Ben,
Most here or at least many will tell you that with your breasts under the control of a good bra, they become less noticeable. Without a bra, they tend to have a mind of their own and bounce around accordingly.
I do understand what you're saying. At least when it comes to your breasts, you didn't have a choice. When you put on a bra because you have breasts, it IS your choice. I think that wearing a bra when you have breasts is a good choice.
❤️Sophie ❤️