Crossdressers Excited by Their Gynecomastia

[42CSurprise!]

I was visiting a CD website and noted a conversation started by someone who was excited because they'd been given a diagnosis of gynecomastia and that there is nothing wrong with their breasts.  Interestingly, quite a few participants spoke about their breast development.  It is funny to think about the distress encountered on this website when the subject of crossdressing has come up... with men insisting that is not what their decision to wear a brassiere is all about.  Crossdressers on the other hand were intent on buying breast forms so they'd have something with which to fill their favorite brassieres.  I know these are two different worlds but the excitement of this fellow at his diagnosis made me smile.  I had to contribute a post making reference to our conversations... though without reference to the specific website.  This is what I wrote...

I first came to this website after spending a fair amount of time online with men discussing gynecomastia and the reality breasts are growing on our chests. The struggle for many was whether the decision to wear a brassiere meant the men were "crossdressing." That was a bridge too far for many but our conversation soon moved to the reality developing curves made shopping on the woman's side of the aisle sensible. Diminishing testosterone seems to allow estrogen to have her way with us, so rounding curves, more relaxed mood, diminishing body hair all come with the territory. I completely fill the C cups of my 42" brassiere. Interestingly, the conversation has led to discussions about transgender possibilities. One person transitioned a few years ago. Another is so fond of women's clothes that I encouraged them to check out this website. I will fully acknowledge being non-binary, transgendered but not transitioning. My breasts are quite voluptuous and I'm happy about that... even though I have no intention to flaunt that fact outside my home.
 
I'm glad there is nothing wrong with you chest. Since you've been here a few years I can imagine the thought of having real breasts is exciting for you. I've wanted them since I first put on a brassiere when I was 12 years old... and now I have them. Amazing how our bodies change over a lifetime. Enjoy yourself. You might want to buy a new brassiere... that always gives me pleasure... [img title=Cheer]http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/images/smilies/cheer.gif[/img]

Intersecting worlds I guess... at least ithey are for me since I visit that site from time to time .

[Parity]

  I think the difference between me and a CD is, in my mind I don't have the desire to dress fully as a woman to feel complete.  I do enjoy some aspects of woman's clothing but have no desire to dress completely and present that way.  A lack of E?  Enough to develop breast but that's it?  Many based on what you say don't always have developed breast growth.  There is still a lot I don't understand about what makes me this way and stop here.  I'm happy living in a mans world being "softer".  That said I have no problem me being me and a CD being who they are.  Some mysteries are just that to me.  And that's Okay.

[42CSurprise!]

  I think the difference between me and a CD is, in my mind I don't have the desire to dress fully as a woman to feel complete...

I would look quite grotesque if I tried to pass for a woman... not going to happen.  Of course, there were women in my family with bodies like that and I've seen photos of men on the CD website who look like my grandmother.  That is not what I aspire toward.  That breasts have developed on my chest is more a surprise than anything else.  Coming to terms with that reality has been what my time here has been all about.  I'm grateful that self-acceptance has finally come my way.  That still leaves me with how best to live my life while accepting, even appreciating my breasts.

A couple of years ago I started a thread called Shame to Embarrassment to Toleration to Acceptance to Appreciation to ?

That is a journey most of us have taken, though where we are at the moment is our story to tell.  The question mark could involve transitioning or simply crossdressing.  Wherever we land is fine.  I'm content with enjoying my breasts and playing with brassieres while at home... occasionally wearing a brassiere when I'm out and about, and never wearing a brassiere when I'm with friends or at a social gathering... something that happens rarely.  We each find our own way.

[42CSurprise!]

I saw this posted on the crossdressing website in the discussion about breasts growing on their chests...

For me, the bust is primarily a torment.
 
When I crossdress, yes, there is no need to use any inserts, the bras look almost like on the model, whose picture appears on the box.

But these are only moments.

But when you're a man and have breasts of size 40C, you have to somehow hide it under the shirt, you have a big problem.
Especially in the summer.

