To show or not to show.

[Justagirl💃]

I can appreciate that oldguy.  I just spent several weeks  in southern Texas.

Texas is a world of its own, speaking from someone that lives here. 

Luckly, everyone just assumes by my breast size and long hair that I am 100% female, and leaves me alone. 

The day-centre knows otherwise,  and I catch all kinds of hell from them. They are very vocal about things. Not much I can do about the way I was born. 

They have mentioned twice about Masectomy and dozens of times about cutting my hair.  Sorry, but not me. I'm not willing to endure surgery so that others feel more comfortable.  

Texas is just weird!

[Parity]

Just a girl,  Every time I read your post I understand completely your position and theirs.  I can empathize with you.

  I travel there 3-4 times a year.  I am friends with so many there and have to restrain my thoughts and conversations based on biases held onto so tightly there. 

  I'm proud of how you hold yourself in that environment.  Knowing when and where to push takes wisdom and courage.  To believe, know, understand in the science is freeing.  For others to live with blinders on and not see reality for what it is a pity.  They are just welcoming ignorance and relishing in it.  I have always tried to SEE people for who they are not how I want them to be.  No one will ever have to, or be forced to  fit into a box I build.

[Midagemoobs2]

Hot here, so I wear braletts that are able to conceal.  They do a great job, but compress my chest more than I like. 

When cooler, I wear wireless bras that are more comfortable and able to hide under layers.  I'm only a 40"C".  I can manage the show.

I have found if the compression in a sports bra is too much, I go for sports bras in a larger size, sometimes two sizes larger, as the chest does not need to be compressed as much - just enough to lift and smooth for a more fit look.

[NoWorries25]

I don't worry about showing or not showing. IMHO, Feeling confident and comfortable  are  the only things that matter.  I don't even worry about bra straps or bands any more.  'Comfort' is the operative word.  No neck and back pain are certainly more important than a stranger's opinion.

Enjoy!

[oldguy]

I think this bra was what I first brought after I was diagnosed with Gyno.  The band with was fine.  It was wired.  The cup size was way large.  It clearly didn't work.  I get that wired bras do project more.  I liked that I was supported and not wrapped.  Still, I preferred to be not noticed. 

I have since then worn only wire free sports bras.  The are comfortable and concealing.  I am exporting a bunch of clothing every month and came across this.  Figured I would give it a try to see if it still fit.  I believe it was a 40C front closure.  I didn't know about strap and twist at that time.

Now I only wear comfortable and concealing bras, every day.