I had surgery about 18 months ago and since gyne has gone from having a firm grip on my life and the decisions I make to something that is ultimately still there but has less of an impact. Before surgery I would never really take of a hoodie no matter how hot it was, whereas now I feel moderately comfortable in a shirt but as long as I have a vest underneath, so in my view a success.
I think the gyne is still there and I spend a lot of time in the mirror trying to gauge on how bad it is and whether I can take my shirt off in public. It's slowly creeping back into my life and now that I'm close to being twenty I don't want gyne to continue causing problems, I'm scared of holidays and have turned down a few holiday offers and also reject offers to go swimming and offers to go to the beach when I'd really like to go. This all worries me because I could be doing more with my life. I'm also scared of effectively wasting my 20s and not doing anything special when all my friends go traveling and get into serious relationships etc.
I've also never had a relationship (some of the blame goes to gyne) and I'm thinking that I wouldn't mind that now, although I fear getting into a relationship with gyne.
Luckily I've managed to build up a decent circle of friends at home, despite being fairly poor socially and also a few friends at uni. So I don't feel that gyne has ruined me, but just made things uncomfortable and most times I wake I get negative feelings about gyne.
But now is the time to truly put a stop to it, before I do start wasting opportunities. I'm thinking of going in for second surgery but am yet to bring this up with my parents. Who are the only people I've told about it. I was just thinking of asking a few questions about it:
- Have you ever had second surgery? If so was it with the same surgeon or a different one?
- Is having a second surgery common?
- Any ideas and chances of success?
- Also, is there any way of getting some fat off, eating healthily and exercising? I do this a lot but could give it a real go
- I've started benching in the gym, will this have any implications and are there any chest exercises to reduce gyne like incline or wide grip bench press?