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Offline Busty

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The tummy support is a good argument for compression pantyhose. In my late 20s I got the first compression pantyhose by prescription. These hadn't much tummy support and since I didn't shave my legs at that time they were sliding down. The saleswoman in the orthopedic shop suggested to wear a panty girdle, preferably with long legs for not to impede the circulation in the groin area. It was an excellent advice and I have worn pantyhose with a long leg panty girdle for some decades.

Later back pain developed due to my osteochondrosis (reduced disks of my lumbar spine). Thus I switched to corselettes (open or panty style) with garters to which I could wear compression stockings. Developing breasts and wearing bras came much later in my mid 40s.
Your body requires clothing women typically need to wear. 
The saleswoman who suggested you start wearing panty girdles was most impressive recognizing that 

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While I don’t have the shape to wear women’s jeans, I definitely have the shape for women’s tops. I still wear male shirts as it does a good job of obscuring my boobs. Wearing the correct size female tops keeps me from looking sloppy and I love the look, but other people? Don’t think they’re ready for that. 😁

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The tummy support is a good argument for compression pantyhose. In my late 20s I got the first compression pantyhose by prescription. These hadn't much tummy support and since I didn't shave my legs at that time they were sliding down. The saleswoman in the orthopedic shop suggested to wear a panty girdle, preferably with long legs for not to impede the circulation in the groin area. It was an excellent advice and I have worn pantyhose with a long leg panty girdle for some decades.

Later back pain developed due to my osteochondrosis (reduced disks of my lumbar spine). Thus I switched to corselettes (open or panty style) with garters to which I could wear compression stockings. Developing breasts and wearing bras came much later in my mid 40s.
Your body requires clothing women typically need to wear.
The saleswoman who suggested you start wearing panty girdles was most impressive recognizing that
Busty, I agree completely. I was in email contact a few times with 'Ivy' from the website corsetiere.net. (The website is down for some weeks, I don't know why). In a mail I stated that wearing girdles is not a question of sex but a question of the body. If you need it, maybe for weak connective tissue which leads to a sagging belly or for developing breasts or for back pain (to mention only some examples) everybody, female or male, should wear them. She didn't relate to this topic in her answer, since she obviously disagreed.

Their website with the table of contents is down, but you can reach the pages of it directly, for instance this one, in which men tell their stories why they wore girdles even at a young age. Scroll down until you reach the picture on the right side with the description "The Danny Thomas Show pokes fun at a husband who has tried on his wife's girdle." Then you see links on the left to the stories of several men.

https://www.corsetiere.net/Spirella/Otherside.htm

A bra is just an article of clothing for people with breasts.

Offline JTL

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Wearing the correct size female tops keeps me from looking sloppy and I love the look, but other people? Don’t think they’re ready for that. 😁
This statement is so true, and what I conform to everyday. I have two wardrobes: One, to maintain my heterosexual male image when out in public. I usually wear a bra and panties under my male garments, but they are well hidden. My "at home" wardrobe is for comfort. It consists of women's jeans, slacks and women's tops. I don't wear dresses or skirts because I'm a big guy with a full beard and I think I would look silly.

I don't get any thrill from wearing women's garments, but they fit me and are comfortable. I'm not gay. I'm not trans. I'm just me, which is a person with both a penis and breasts. The general public can't get their head around that. Thankfully, I am married to a woman who does understand it.

Offline taxmapper

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Interesting note: 

Last night the other half got a package of winter clothing and some cris cross bras from the Jungle Merchant. 

She gave me the Dk. Grey one she hates the color of. 

Oh Lord did it feel good! 

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My doctor sent me to a psychiatrist to treat my "gender dysphoria". I met with her on Friday. 

She calls me "Birdie" and was very nice. She said, "you don't have gender dysphoria, you are intersex. You are simply trying to locate where you fit into society."

She was supposed to talk with my doctor and nurse about it. I'm not too hopeful in their response. 

