How’s everyone doing? I’ve been here a few times over the 7 years of my breasts developing and as I’ve left and come back one thing remains the same. Community matters. I’m embarrassed in the times I’ve come and gone and come back again. And hope it’s ok to be back here.
Over the course of the years from wondering wtf is going on with my chest, to understanding to finding the forum here due to a Dr at the time telling me it may be best to connect with others dealing with it and sent me here. And growing and making friends and seeing some of those friends leave and such. It’s been just great to know this is a you’re not alone issue.
Along that road I found comfort and connection to the option of wearing a bra. As the path would go, the option moved more toward need and need more toward required if I wanted to be comfortable. But that of course comes with the discomfort of being seen as a man in a bra not just a man with breasts.
This forum and wewearbras has been such a cornerstone in adapting, accepting and applying to being more comfortable and secure with myself.
Even when I felt immensely secure there’d be times I’d feel so small or ashamed or embarrassed or anxiety ridden that I had a bra on. Especially in the gym or other settings that made it hyper aware it was there. Feeling like everyone is staring at you is difficult.
But this forum continued to be a place I could join in before going to the gym or elsewhere and afterward and be reminded how ok it is. And I don’t need to be embarrassed by it.
As social settings and marriage would be impossible to wear a bra openly I’d find other options like body suits or tank tops with shelf bras that made it all the more possible and comfortable without detailing a bra was being worn. I probably wouldn’t have known those existed without this forum.
Over the years when I’d leave here it was due to feeling I had nothing more to say or feeling like much of what is said here has been covered and is just being repeated in other ways. I felt I didn’t have anything of value had no more worthy input. So I’d leave. I’d visit as a guest and see intriguing topics and feel omg I miss this place and join again for some time and leave again when I felt I had no value again. Rinse and repeat.
The other week a good friend of mine was talking about how some of the best conversations and friendships are those that don’t always have something new to say but have something new to add to something that’s already been said. Or the deepest connections and friendships come from those you trust and can be open with about the deeper things in life. And i felt that hit home for here.
I don’t know anyone else in my life who is my body type who has my body type. In the last year hypogonadism has had its way with me and contrary to my np advising going on therapy’s to correct the course. I simply just have let things be what they’ll be. I had holistic approaches that worked better than medical approaches and over time those plateau and stall and I’m back to square one with an imbalance on the lab report. And because of that I find myself continuing to deal with a chest that continues to evolve and with that I continue to feel alone due to removing myself from communities that gave me strength when I felt weak as heck or overly insecure.
I’m blessed to have a loving wife who doesn’t seem to mind how her husbands chest has been and become. A family who is not judging of what they probably see on their son, cousin, etc or point out the what’s going on there. Friends who don’t distance themselves cause of how “he looks now days”. And if possible I’d love to be blessed and earn value back to being back here. I’m sure I’m not a member who goes noticed when missing or if I exited it goes as no surprise.
But given the past year I’ve had it really has put a strong focus on how vital just being part of a community is when dealing with this.
Anyways. I hope to reconnect with many and appreciate you all. Many of you have absolutely zero idea how much impact you’ve made in me being ok with my chest and myself. And truly appreciate it.
