Kindred Spirits

[42CSurprise!]

I've been enjoying the holidays at home wearing one or another of my favorite brassieres, all of which have appeared at one time or another on the What Am I Wearing Today thread in the Photo forum.  I've mentioned in the past that I've visited a number of other websites where men are playing with gender, including a crossdressing website...  https://www.crossdressers.com/forums/

Yesterday I visited and checked out a thread I've visited before with the title "I've Got Boobs."  I previously shared on that thread the fact I hang out on a website for men contending with gynecomastia.  On this later visit I noted that that particular thread is the second longest on the website.  As I read I kept hearing stories much like what are shared here... early breast development for some, development as a result of aging and of medications taken.  There was appreciation of having breasts and enjoying wearing brassieres.  For some men there was envy.  They love wearing women's clothes not because they have breasts, but because they would love to have them.

The most visited thread on that site also has a ring of familiarity since it is occasionally discussed here.  That thread is "Straight, Bi or Other."  Most of the men are straight.  What is interesting is that these men often have the difficulties we do with acceptance of our circumstances for people in our lives.  I know many of the men here have wives who are supportive but that isn't always the case.  It likely becomes more difficult as our growing curves leads us to the women's side of the aisle in department stores.  I know the idea of "crossdressing" is anathema for most of the men here, even if they are more comfortable wearing women's pants or shirts.  Needless to say that is not troubling the men at that website.  As I've mentioned before there are generally hundreds of men on that site at any given time.  Nice to know that among them are men like us who are navigating the world of really having breasts of our own that we can take care of and enjoy...  

[blad]

For me it is very unlikely that without the development of my boobs, as a teen in my case, that I would have ever considered exploring bras. 

Bras lead to panties as it just seems a better match if you are wearing a bra. It stopped there for me.  

[Dudewithboobs]

Same. I developed at 32, 38 now and almost a c cup. When I accepted the fact that being able to wear a bra turned in to needing a bra it became a normalized item of day to day wear. That eventually became second nature and when buying a new bra one day in the store the underwear wall was next to, and curiosity got the best of me. It is just a better fit and comfort. There’s no feminine intention or design to wearing them just a wow these really just fit and feel better. Especially as a an avid runner just easier to change and keep things together rather than bunching like boxers. 
I also wear women’s jeans and tank tops because of my chest and minimizing things as men’s are just looser fit that lets things jiggle a little more than I like whereas women’s keeps me in place when braless. And jeans just because they are more comfortable and straight cut are passable enough as men’s that no one notices or comments. Even the wife has commented my new jeans. She’s not one who would applaud or welcome them if women’s so I know they are just a good look. 
I don’t consider myself a cross dresser just someone who has mild to moderate breast development that warrants a bra and over time has allowed me to be more open to other things. 

[42CSurprise!]

This morning I visited a website for folks who want to develop larger breasts and they have on forum devoted to "Men Staying Men."  I guess there are many responses in the world to having breasts.  This one exists because a plastic surgeon is offering to remove them for men who are disturbed by this development.  Interesting that by far the majority of men who visit this site are on the acceptance side of the site... though those men are also posting on the general side.  It hasn't been lost on my that there are a GREAT many more views of photos posted here than there are men actually making comments.  I interpret that to mean there are many folks interested in seeing men's breasts and perhaps the brassieres we're wearing.  What could that possibly be about?

There is no doubt that we each have our own journeys with breasts that have developed on our chests.  We have one good friend who after years of living as a man with prominent breasts chose to transition as a woman.  We have another good friend who was born as a girl at a time when great confusion existed over ambiguous genitals.  Birdie lived most of her life as a man but has now staked her claim to her femininity.  We talk a great deal about comfort... which is important but occasionally we wander father down the estrogen highway.  Clearly, men having breasts is a complicated experience and fortunately there are many places online where we can pursue our interests further.  Gynecomastia is a silly name for a very real physical development that is not a disease.  Our hormonal stew is uniquely our own and how it changes over time is affected by many things.  I'm content with what Mother Nature has bestowed on me and have no complaint about shopping for brassieres to care for them... for comfort and for aesthetic AND erotic enjoyment.  That, for me, is self-acceptance.

Enjoy the holiday season everyone.

[Justagirl💃]

It does not matter what brought us all here, nor individual life history. We are "part of the club."

Some of us have been blessed since puberty, others much later in life. Some cherish "shopping across the aisle where others don't. 

From the newbie just barely trying to wrap their head around having them globes developing and hiding under layers to the people celebrating their development. We are all her to help each other. 

I definitely let my girls be seen, but I hid them for 45 years so I still can give good pointers for those that desire to do so. 

My youth was filled with ballet and water ballet topped off with making wedding dresses and cakes, but things abruptly changed about 17ish when my father taught me I was born deformed and needed to hide my deformities at all costs. It was "piss poor advise" (using my father's terminology).
None of us are deformed in any means whatsoever, we are all just special. God doesn't make mistakes. 

Accepting reality and realising 'we are who we are' is the only way to find peace with ourselves. 

Birdie💝

[taxmapper]

Having the girls later had kept me in certain camps that you would probably find abhorrent.

Now I am in a different camp where the bra is on the other boob as it were. 

Most of the people I know who is aware of my girls dont bat an eye.  A few have, and the other half hates it.  

I am finding out more than simple high “E” and not only embrace it, but am a bit jealous of other women’s bodies, wanting to look like them. 

Time will tell.