Lately I've been trying to slim down.
I'm just afraid if the boobs will decrease in proportion to the rest.
If not, it will be even worse, and in the summer it will probably be easiest to become a woman and start parading in dresses, blouses and skirts

We may not go in that direction, but the sentiment is surely one familiar to men on this website... what to do with those breasts when layers don't make sense...

[Evolver]

  I think the difference between me and a CD is, in my mind I don't have the desire to dress fully as a woman to feel complete.  I do enjoy some aspects of woman's clothing but have no desire to dress completely and present that way.  

I'm exactly the same. I'm not a crossdresser. I feel complete as I am, although I do push some boundaries at home every now and then. I'm even starting to deliberately shop for clothing that is, although unisex, based off typical female designs and I'm happy to wear that sort of stuff in public. But dresses or high heels etc.? NO WAY! I also don't even shave my legs or chest. Another factor that sets me apart from being 'just' a crossdresser is my comfort with my given masculine name. 

A transwoman, as a woman, absolutely needs to come up with a feminine name. A crossdresser, as a female impersonator, also needs to come up with a feminine name in order to align with their appearance. Me, who started out as a boy experimenting with bras and panties and happened to grow some moobs which I welcome, isn't trying to impersonate anyone. I'm just being me, wearing items that suit my body, heart, mind and soul, and I'm happy to keep my given masculine name along with my hairy legs and chest, no matter how pretty my hair and nails are or how dainty and smooth the fabric is of the stuff I wear against my body.

Sorry if I've just blurred this thread and the 'transgender but not transitioning' one, but I think the reference to CD's is relevant.

[42CSurprise!]

  I think the difference between me and a CD is, in my mind I don't have the desire to dress fully as a woman to feel complete.  I do enjoy some aspects of woman's clothing but have no desire to dress completely and present that way. 

I'm exactly the same. I'm not a crossdresser. I feel complete as I am...

Sorry if I've just blurred this thread and the 'transgender but not transitioning' one, but I think the reference to CD's is relevant.

I bring up what I encounter on the CD website not because I'm an advocate for going in that direction.  I feel much the same as you and Parity do... even when registering on that website I couldn't find it in myself to select a feminine name.  My beard is likely older than many of the folks on this thread and it isn't going anywhere.  BUT, we are all contending with issues outside of the norm.  Not only do men not generally develop breasts they conclude would benefit from wearing a brassiere, but they also on occasion enjoy the experience of wearing panties, sleeping in a negligee, putting on nylon stockings... whether they intend to present as female or not.  We each draw the line where it feels most comfortable for us.  We know that even within this group we have one person who chose to transition and one who chooses to present each day as a woman.  They both came because they'd developed breasts and both chose the path they are on at the moment.  Neither is the path for me... hence I wrote the post Transgender but not Transitioning.  I say transgender because of the reality estrogen is taking me to a place close to the center of the gender continuum.  Honestly, that is true for all of us with burgeoning bosoms.

Gender bending is happening in many ways.  Those of us wearing brassieres are doing it that way... however we choose to describe it.  I don't call it crossdressing but my guess those who embrace crossdressing as a way of life probably would shake their heads and disagree with me... different strokes for different folks.  

[Parity]

  I tend to think of it in simple terms.

  If someone, born with an appendage between their legs and raised as a boy,  then truly feels in their head and heart they are a woman I would argue every time they dress in men's clothing they are cross dressing.  Wearing clothing you feel is wrong for you would then be cross dressing.  Shame society has the power to see things as only black and white.

[Moobzie]

Black is black. White is white.  Color blind people don't change the real colors they misperceive.  While I have compassion for the color blind, I don't change my acceptance of real colors to humor them.

[42CSurprise!]

Black is black. White is white.  Color blind people don't change the real colors they misperceive.  While I have compassion for the color blind, I don't change my acceptance of real colors to humor them.

Your Color Red Could Be My Blue.

Couldn't resist Moobzie.  

[Moobzie]

LOL