Author Topic: Did your parents harass you about a feminine figure?  (Read 680 times)

Brdy64

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Did any of your parents harass you about your feminine figure, even jokingly?

How did you feel?

How did you handle it?

Brdy64

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My particular case might be strange since I came from quite a religious background.

Step one was both of my parents concern as I failed to mature properly, and was also born with what is called a micropenis. This of course was brought up with several doctors. The doctors really had nothing to add to the situation.

Step two was looking into religious texts for the answers since the medical world failed to provide my parents the answer they hoped for. The answers were found within those texts, and the subject was to be dropped.

Step three was where the teasing began. Older brother noticed quite a difference between us in physical attributes, and of course started teasing me about it. Mom was not there anymore as she left us when I was 7 years old.
My father also noticed that for a boy now 13 years old, I failed to mature even in the least in the men's department. As a 'joke' he started calling me Jolene. Before long both of my brothers were joking about it as well. The breast buds with puffy nipples really didn't help either. One of my female cousins realized it, and was supportive to a point. Yeah, I did try on some of her clothes and they were a perfect fit but Dad caught me dressed in her clothes and that didn't help matters.

Step four I tried my best to strive to be as 'manly' as possible. I guess I impressed my father enough that he stopped calling me Jolene as well as started correcting my brothers when they did, at least at home.

By High school I had 100% of my father's support, not so much my brothers. My dressing up in a pink skirt and blouse my cousin had loaned me was all but forgotten by Dad. But my chest was filling out to just under an A cup by my senior year. I had already started wearing a t shirt with another shirt over it and slouching to hide everything for some time now.

I guess in my case I was teased by my parent (father), and I strived to earn his respect. It succeed to drive me. My father knew I was different, but he worked around it. He did what he thought was best for me by pushing me into manhood, even if he used teasing to accomplish the task. No grudge against him at all.

I still don't think my condition was handled properly and believe the outcome would have been much different if it had. My teenage years were unbearable and traumatic. But parents did the best they knew how.

Society today sets norms that it expects everyone to fit into, those of us that don't are then forced into these norms against the natural tendencies of ourselves.
Maybe instead of working doing Land surveying, I would have found my place managing the women's department at the mall. I don't know where I would have ended up, I just know it would have been different.
« Last Edit: April 27, 2023, 08:41:40 AM by 💁 ♂️ Birdie »

Orb

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Thanks for sharing.  You got me thinking.  I, when I have more time  will share.  I remember never being as rough and tough as my older brother.  Hung close to mom.  Funny as adults my family stays close to the nest and I am the one that travels the world.  Many times she would ask if I was gay.  That hurt a lot.  I liked girls and they liked me. My wife used to joke early on like that.
 I used to wear support panty hose for comfort to aid in mussel health and winter warmth, as well as the aid in getting into and for an added layer in a wetsuit.  She would say I have nicer legs than most women. 
Those things never hurt.  Actually made me feel good.
 I have worn panties for decades.  Loved the feel and colors.
The biggest thing for me now is the boobs get in the way at times.  No hiding them as I wear a backpack now.  I found I was less ashamed from the backpack straps accenting my breast while over seas than here.  I guess I'll just have to keep backpacking Europe.  

Offline taxmapper

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my father kept indicating to me that there was something different. 
Was called panty waist, and girl. 

Rest of family has treated me like I am something special, at least to a point then keeps me at arms length. 

As I always say. 
They love me. 






In new Mexico. 

Offline blad

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When I developed breasts my mom had me examined by our local physician, who had me see some specialists in the children's hospital.

But nothing was ever said after that, as if the issue had gone away. 

Although likely embarrassing, in retrospect it may have been useful if my mom talked about it more and maybe discussed bras. She likely noticed that I wore one of my sister's bras intermittently?

It is difficult as a teen to navigate knowing you feel best in a bra but not have open support about it.
If the bra fits, wear it.

Brdy64

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my father kept indicating to me that there was something different.
Was called panty waist, and girl.

Rest of family has treated me like I am something special, at least to a point then keeps me at arms length.

As I always say.
They love me.






In new Mexico.
I think many of us here most likely experienced the same. The hormonal stew set us apart. 

Gino

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My mom used to say that due to my small stature, tiny (for a male) feet, and perfectly shaped legs that I should have been a girl.

Brdy64

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 I remember never being as rough and tough as my older brother.  Hung close to mom.  Funny as adults my family stays close to the nest and I am the one that travels the world.  Many times she would ask if I was gay.  That hurt a lot.  I liked girls and they liked me. 
Yeah, I understand. During my adult life friends would ask me if I was gay. I wasn't either. I liked girls, and they liked me. 
I guess I'm not very good at walking around in 'boy mode' and people noticed something was off. 🤔

Brdy64

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I was just thinking about this and I remember my dad always telling me that if I had been a woman that I would have been the ugliest woman ever made. I think I know why he said: "made". I have learned that when I was born there was talk with the doctors about making me female due to a very tiny penis. But they decided to leave things alone no matter what the doctors said. Back then it was up to the parents. I do remember once at about 15 my mother late one night telling me how beautiful I would have been if I was a girl. Quite out of the blue. But yea, Dad thought I would be ugly. That has always made me feel bad.

Charli
My father and brothers used to call me 'Jolene' as a joke. And my brother would call me his "sister'.

Here For My Girls

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I was never harassed about my figure, but my mom did tell me a few years ago that she and dad both thought I was going to be gay just by the way I acted growing up. Guess I must have acted pretty feminine. 


 

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