Did I just throw away 3500$ ?

[NIN0808]

gofast_er, check your pm.

[gofast_er]

interesting...I went to a dermatologist the first time as well. Apparantly alot of them sell the client on the fact that they can work on the "skin" better than many plastic surgeons.  My dermatolgist had been doing a lot of lypo for womens stomachs and things like that.

When I visited he told me to that he could get a 50 percent improvment.....$4000 later i knew it was a mistake. When I removed the bandages I was flatter...but those damn nips still stuck out.

When Dr Bermant fixed the first docs work I knew immediatly that i was fixed!  Flat from the very beginning.  Go see a real ps and you will be fine. You are just a few weeks away from a new guy. You can wait that much longer.

I'm not worried so much about my nipples. I was told basically the same thing. About a 50% improvement. At the time I thought it would be cool. But yeah, same boat as you. Big mistake. I want to make sure that everyone know Dr. Melton in no way lied to me. He and his staff were very nice and made me feel comfortable. That being said I wish I would have instead looked for someone that would have done an excision as well as lipo.

[thetodd]

he hasnt lied to you go_fast, hes decieved you and its disgusting

Hes conning everyone he works on, with gyne. He will know that liposuction isnt a suitable treatment for gynecomastia hes just saying that because he isnt qualified enough to do the excision. Every person that he works on that has gynecomastia and he diagnoses it as "Pseudogynecomastia"  hes just taking their money and running. Not only that he really seems to be crap at liposuction

Im glad youve got your mums support now, your on the way to getting a decent surgeon and being gyne free. I wish you the best of luck

thetodd

[losernumber1]

Looks like you nees excision

[gofast_er]

he hasnt lied to you go_fast, hes decieved you and its disgusting

Hes conning everyone he works on, with gyne. He will know that liposuction isnt a suitable treatment for gynecomastia hes just saying that because he isnt qualified enough to do the excision. Every person that he works on that has gynecomastia and he diagnoses it as "Pseudogynecomastia"  hes just taking their money and running. Not only that he really seems to be crap at liposuction

Im glad youve got your mums support now, your on the way to getting a decent surgeon and being gyne free. I wish you the best of luck

thetodd

Thank you for all your responses. I can't wait to finally get an excision. I've been living with this condition for so long though I guess I can live with it a little longer. I hope it isn't too long though

[milesed1]

So sorry you're having to go through all of this post-op mess. I'm glad you told your mom. She sounds great.

[gofast_er]

So sorry you're having to go through all of this post-op mess. I'm glad you told your mom. She sounds great.

I just hope she eventually helps me out. She wants me to wait at least 3 months before I do anything though. I am no surgen but I also don't think I'm an idiot. I can tell what is swollen and what is still breast and even fat tissue left.
I can't believe I have to go through yet ANOTHER summer like this. Man, it has taken it's toll.....I can't even put into words how bad it has affected EVERY aspect of my life. I hate it. I don't want it to. But, it's something I can't just turn off. Hell, I never told a single sole for almost 16 years. I just remained hidden.
I even went through 4 years of active duty army and the ONLY time anyone ever saw me without a shirt was in basic training. Of course being in a big room full of about 50 naked guys, no one is going to call me out because then they will be admitting that they are looking at another guy.
I don't know how I managed to remain hidden in the army like that. It was an amazing challenge but I guess I just got really good at hiding it.
It's eating away at me more and more as the years go on. I don't know how much longer I can do this. But, I just.......I don't know.
I'll post pics about 2 weeks post op. Not now though, it's a little late.
Unfortunatly, I don't have any good preop pics. I don't know why I didn't think to take any! But sadly, I probably wouldn't have needed them. There is LITTLE change.

[Jake]

Now let's not get hasty.  Trying to rush things will only get you burned in the end. 

gofast_er, your Mom sounds very understanding.  The last thing you want to hear is to wait three more months, but it's better to play it safe.  Trust me, even if the last op was a dud, it's better to be all healed up when a real surgeon operates on you.  It can only help to produce better end results.

You've waited quite a while, waiting a bit longer shouldn't kill you.   

I've found that when you ARE this close to the solution, it's better to slow things down and make good decisions (even if it means waiting a little longer).  There are plenty more summers ahead of you.

Good luck my friend.

[mrpower33]

I agree with Jake.  You need to calm down and figure out what your next steps are.  Have you picked a surgeon yet?  You can start researching that now even if you have the surgery later.  I highly recommend that you go with one of the trusted surgeons on this forum.  If your mom has the money, you should get her to LOAN it to you and make sure you pay her back later.  This is a problem that can fixed, but you have to be extra careful that you do it right this time.  If you have to travel for it, you need to make plans for that as well, it will be well worth it.

[gofast_er]

Does your mom want you to wait three months in order to see the end result, with the possibility of that result being the solution.  Or does she accept the need for another surgery already and just wants you to wait three months so your body can heal and stabilize before the additional surgery?

If she thinks the first thing I mentioned, then you must convince her right now that this surgery was a joke, and that the problem is not fixed and won't be without another surgery.

