Wearing a bra for now

[Harmony74]

Has anybody tried these?  Curious as to how heavy they are, like if you sit out in the sun for any length or time are you going to overheat quickly.

I can let you know. Mine is on order. 

[Conor W]

I have ordered one of these beefcake outfits. The original one. 

Been working at home doing this admin role on the computer and zoom. It is sort of natural now in a morning to get dressed and put my bra on. I still look in the mirror and see the mismatch body of boxers and bra. But it’s comfier sitting at the computer working in a bra rather than the binder or nothing. And round the house I can just t shirt or polo shirt it. My dad pretends nothing is different. 

[Conor W]

Turns out my dad does talk. Late last night he knocked on my bedroom door and came in asking if I was ok. A bit awkward, he asked how bad my chest was and I just lifted by t shirt up. It was just before I went to bed so no bra, just my boobs and nipples on show. I could see how shocked he was. He just said it’s something mum would be better at dealing with, if we had the money he would pay to get it sorted and said I can see why mum thinks a bra is a good idea, I was bigger than some girls. Asked if my friends were ok. Said mum thought hospital review maybe next year which I sort of knew. And I’ll be at university by then.

[blad]

Turns out my dad does talk. Late last night he knocked on my bedroom door and came in asking if I was ok. A bit awkward, he asked how bad my chest was and I just lifted by t shirt up. It was just before I went to bed so no bra, just my boobs and nipples on show. I could see how shocked he was. He just said it’s something mum would be better at dealing with, if we had the money he would pay to get it sorted and said I can see why mum thinks a bra is a good idea, I was bigger than some girls. Asked if my friends were ok. Said mum thought hospital review maybe next year which I sort of knew. And I’ll be at university by then.

At age 14 I spent about 2-3 days at a children's hospital to investigate my breasts. They physically examined them, took pictures of them and me, did blood tests and what ever. About 4 months later my dad just says that I have some genetic gene something or other and could pursue treatment if I wanted when I was older. That was it on the topic.

My mom saw me one day when I was about 13 years old looking down at my boobs in my room, and she just acknowledged that I was a bit chestier than some of my friends, (no kidding). That was it, no bra talk like some of you had. I really needed a bit more home support but it was a bit of a don't ask and don't tell think. Perhaps everyone was just a bit to embarrassed to discuss the obvious and I did not visibly complain enough. 

[Conor W]

He’s been fine about it, only another week at home before Dad goes back to work. The bra talk was marginally less embarrassing than when the young doctor who examined me. He was a gym bodied guy basically fondling my boobs and when he felt the nipples they went hard. I went red and he looked me in the eye and smiled. So embarrassing.
It was Christmas when my mum suggested moving from binders to bras. I think she felt more able to do that after we saw the main doctor following the mammogram and tests. At home it’s not too bad. I feel like friends treat me slightly differently now it’s a bit more obvious. But I admit it’s comfier wearing a bra than a binder. I do feel a bit stupid looking in the mirror in bra and  boxers. But when the t shirt or shirt is on it’s ok.,

[Conor W]

Well, I’m trying to cope with it all. It’s just all a bit surreal. Yesterday, my mum and dad went shopping and came back with a pack of three blue bras in my size from Matalan, mum threw them on my bed and said try one tomorrow. Apparently they were cheap. Anyhow, they are slightly different design but it fits and is comfy. It said plunge on the packet and I think it’s if you wear shirts more open. She asked me this morning.I said it was fine. But takes pressure of the washing for the ones I wear all the time now. I think she thought blue was more male! 

My friends are fine. I just sense the girls see me as one of them more and the lads look at my boobs more than me. 

[curiousk]

It's true that in a lot of ways that you become " one of the girls".   You can relate to them on a different level and you have something in common.  Breasts, bras, clothing choices, insecurities about your breasts, etc.  make you relatable with women.   
Since I work with 95% women, most of them know that I wear a bra and have been helpful with tips, clothing choices, etc.  In a weird way, I feel connected to them.  I have male friends that I spend time with, but it just different.

