Finding what works

[Dudewithboobs]

My wife and I have always been brutally honest about most things. Intimacy being one of them. We believe it is crucial and an important area to stay focused on so we don’t just become roommates. And contrary to the plaguing of ED and other issues on my end this year due to hormones. We have always kept trying even if it seemed disappointment was inevitable. 

Recently my wife told me she would like to use her toy before we are intimate to see if it will help with her being more in the mood. I asked why this would help, not that I was against it just curious. And she bluntly told me that while everything else is great, sex itself, is just boring and she doesn’t feel much during it and feels if she could use her toy before hand then maybe during the moment itself with me would be more enjoyable. I told her I didn’t mind and we could try and sure enough it certainly has helped. 

We have tried quite a few things over the last year to no avail of making things more interesting or anticipated. But this seems to have helped her get in the mood and take care of things where I couldn’t really tend to.