I think the difference between me and a CD is, in my mind I don't have the desire to dress fully as a woman to feel complete. I do enjoy some aspects of woman's clothing but have no desire to dress completely and present that way.
I'm exactly the same. I'm not a crossdresser. I feel complete as I am...
Sorry if I've just blurred this thread and the 'transgender but not transitioning' one, but I think the reference to CD's is relevant.
I bring up what I encounter on the CD website not because I'm an advocate for going in that direction. I feel much the same as you and Parity do... even when registering on that website I couldn't find it in myself to select a feminine name. My beard is likely older than many of the folks on this thread and it isn't going anywhere. BUT, we are all contending with issues outside of the norm. Not only do men not generally develop breasts they conclude would benefit from wearing a brassiere, but they also on occasion enjoy the experience of wearing panties, sleeping in a negligee, putting on nylon stockings... whether they intend to present as female or not. We each draw the line where it feels most comfortable for us. We know that even within this group we have one person who chose to transition and one who chooses to present each day as a woman. They both came because they'd developed breasts and both chose the path they are on at the moment. Neither is the path for me... hence I wrote the post Transgender but not Transitioning. I say transgender because of the reality estrogen is taking me to a place close to the center of the gender continuum. Honestly, that is true for all of us with burgeoning bosoms.
Gender bending is happening in many ways. Those of us wearing brassieres are doing it that way... however we choose to describe it. I don't call it crossdressing but my guess those who embrace crossdressing as a way of life probably would shake their heads and disagree with me... different strokes for different folks.