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Acceptance / Re: To show or not to show.

« Last post by Midagemoobs2 on Today at 11:05:39 AM »

I’m in the “I don’t care if they notice” phase. By the same token, I don’t flaunt either and try to dress appropriately for the situation. Too big to completely hide but not so big that I can’t play the girls down a bit so they fall into the “no one really notices” category.

It’s been slow but steady growth the last 10 years and three years ago was worried about size but now don’t as I just dress with a mix of minimizers, sports bras and compression to fit the situation. I show some chest for sure, but with the right support and clothes, its comfortable to me and amazingly not really noticeable to others which gives confidence

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: Travel Experiences

« Last post by Justagirl💃 on Today at 05:34:47 AM »

I'm in a wheelchair, so I avoid the scanners. I do however get patted down by a female officer every time I go through TSA. They don't even ask, they just have a female officer do it. 

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: Travel Experiences

« Last post by WPW717 on Yesterday at 06:55:25 PM »

Went through Nashville Airport twice. Both times I was flagged to step aside. I had a bra on. Must have seen the hearing aids because the TSA Agents attempted to sign. I don’t, but I read lips, somewhat, 😆 , as I graduated last in my class. They mouthed’ arms up’ and them patted my back at the bra snaps. Smiled and flagged me on.

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Acceptance / Re: Attempting to be New Around Here

« Last post by Justagirl💃 on Yesterday at 05:23:07 PM »

Does anyone have suggestions for when going to Torrid? What has your experiences been? What should I wear? I just want to make sure the person measuring is comfortable and that I’m comfortable too.

Wear a well fitting unlined bra under a t-shirt. That makes the SA job easier and more accurate.  

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Acceptance / Re: Attempting to be New Around Here

« Last post by 50/50 on Yesterday at 05:12:54 PM »

Talk to just a girl. She works at torrid from time to time.

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: Travel Experiences

« Last post by 50/50 on Yesterday at 05:09:06 PM »

Those body scanners flag abnormalities. I get flagged every time I fly with a pat down. A few times I have been asked if a male or female officer is needed. Just goes with the territory of having boobs and for me also having an androgynous characteristics of both sexes.
After being flagged so many times I asked a friend whose son worked for tsa at one time.
Anyway that’s what he told me.

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Acceptance / Re: Attempting to be New Around Here

« Last post by KnownVariance on Yesterday at 04:08:40 PM »

Thanks again! 

Taxmapper, your comment has me confused: So KV, the math in my dept. is WAY different but the same if you get my drift. 
I am probably too obtuse for this, but what are you referring to here? 

OldGuy, thanks for the suggestion, that’s not a bad idea. I’m 37 right now, and haven’t ever had that done. I’m also cruising without insurance right now, so may wait a bit for that. 
I will admit, I do have some hope that they will shift some as I lose weight, but I don’t expect much. I have seen some here lose weight and paradoxically seemed that the weight loss actually made them more feminine looking, which is the opposite of what I’m aiming for at this point, but I need to get myself healthy, so this is the way to do it. That’s kinda the conclusion I have come to. Better to be healthy than hide. Honestly, i think if my mom hadn’t have had the blood clots in her lungs, i likely would still be binding and trying to tame. But that really scared me for her, and then after doing some reading for me too.
I have been trying to be fairly stoic on the matter. What’s done is done, is the attitude that I have been living with as best I can, though some days are harder than others. Today has been a tough day. I definitely hope to reach that 54th. My wife and I have been married a mere 10 years, going on 11 this year.

JohnDoe, thanks for your comments. I feel like I betrayed my own body, rather than the vice versa, so in that way I feel different, but we all have breasts at this point. I definitely get in my own head about the mistakes and the errors I’ve made on this road, hence why I’m trying to be stoic about the whole thing. I can’t change the past, but I can change how I handle the future. I can’t imagine going through high school or middle school with this, the difficulty and challenges that had to have been faced. I know there are those who had to play skins far too often here, and my heart breaks reading those stories. Thanks for the soildarity though. I’m trying to figure out what me looking my best looks like at this point. Currently rocking about a 4-6 inch beard which has been some time in coming in. Clothing is kind of challenging for me right now, because I had a style, but I lost it and stopped caring, but I want to find my groove again and I don’t know what that looks like yet. 

Parity, that really is my main goal. Try to live with what is, and be stylish and comfortable with what is, not what could be. I definitely have been trying to figure out the right things and I have idea and concepts of a plan, but not really a straightforward ‘this one’ when it comes to bras. Even in the midst of my ‘gender bender’ I struggled with that, and trying to figure out what to wear bra wise. Now I have no clue. I am planning on going to torrid this weekend, though I am nervous.