If she thinks the second thing I mentioned, then that is somewhat more reasonable.  However, I would ask the doctors here or research and find out, based off the specifics of your case, if it is possible to get another surgery immediately.

If you are able to get another surgery immediately, then you must convince your mom to help you fund it immediately. That way, you can get this done this summer and be done with it once and for all.

Waiting around with the problem after coming so close to the solution, is life consuming and dangerous for your mental health.

Like I said, if poyyible, you've got to get this done.

And by the way, what happened to the surgeon?  Did you confront him yet?  What are your plans?  We want to know.

Just to update. Good news and bad news. Bad news first. My mom actually told me I shoud go see a freakin shrink! I couldn't believe it! I guess the only real question I would have for her is, would she pay for me to see another shrink when I realized I just spent enought money to where I could of just had a revision and been done with it? Sadly, I am the one that has been living with this. I know no head doc is going to make me feel any better about it.
Now for the good news. Well, it's kind of a mixture. To understand why I have all this you have to know this. I was in the army. So then getting surgery just was not an option. I know that doesn't mean I shouldn't have been saving while on active duty so when I got out I could get it done. But, what's done is done. I started skydiving back in 2000. While deployed to Iraq I bought quite a lot of new skydiving gear. After getting out I almost stopped jumping entirly and have a lot of gear that is almost in new condition. I finally decided to break and sell my gear. All totaled I should get about 55 hundred to 6 thousand. I pray this will be enough. I fully plan to do it right this time. If that means I have to get on a plane and fly half way across the country, pay for a hotel on top of the surgery, than that's what I'll do. I listed my stuff on a website much like this only for skydivers and base jumpers. I have already had a few inquires. I have a feeling I'm going to be able to sell my stuff pretty fast. I'm bummed to see it go but I can always buy more gear. I wont be bummed to see my chest go!
I'm thinking I should start looking for a good doctor. If anyone has any recomendations that would be much appreciated!

[anon85]

If you're willing to travel, as you said, then Dr. Bermant in VA or Dr. Jacobs in NY are probably the two most highly recommended on these forums from what I've read. (Those are links to their member page, check their sigs for contact info.)

[mrpower33]

That is totally bizarre what your mom said, have you actually shown her your boobs? I can't imagine how she could say you're crazy, you need this surgery for sure.  That's a great idea to raise the money, good luck. 

I highly recommend Bermant, but Virginia is not the most convenient place to get to, there were no direct flights from where I live (Los Angeles).  I have no doubt that he will be able to take care of it for you though, but he is not the cheapest option.  I have a total cost breakdown in the "Surgery Experiences" thread, just look around for it. 

[thetodd]

Your mum's just worried mate, i think she just doesnt want you rushing into another surgery and things going wrong. Make sure you recover enough from this lipo before you go back and have a full excision. Just make it clear that you will not be seeing a shrink and you want her support for your next surgery.

i know you lads are going "you should go back and get your money back!". It will be a waste of time the money in plastic surgery is HUGE. And they make sure they keep it that way by getting rock solid legal agreements written up. All of the "release" forms that you sign is just for them to cover their own arses. Lets not forget that this guy has said he will do liposuction and thats what will be on go_fast_ers forms not. "Gynecomastia Surgery to a satisfactory extent" and what hes done is shoddy liposuction

although what hes done is deceptive and tottally medically unproffeshional. Hes completley covered his arse and he will have NO course of comeback. The guys a crook all he is going to offer is further surgeries and i wouldnt let the prick near me. If you want to try and get your money back put it down in writing and go down that course!

[GynO_DuDe]

Thats mums for you ... regardless of your problems she will say your normal, because your her child & she believes your perfect.

As you get older, you realise your parents aren't right ...

Anyway, good luck, you seem to know what your doing now so I KNOW you will eventually have this sorted very soon and all this will just be a bad memory.

[GynO_DuDe]

Your mum's just worried mate, i think she just doesnt want you rushing into another surgery and things going wrong. Make sure you recover enough from this lipo before you go back and have a full excision. Just make it clear that you will not be seeing a shrink and you want her support for your next surgery.

i know you lads are going "you should go back and get your money back!". It will be a waste of time the money in plastic surgery is HUGE. And they make sure they keep it that way by getting rock solid legal agreements written up. All of the "release" forms that you sign is just for them to cover their own arses. Lets not forget that this guy has said he will do liposuction and thats what will be on go_fast_ers forms not. "Gynecomastia Surgery to a satisfactory extent" and what hes done is shoddy liposuction

although what hes done is deceptive and tottally medically unproffeshional. Hes completley covered his arse and he will have NO course of comeback. The guys a crook all he is going to offer is further surgeries and i wouldnt let the prick near me. If you want to try and get your money back put it down in writing and go down that course!

Agreed.

Surgeons have their contracts to cover their arses so I highly doubt you'll be seeing a penny of what you paid.

The only way you can effect this surgeons name is to find every single cosmetic surgery forum, sign up, and post your experience, making people who 'research surgery' aware that this guy misleads/plays with words to get gynecomastia sufferers on to the operating table and performs nothing but minor liposuction feeding their already damaged mind in to believing their going to be rectified after surgery.