transgender

[bobb]

I hope i can word this right and not offend anyone. Do some people look at us as transgender because we have breast and wear bras i havent been out in public yet am not sure how i will be if anyone says something.

[JKing]

I can only speak from personal experience. For background I am only a large A cup or small B cup depending on the brand. I work hard to ensure that I have the types of bras and shirts that minimize or hide the undergarments. So I do have that luxury compared to some of our members here.

But my choice of clothes, hairstyles, facial hair, hobbies, behavioral patterns all look very male to everyone. Even my formal clothing, while sometimes unconventional, is still male. (For black tie I have a kilt and associated garments as an option.) So EVEN IF anyone notices that I have a less common (on men) undergarment I am sure people just write off as a some sort of brace or undershirt. 

So the short answer is know one has every hinted at or even stated that I am transgender. 

[oldguy]

bobb,

I don't know your age or bra size.  I am wearing solid C bra.  It is something happens.  Doesn't define you.  I also don't know your relationships. I can only say that I am 74 with a wonderful wife who runs the house and me, for 53 years.  Doesn't judge my boobs.  This morning, she told me that mine are getting bigger than hers, and for the last several months.  I am still walking 3 miles a day and doing weights at home.  Life is good.  Acceptance. 

[Justagirl💃]

I don't actually consider myself to be transgender. I have PMDS which places me in the category of intersex. Although I was assigned male at birth, grandma was Raising Me quite differently. It wasn't until my late teens that I went into boy mode.

Those that don't know me nor my history automatically assume that I am 100% woman. I pass quite well as female. 

Those that knew me while I was still in boy mode of course see me as transgender. Basically I went from boy mode to girl mode in front of their eyes (even though I didn't really do a very good boy mode).

A friend of mine of over 30 years confided me recently that when I was still in boy mode she actually thought that I was a lesbian. She attributed that to basically because I have no bulge down below and large breasts. Trust me, women look at things like that.

Needless to say, does it really matter anyway? One should just be yourself and feel comfortable with yourself. I wasn't comfortable in boy mode, and I feel very comfortable in girl mode. That is basically all that matters to me.

[bobb]

from what i've been reading on here i have nothing to worry about. i'm to old to realy care anyway and my wife says i don't show to bad as long as i have a shirt over my t shirt  my breast are only a b cup right now.

[gotgyne]

I hope i can word this right and not offend anyone. Do some people look at us as transgender because we have breast and wear bras i havent been out in public yet am not sure how i will be if anyone says something.

Having breasts and wearing bras doesn't make you transgender. Nothing to worry, even with larger breasts than yours.

[AlfaQ]

In my experience people rarely notice my bra because they are not looking for evidence that I am wearing one. I am no longer self conscious about wearing one. If a bra fit you then consider the benefits of wearing one.  

[Parity]

I hope i can word this right and not offend anyone. Do some people look at us as transgender because we have breast and wear bras i havent been out in public yet am not sure how i will be if anyone says something.

  At first I just thought nothing about this. As time passed and I developed more I honestly thought, what would I say if asked that.  So, I do have an answer ready should the situation arise.  I would say, I have never thought of it as transitioning rather my body aging and evolving over the last ( state my age) years.

  That said I have never been asked that and don't expect to as I in all areas appear male with a larger chest.

[WPW717]

I’ve got boobs, C to D cup
I’ve got a Prolactinoma trying to make me give milk
I’ve got no testosterone 
I have an estrogen patch full time
I have no testicles, 
I cannot be mistaken for trans , but nature has pushed me in that direction. I still shave my whiskers.

And I have not been ousted from the men’s locker room at the gym.
You needn’t worry…

[oldguy]

from what i've been reading on here i have nothing to worry about. i'm to old to realy care anyway and my wife says i don't show to bad as long as i have a shirt over my t shirt  my breast are only a b cup right now.

This is the essence of acceptance.

Breasts are just a thing we all have. Sometimes genes, nature or medicine, gives us a surprise.

Breasts are sexual. What guy doesn't look at women's breasts in a bra or swimwear?

At 74 we are still active.  I have a C, but can hide it under layers.  Especially during the winter here.

Summer, may be a challenge, as I will need to go to a compression chest strap. Still getting in a 3 miles every day.

[Parity]

I think personal acceptance is the key here.  How others have viewed and formed opinions of me has been going on my whole life.  If they want to look and contemplate on what they see or think they see is clearly up to them.  Always is and always will be, shouldn't change how we live or feel about ourselves.

[Justagirl💃]

New policies were enacted at the day-centre making birth certificates "not an accepted form of identification", Texas identification cards are the only accepted forms now (Texas ID cannot be amended).
All medical records, addressing of individuals, gender, and all other aspects of their care shall be governed by what is stated on their Texas ID regardless of an amended birth certificate. So having PMSD/intersex and a birth certificate that was amended accordingly means nothing in Texas. 

That and another rules have been recently added to be stacked up against people like me. It's quite frustrating times at the moment both at home and out and about.

At the day-centre I am definitely seen as transgender and suffering from gender dysphoria simply because I don't quite fit in either gender box.

[Parity]

I'm sorry things have to be this way.  Ignorance is all it is.   Sad thing is no one realizes it or cares.  They are just happy being dumb and in the majority. 

[Gino]

I think personal acceptance is the key here.  How others have viewed and formed opinions of me has been going on my whole life.  If they want to look and contemplate on what they see or think they see is clearly up to them.  Always is and always will be, shouldn't change how we live or feel about ourselves.

Agreed. 

[Traveler]

I think personal acceptance is the key here.  How others have viewed and formed opinions of me has been going on my whole life.  If they want to look and contemplate on what they see or think they see is clearly up to them.  Always is and always will be, shouldn't change how we live or feel about ourselves.

Agreed.

Yep