Submissiveness

[Guywithgirls]

It was hit on with another thread about gynecomastia and submissibeness and seeing if they were related, but I wanted to start a new topic and see how many of us guys with gynecomastia are more on the submissive instead of dominant side? I for sure am one. I function a lot better when being told what to do, and thrive on making people happy by trying to do all I can for them. This is included at home where I prefer for my wife to "call the shots" and tell me what she wants done, and at work where I struggle to make decisions, but if someone else make a call and says what needs done I am full steam ahead to make it happen. 

Submission is well beyond the bedroom kink that society sees submissive men as. I'm wondering how many of us guys are just all around more submissive mindset and how do you express that in your everyday lifestyle? I try to get laundry done and the dishwasher going when I get home from work before my wife gets home as an example so she can be relieved when she gets home and doesn't have to worry about it. After folding and putting away my own laundry, I start folding hers without her asking. Just little things like that. 

[Busty]

Does your wife enjoy your FLR?

[Guywithgirls]

Does your wife enjoy your FLR?

What does flr stand for? 

[Busty]

Female Led Relationship 

[Guywithgirls]

Absolutely! 

[Confused old man]

This has happened to me just in the last three years with my hormone imbalance. My wife loves it. Much more submissive and a lot less aggressive. I help around the house a lot now and have better conversations with her now because because I actually like the small talk now. When I thought about going on testosterone replacement, she asked me not to because she liked me much better this way....so yes...absolutely submissive now.

[Busty]

 I suspect that when a wife is no longer interested in sex, she prefers a feminized husband, but when a wife is sexually active she wants  and is attracted to a masculine man. 

[42CSurprise!]

This has happened to me just in the last three years with my hormone imbalance. My wife loves it. Much more submissive and a lot less aggressive. I help around the house a lot now and have better conversations with her now because because I actually like the small talk now. When I thought about going on testosterone replacement, she asked me not to because she liked me much better this way....so yes...absolutely submissive now.

You describe well the full implications of how our hormone mix changes.  I wouldn't call it an imbalance simply because there is nothing wrong with what is happening... except perhaps between our ears.  This is not a medical condition that warrants treatment even though some men are so disturbed that their sex drive is diminished that they use Viagra and seek HRT.  Doctors will do that.  They will also lop off men's breasts and augment women's breasts so our ideas about who we should be in the world is supported.  But the reality, as the Mayo Clinic observes, one CAUSE of gynecomastia is AGING... that horrible disease every person eventually succumbs to.  We all are on a gender spectrum and have been our entire lives.  We may think in binary terms and doubtless have a well defined ideas of what a man or woman SHOULD be, but life demonstrates that this is an illusion.  You can imagine my shock when I discovered an attractive woman I was interested in had hair on her breasts.  That relationship didn't go very far... though of course, even then my body was unlike that of a middle linebacker.  So we become more feminized and most women will find us better companions.  Testosterone doesn't help us listen better or be kinder.  It helps us get things done, which is important... but its diminution is not a problem... it is simply the way our bodies change with time.  Enjoy the ride!

[blad]

I developed breasts in my early teen years. I was always a more restrained teen that did not fit in with the average boy.

[Busty]

Hard to fit in with the average boy when you look better in a bra than the average girl and you have more interest in and knowledge of bras than the average girl 

[42CSurprise!]

Hard to fit in with the average boy when you look better in a bra than the average girl and you have more interest in and knowledge of bras than the average girl

It is likely the testosterone remaining in our bodies that lead us to pursue the technical side of brassieres.  I've always wanted to understand how things work and have been taking things apart most of my life.  Of course, even here... I'm less curious about the technical side of brassieres than many of the men here, but that has more to do with my personal story and the fact there has always been a sexual charge associated with breasts, including my own... and brassieres.  As I say so often... different strokes for different folks.  And while I don't think of myself as submissive, I do think of myself as a considerate person in touch with my own AND other people's feelings.

I know there is a whole world of men playing the submissive game with a woman in their lives.  That fetish holds no interest for me.  

[oldguy]

We just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary.  We are both the oldest of 6.  She is 4 days older.  This is why we have acreage.  To save the neighbors.  We share responsibilities.  Since I am always willing, I defer to her as to when in the bedroom.  Detente works wonders.  I don't consider this submissiveness, as we are both very happy and often.  Yes, we play with each other's breasts.

[taxmapper]

All I can tell you is that the A-male aspect has been expected of me for my entire life. 
And I dont fit it. 
I actually hate being in leadership roles and just find myself in situations where the a-male aspect is more of a chore than natural. 

There are other reasons for that, and I think people pick up on it.  

I like to say at times that I am empathic. I can just pick up uneasiness in people and know when I am not wanted in an environment. So not so much submissiveness as just trying avoidance.   

Its a weird sensation to know what needs to be done, but no one will listen. So you have to take matters into your own hands, and when people sense that a non- a-male is leading, they get sqermy. 

[paulpark21]

Family wise, I am not submissive. Outside the family, while not actually being submissive, I generally do want to "stand out" .  I do stand up for myself if the occasion warrants..