Hey, first of all, congrats on loosing some weight. It doesn't sound like you were too fat to begin with but I'm sure you feel better.
I have to disagree with you about the fat comment. It looks to me that it's more glandular in nature but i'm no dr. and as another guy said, they probably have to cut you open to see for sure.
Your depression is something we all feel. Hopefully you'll get it taken care of soon and you'll never have to experience what i'm about to say..... it's easier to deal with the older you get. I'm only speaking for myself here, but as you get older I think most guys are less self-conscious.
I'm 33 and last weekend I took my wife and kid to the water park. If you remember my pic from several months ago, i have gyne pretty bad. I spent most of the time in the water and when I got out, I put my tank top on, so I hid it pretty good.