I explained that I don't own any men's clothing at all, and my father sent me for testosterone treatments when I was in my teens to try and "fix things." How grandma taught me to sew, knit, cater weddings and make the dresses. Grew up kind of 'tomboyish' until my father stepped in. 

At least once person in my medical care plan supports me and my views. 
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That's good to hear Birdie. Intersex is not well understood and you are the one who knows who you are.

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Sometimes you have to find the person with credibility to listen. 
its a damn tough proposition, but it can pan out. 

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Acceptance of garments.

Whether for physical support of breasts or to cater for a feminine figure in other ways, clothing from the other side of the aisle is often going to be questioned by 'outsiders' as wrong, regardless of our own need for it, especially if they can't immediately see the physical need. Of course, they could never see the mental need as well. We probably all fantasize that we can educate the world, but it just ain't gonna happen. It's nice to have allies though. Even though he wore 'questionable' clothing for non-physical reasons, Boy George nailed it on our TV here this evening. "It's just fabric" he said. No truer words have ever been spoken.

I know that line has been said plenty of times on this forum amongst us before, but it is nice to get some mainstream backing. Regardless of the reason, they are just clothes, whatever the item. Enjoy them!

Boy George: Why I Don't Care What People Think Of My Clothes


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Interesting interview. Boy George said that he didn't want to shock people, but instead "I just wanted to be myself".

It seems that he wears a slight pink lipstick. Well, he always was 'genderfluid' as someone would call it today. There are/were more artists this way like the late David Bowie or the British comedian Eddie Izzard.

Quote on Eddie Izzard:
She states that the way she dresses is neither part of her performance, nor a sexual fetish: "I don't call it drag; I don't even call it cross-dressing. It's just wearing a dress. It's not about artifice. It's about me just expressing myself".

Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eddie_Izzard

I don't know how long it will take that wearing dresses or skirts (not kilts) for men is becoming 'normal', but all males who do this can help to reach this goal.

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I wear compression pantyhose almost daily, and I think they make my legs look awesome. Of course I suffer from leg swelling, so they compression is needed.

My insurance only pays for heavy compression socks, and I refuse to wear them. I also have several pairs of thigh high compression stockings, but the pantyhose also provide tummy support.

I pass at the stuffy day-centre because the compression support is prescribed by my doctor, just like my bras. 😉

Birdie 💖
Medical compression pantyhose is a must for me for 37 years now, more than half of my life. And as you Birdie, I don't need to wear a panty girdle with them anymore since the body part of the hose is with compression too. Not as much as the legs but enough to support my belly. The one on the pic is a Juzo Dynamic in compression class 2.

https://www.juzousa.com/Products/Compression-Stockings/Model/Dynamic-Stockings

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And the underside of your breasts is slightly visible at the top of the picture.  You definitely have full breasts!

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And the underside of your breasts is slightly visible at the top of the picture.  You definitely have full breasts!
Busty, you are right. But as already mentioned, at first the other changes of my body occured and my breasts came much later at about 45 years. But the saleslady at the orthopedic supplier from which I received my pantyhose and girdles for years said "you're already wearing items which are parts of undergarments for females as pantyhose and girdles for a long time, then you can also wear a bra. You just need it." She was right.

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But the saleslady at the orthopedic supplier from which I received my pantyhose and girdles for years said "you're already wearing items which are parts of undergarments for females as pantyhose and girdles for a long time, then you can also wear a bra. You just need it." She was right.
I like and agree with what she said.  It is nice when we run into people like that who set aside convention, and who just get it right. 

Offline Gino

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Being 5'3" with a size 6 1/2 shoe made for a lifelong struggle with men's clothing and I've just about always worn women's sneakers, loafers and other "almost male" shoes because my shoe size is more than difficult to find. Pants, jeans and tank tops were an off the shelf decision versus long needing alteration, and ill fitting shirts. 

Now that I'm fully developed wearing a bra is just a natural choice though I admit to liking more feminine styles which my GF actually likes. 


 

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