[Johndoe1]

Of the several women who know, they do interact with me differently now. I am "part of the club." Many are curious if my experience are similar to them and they seem surprised to find out that boobs on a guy are no different than boobs on a girl. I have many of the same complaints and problems with style, fit and clothing as they do. They touch me differently. Some avoid where the straps and the band are and others make a point to touch those areas. I have one very good friend will occasionally in private pat the top of one of my boobs in a act of solidarity when I have unloaded on her. She too is large breasted. She has been my biggest supporter and a sounding board when things come up. It's good to have those folks in your life. You just have to choose carefully and how much information you give up to whom.

[Conor W]

Well, I feel the girls amongst my friends do see me differently now. I think they knew about my boobs as they could see but now they are “officially” aware of my bra it’s a licence to talk about them. At the weekend one asked if they felt different through the month, had I tried different bras, was I bigger or smaller than my sister and worryingly saying they could go bigger. 

The guys look at my boobs snd not my face. Sort of jealous of their gym bodies and looks. I feel inbetween  the two groups. 

[blad]

Going forward in university and beyond, most people if any will not know you were a bra unless you tell them, or unless you wear shirts that do not hide it sufficiently. It is up to you whether you want to share that aspect of your life and who you want to share it with. 

[Traveler]

Blad is right. I’m currently in a DD bra and almost no one has noticed.  A patterned button down shirt does a great job of obscuring the bra and the projection.

[Conor W]

Just been a sort of normal week. Wearing a bra every day now normal. Feel better than I ever did squashing them in a binder. Round the house it’s fine, I’m a little more conscious out as I wear loose clothes and I think you can see the mounds at the front. It’s hot so difficult to wear thicker shirts. I looked in the mirror on Saturday and they seem to really fill the bra, feel heavy in it. My mate came round and he’s ok but I see his eyes looking at my boobs. Yesterday I was at my close female friends house. Debras mum who has known me for years was openly talking to me about it. Said I should think about buying some ladies style polo shirts and tops that are built to accommodate boobs more, asked me what size I was. Embarrassing in a way but she means well. 

[Johndoe1]

Any of us who have large breasts do wear some type of women's tops. Not always ideal, but there are times when it is not a bad idea. They are made to accommodate a bosom where men's shirts do not. Just look for polo's that look like men's in the neck. They do make those styles. Also unisex polo's are a good choice as well. The idea is to accommodate the chest, not accentuate it.

I think we all have female friends or relatives who we can go to for advice. I would use them. I wish when I was your age I had someone I could confide in. I didn't. Not until years later. The best piece of advice I have gotten has come from a dear female friend on when she found out I wore bras. Just one look and it was obvious a bra could only help. It was "bras don't change who you are, but makes you a more comfortable person." And she was right. I think you are finding out about the comfort part. I think you will also find out, you will have not changed either. A bra is just like any other garment I wear. It has its ups and downs, but I am glad I started supporting my breasts. It has given me an aire of confidence I didn't think I had anymore. And if you wear a bra to support your breasts, then that's no one's business but yours. It's your body and your breasts. You are the one to have to live with them. No one else.

Hang in there. You're doing good.

[gizmodude]

I've just caught up on some of your posts. You point out that the contrast between seeing yourself in a bra and boxers makes you uncomfortable or at the very least 'unbalanced'. You could talk to your mom about buying panties in the same colors as your bras. They would match and it may make you feel more at ease with yourself. You can buy some comfortable sets and maybe you, your mom, and your sister could organize a trip to VS to treat yourselves. 

[Conor W]

Well, I’m trying. I have to live with this as no one seems to be in a hurry to see me at the hospital or do anything about it. And we can’t afford private treatment. It does just seem like something I wear and I’m sort of used to it . Certainly at home lounging about I forget. I know that because the other day I was sat in the lounge watching TV, my sister and her boyfriend came in chatting and I only remembered ten minutes in that I was sat in a t shirt with my bra on. I realised when I saw him looking. My sister saw my panic I think and just said he knows, don’t worry. With an old t shirt and jogging bottoms round the house the mounds are noticeable. To be honest, I think they are noticeable whatever when it’s too hot to wear a t shirt and shirt over.