently I can't justify the expense.

🥰Sophie
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: gotgyne on May 10, 2022, 07:05:56 AM
That`s interesting. I started with panty girdles and corselettes (all in ones) long before I wore bras, since I had a bad back for decades. A physiotherapist which I visited for a cyriax therapy (to stabilize my soft connective tissue) told me that I was the first male client with such a weak connective tissue. She strongly advised against heavy exercise at the gym with machines and suggested that I wear a panty girdle or even better an all in one every day to stabilize my back. At that time I was in my thirties and my wife who was tired of my laments because of my back pain was more than eager to accompany myself to the lingerie departments. The classic girdles with firm support were still available widely, so I bought some panty girdles and corselettes (short leg, long leg and open bottom). I've worn the short leg and open bottom corselettes for years, even during our several vacations in Spain, so the summer heat does not hinder me. My soft tissue also led to extended varicose veins on my legs and I get medical compression pantyhose on prescription every six months. Pantyhose under a panty girdle is an advantage since it stops the slipping of the hose. But with the corselettes I switched to stockings which I fastened with the garters. In my opinion an open bottom corselette with stockings is much better to wear during the hot summer months as pantyhose and panty girdle. I had no gynecomastia then, so the cups of the corselettes had to be sewn flat. The onset was in my early forties as a result of my meds against high blood pressure (spironolactone). At the age of 45 I had a size 40A and the cups of the corselettes with size 40B (40A was not available) were a little too wide. But the growth of my breasts continued and only two years later I filled them out completely. Fortunately my lower back became better and I could omit the corselettes and panty girdles for longer periods. Then I started to wear bras and compression pantyhose with a kind of control top. But till this day I only wear bras with at least three rows of hooks, sometimes even four or five rows at the back because of the support. At the moment my bra size is 40B or 40C, depending on the bra. If my back pain returns I switch from a bra to a corselette again.
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: SideSet on May 10, 2022, 04:17:21 PM
What did your wife think of you in all styles of girdles and garters and stockings and pantyhose.  Did she suggest panties?

What does your wife think of you filling a B or C cup bra now ?
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: gotgyne on May 11, 2022, 06:48:26 AM
What did your wife think of you in all styles of girdles and garters and stockings and pantyhose.  Did she suggest panties?

What does your wife think of you filling a B or C cup bra now ?
I have never worn panties and she didn`t suggest them. I've always worn a panty girdle or panty corselette without any underwear. In the rare cases during summer without shorts I use my male underwear and knee high compression stockings. Pantyhose and thigh high stockings are much too hot under jeans or slacks. With an open bottom corselette I wear my male underwear and stockings. Meanwhile since my back had stabilized (a physician once told me that with age the spine gets less flexible which decreases backpain. Obviously he was right, since I have to wear a panty girdle or corselette only once in a while) I only wear a bra. But this is a completely different thing for my wife. The compression stockings and pantyhose and the girdles and corselettes have for her a medical function, since they help with my legs and backpain. But she looks upon a bra as a garment solely for women. And my breasts with cup B or C are in her opinion not such big that a bra is necessary. So I don't put on and off the bra in her presence.

Edit: Sideset, I just noticed your photo in the thread "Pandemic Weight Gain". I've had the same problems and gained about 13 pounds. My breasts are smaller but my belly and my thighs are similar to yours. I know that shapewear improves not only my posture but supports and holds in my belly very effective. But as the problems with my back decreased I stopped wearing shapewear. Every time I omitted shapewear for some days or even just a weekend it was difficult for me to start again. Meanwhile I didn`t wear a panty girdle or corselette for months and I know that it will be very difficult to start again. There are so many women who could benefit a lot from shapewear but especially the chubby women don't seem to use shapewear while the slender ones do. The same with me as a man. I've got lazy. Sometimes I think I should have continued wearing shapewear although my back improved. Another advantage is that my wife has no problems if I wear an AIO but doesn't like that I wear bras. The U-shaped back of a corselette is not such a telltale sign as the back of a bra. Even in summer with my AIO under a t-shirt, although the straps and the back were visible I never got any problems with other people.

John
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: SideSet on May 11, 2022, 12:28:13 PM
Thanks for the comprehensive reply.  I guess you now buy your AIO’s according to bra size and no more flattening the bra cups, but filling them instead with your breasts.
Title: Re: Shapewear
Post by: gotgyne on May 11, 2022, 02:22:27 PM
Thanks for the comprehensive reply.  I guess you now but your AIO’s according to bra size and no more flattening the bra cups, but filling them instead with your breasts.
You're right. So it is.
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