I am a 25 years old male with gyne and an odd shape. I have had this problem since 6th grade I think. I have big boobs, big butt, thick wide hips, thick thighs, and curvy legs. I have a thyroid problem that's been detected since my senior year of high school (due to applying for college-physical) and I had my endocrinologist (sp?) check all my hormone levels and asked him did I have any problems with genetics or hormones. He took alot of tests and told me no. My new endocrinologist told me that the last specialist took every test he could and said my hormone levels are normal. My body image is very poor and causes me to be depressed. I wear a small compression band with velcro over my chest to make it look kinda flat. I was chubby in middle and high school. My senior year of high school I lost weight by working a job, thyrold problem, and being active. When I went to college...I did gain a lil weight back gradually. I finished school 4 years ago and found a full time job. In '04 I noticed I was gaining some weight so in '05 I worked out hard and I got my weight at a decent level....6' and 184 lbs. Then I took a turn for the worst in '06...6' 200 lbs and '07...6' 220 lbs by gaining alot of weight. Now in '08 I have gained even more weight and it is showing...6' and 235 lbs. It is very easy for me to gain weight due to my body shape, thyroid issue, and heredity...my grandfather was very big and some in my family are overweight. I know my uncle who died (something to do with asthma) had breasts and he had them removed and I heard there were milk in them. He was completely straight and had 2 sons who have normal bodies...one with a pretty toned and muscular body but the other has gained alot of weight in the last 5 years....but no real boob problem. I think another uncle has small boobs but he looks masculine and has a kid and was straight. I am bisexual and I think this may have something to do with it..but that's another long story. I look pretty good in the face (would be better if I didn't gain so much weight) but my problem is my body shape and gyne. Most women don't like men with big thick hips, curvy legs and boobs and the same goes with gay/bi men. The only men who would like it are predominately straight and horny men in jail who haven't seen a women in a while. I also hate wearing my compression bad in front of my chest. I had some sewing lady design me one and she made it with velcro and I hide the velcro part under my arm. At work, there are 2 big girls (very sloppy bodies but who am I to talk) who like me but they always wanna feel on me and I don't mind it (well I actually like it and it turns me on) until they feel on my chest. When they feel on my chest I get really uncomfortable and paranoid. One felt on it and she was like your chest is hard...is it a fake chest? I was like nah...and thinking in my head if she knew what I had on she would really be shocked. So girls have been a big problem for me throughout life and so has guys. Gay guys mostly like either skinny dudes or athletic built dudes and not into dudes my built. That is reasonable I guess because they are gay...which mean they not into the boobs, hips, thick legs and vagina. Gay dudes are so particular about bodies and I am attracted to dudes with manly builts and girls with feminine bodies. Its just the bisexual part of me. And I am into some thick and kinda big girls and dudes but if the chemistry isn't there...all I can be is friends and I am not the type who forces being with someone who I am not physically attracted to just to have somebody. I really am not shallow and very nice...sometimes too nice...but quiet (always been quiet and was very quiet in school) and sometimes feel like I can't fully be myself around people so I may turn some people off with my personality. My body and gyne issue has me very insecure and a lil paranoid at times...that is a major part of my problem. So its really hard for me to find somebody who is really into me. I also gained so much weight that some strechmarks are starting to show on the lower part of my stomach. I don't know what I am going to do about that. I am just starting to work out alot to show the results I did in '05 but my schedule (work, social groups, church, family, etc.) has be very busy...and in '05 I wasn't involved in as much plus I was working in a different department so I had time to work out more...but I am just going to have to force it in. Surgery costs so much that I would have to save up years for it...especially with the current economy and gas/food costing so much. I also wear baggy clothes when going out because I feel unattractive in more fitted clothes. I am a minority who loves clothes from stores like Banana Republic, H&M, Gap and Abercrombie but you know how those stores cater to thin, athletic and average built guys...and thick dudes like myself have to resort to wearing urban and some casual clothes so I can look normal and hide this gyne. I know my major priority right now should be losing weight (at least 30-40 lbs) and I will do that but even when I was in the 180's...I still had issues and kinda big boobs. I had to wear tight undershirts and my compression pad. I will buy a vest to see if that works.
What would yall do in my situation? I know this is a lot to read but I wanted yall to know as much as possible about my situation so you could give me some decent advice and reasonable methods to solving my problem. I am glad I found this website because after reading some of your stories...I feel like I am not alone with gyne.
Topic: Please Help Me...25 YO (Read 2086 times)
