Hi ...

[Dave88]

Hey guys, I'm not sure if this is the right place to put my 'introduction' but anyway ... i'm 16 (going on 17) and fom Scotland.
 I guess I've had gyne since i was about 13 but only recently built up the courage to actually put an appointment on with the doctor and see what was really happening.
 The doctor had an idea of what it was and sent me to a specialist at the hospital who gave me a blood test then told me to come back in a week.  The blood test showed everything to be normal and he told me about waiting it out and the gyne could go away by itself or about having surgery.  He told me if it came to surgery, he'd rather I waited until i was fully grown to do so and that i my be left with a slightly concave chest.
 I am slightly overweight but I am determined to reach a weight that i am comfortable with and not ashamed of.  I am prepared to have the surgery but i am going to wait until i am a bit older as there is still a lot of things i do not know and i'm unsure of at this time.

[doddy]

Hey. Congrats on airing it with your parents; you're braver than me in this respect!

[Dave88]

I guess i kind of have 'aired it' with them, they sort of know what gyne is as i've tried to explain it to them that one time.
 I don't think they understand how 'big a deal' it really is to me as i hide it well and i'm quite a built guy anyway.
 It's gonna be really hard when the time comes and i have to talk to them about surgery and stuff, i dont know how i'll do it.  :-/

[doddy]

Sorry, I don't know why I said what I said, I must have misread your post.

When are you going to try bring it up with them? I'm not really the best person to ask.. I'm going for surgery at the start of next month with NO ONE knowing about it  

[Dave88]

I have no idea of when i'll try and bring it up and how i'm going to do it.  I don't really talk much to my family about personal stuff really anyway so this is going to be 100x harder.
 Something tells me they'd be against the surgery though, i don't know what it is, they're the kind of 'if it's not broken - don't fix it' sort of people but i know i'll have to explain to them sometime if i'm going to do this.

Wow, you're going to do this without anyone knowing     Can i ask how old you are ?
I hope everything works out well for you, good luck with everything !

[doddy]

Cheers, you too. I'm 18 and a half. I know exactly what you mean about not talking to your family about this sort of thing much.. hence why I haven't.

I'm sure I can handle it  

[Dave88]

That would be amazing if I could not tell anyone, like you are.  It would save a lot of unneeded stress and hassle but i don't know how i could do it alone.
 I want to wait untill i'm a bit older anyway, probably around your age untill i get something done about my gyne.
 I've still got quite a while to plan everything out, so we'll see what happens  

[RRB]

Its easy to tell your parents.  Print out some info from this site, hand it to them, ask them to read it and then tell them thats what you have.  How they react is a different story.  My mum was totally understanding as was my best friend and my sister.  I actually felt better after i told people. Thats just me though, it may be different for others.

[brother_gyne]

I had it for 20 years and didn't tell anyone, thank god for the internet. I'm not sure what telling my parents  would have done for me. I wish now I had gone to my gp, that can get you somewhere.

I'm a parent now, I thought my son was getting it but I think he has grown out of it. Again I did not talk to him about it.

Why tell your parents anything- where does this thing come from. My son has his own space- I never go in his bedroom, I never ask him about his friends or what he is doing or where he is going. He has a mobile if he gets into trouble,

[RRB]

Why tell your parents anything- where does this thing come from.  

Well for me i had to borrow half the money for my op from my mum so i had to tell her what it was for.

[Yorkshireman]

I didnt tell anyone, and to date no-one has noticed! It can be done, but it takes some planning, and a good excuse as to where you'll be for a few days..I guess if you're young, you may need to tell your parents as it aint exactly a cheap op....

[Dave88]

Yeah, I don't know how I'd ever manage to get the money together to pay for the op. without the help of my family, so I guess I'd need to tell them.
 I like RRB's advice about printing some stuff off about it then letting my parents read for themselves to show them what i have, I think that would be the easiest way to do it.

Thanks for all your help and advice guys it's appreciated.