newbie here...
(not surgery related)
My name is Greg.
i’m 59yrs old. For the most part I’ve coexisted with my man boobs.
I’ve had this “problem” since Jr high. i was overweight at that time.
I went out for football. The coach asked me when my baby was due and made a point to take extra time explaining what a girls menstruation is looking directly at me in health class. There were other chunky boys on the team and he didn’t shame them. I knew it was my breast that had made me his target for harassment. After that, I guess I could say that I was able to deal with the teasing and do alot of stuff “normal” guys do.
I was able to date, and do other stuff. I could even tolerate the abuse from participating in shirts/skins or swimming. But the abuse was there. I remember mostly, comments from other boys. The most common hurtful comments was their admiration of my chest, saying stuff like “wow you have a nice perky rack”, “your nipples are hard, are you happy to see me?”. Gesturing with there hands that they wanted to fondle.
I adopted the slumping posture, avoided the clingy shirts. Put a shirt on as quickly as possible when in a locker room or changing around others. I even lost 55lbs ~20yrs ago. I was 210lbs, and now weight ~158lbs. At 5’11”, I am a slim guy. I have kept active. The weight loss didn’t reduce my chest, but I felt good about my fitness. Until I see a picture of myself. Perfectly good pictures are ruined by my breast. Half of my closet is off limits because of the way they fit and the probability my boobs would be detected.
I am a guy, male, heterosexual. I like guy stuff, cars, guns, sports. Women and all that comes with them. I have a black belt in taekwondo. I program computers. But I look at my breast, and it seems easier to fanticize what it would be like if the lower part below my waist was also female. Still I am comfortable identifying as a man.
Over the last few years I have become more aware of my breast. I’m sure my age is a factor. I have adult ADHD. I am a little suspicious of my medications. My boobs are getting bigger, but the big thing I’ve noticed is they has loosened to make my breast look more like a females breast. Especially if I bend over and then look at my breast. They are there sagging straight down. I’m to the point where it may be time to look at some bras. They are more sensitive and wiggle/bounce when I’m active. I’m not in agony, but I am convinced they would feel better if supported by a bra.
I finally sat my wife down a few days ago and told her everything for the first time. The jr high coach, the perky breasts comments. I didn’t tell her I admired a couple of her bras but I did tell her a bra is an option. She is supportive but I am still not comfortable go full out to find and wear a bra. I bought a moobs compression vest from amazon. I hate it and immediately returned it. I have one nike “fitted” dry fit shirt that is tight enough to provide some smoothing of my boobs. I frequently wear it when I need to wear one of those shirts on the dark side of my closet. But I also hate it but it’s all I have. That leaves bras. I measured my band and bust and fall somewhere between 36C and 38B.
Martial arts are my passion. I wear a gi which completely hides my boobs. I can forget them and just about everything else that is occupying my brain and have fun hitting things. I do struggle with anxiety and depression. Martial arts has been good for me in so many ways, I don’t know where I would be without it.
As I mentioned I have a black belt in TKD and will soon test for second degree. I am also learning karate and want to get a black belt in karate if my body cooperates. So if anyone wants to tell me to my face that I’m a girly man because of my breasts, I say - go for it.
Stay strong my brothers.
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