Does anyone have suggestions for when going to Torrid? What has your experiences been? What should I wear? I just want to make sure the person measuring is comfortable and that I’m comfortable too. 

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Gynecomastia Talk / Travel Experiences

« Last post by Parity on Yesterday at 04:03:13 PM »

  Well, It's been a long 5 weeks.  I have been away and traveling so much it feels good to be home.  

  I just wanted to share one quick thing.  My last leg had me flying from DFW to the north in what was a large winter event.  I left early in the AM with just a t shirt and Duluth two pocket flannel shirt unbuttoned.  Not wanting to hold things up with security, hoping to make a quick walk to my gate I went bra less.  Now that set the scanner off!  I was asked to step aside and was asked if my, motioing to my shirt, pockets were empty.  I said yes.  I was asked to hold my arms out for a side pat down.  I did and the TSA agent, mid 20's male, did the pat down palms towards my chest. He had to feel my breast tissue as his palms went down.  He just looked up and said, " It must have been the pockets."   

  I feel the scanners must look for variances in body shapes M to F.  

  Has anyone else had strange events or things happen this month?

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Acceptance / Re: Attempting to be New Around Here

« Last post by Parity on Yesterday at 03:38:56 PM »

Howdy,
I feel like I know many of you all so well as I have read over many of your stories, though I don’t know all the details.

I wanted to share my story and introduce myself.

A few years ago, I ended up going down a path that I have since realized that I never should have gone down. This was in late 2019/ early 2020, and I was acting in a way that betrayed my ideals and myself. I wanted to run away from that version of my self and ran into the arms of a gender bender, which scooped me out and twisted me all around in all sorts of knots, and ended up on estrogen for a period of 3 years, on and off. The last year, I was on for the full year. I know many of you guys here didn’t get Gyno from that, but that’s how I came to be here.

For the past year or so, I’ve been working on myself, making myself better, and while I’ve been hiding this part of myself with binders, and other various ‘torture’ wear. My mother recently had some blood clots, which led me to do some research about compression garments, and I learned that they too can cause issues related to that. So, I switched back to a bra. I have 42E according to the A Bra that fits page, but I have a bra that I have been wearing since I stopped compressing a month or so ago, that I don’t know exactly what size it is, it fits well enough though I’d like to find some actual support. The sports bra I had was too small and tight, as I was using it at times to compress too.

I’ve been debating on going and getting sized at torrid, though my wife has said that she would be embarrassed for me, and I have to go alone. But I’d like to find at least one more bra that fits well.

As part of my more recent work with this, I’ve been attempting to forgive myself for this action performed on myself, and accept this part of me. It’s been challenging, because it feels so vulnerable, and so just, not who I am per se. I’ve slowly been accepting this, and that I will have to wear a bra. I started out with a plan to have surgery when the dust originally settled, but the more I learn about it, the more time has gone on, the more expensive and unjustifiable I seemed to find it. It seemed risky, and undesirable because of those risks and loss of what feels like so much.

At this point, I’m a dude with boobs, and I have accepted that to some extent. And I wanted to throw myself out there to open to discussion and thoughts and ideas.

I appreciate the wisdom of those who have come before, and I appreciate the wisdom of those who will come after.

Cheers,
KnownVariance

  First of all.... Welcome.

  Your welcome here and are welcome to ask or say anything that's on your mind.  Your correct in that we all got hereon different paths.  I hope you learn to accept what has developed and can both learn how to deal with and manage it.  It is hard to navigate the whole bra thing as a man but we here have come to accept it and embrace it.  

  Do what works for you in the bra world.  I feel as you adjust to your changes you will adjust to and and learn to manage the situation. 

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Acceptance / Re: Attempting to be New Around Here

« Last post by Johndoe1 on Yesterday at 07:49:20 AM »

Welcome KV. You are among a community of people who support each other and listen to each other. And we all have skeletons of some type. We wouldn't be human if we didn't. 

And there's nothing wrong with having breasts. All of us here who have breasts have them because of estrogen. Same as you. Many of us have developed chests that are indistinguishable from a woman's chest. All thanks to estrogen.  

I began developing when I was 10 years old. By the time I left high school I was already a B to C in size. For years I denied the obvious. 15 years ago I finally ran out of fight. After a nasty rash in the fold of my left breast,  I was told I should consider either surgery or wear support for my chest. The sagging and movement was causing the rashes. I wrestled with that for a while and decided that surgery was a little extreme and then decided to try a bra. Much to my surprise I had grown to a DD cup in size. I couldn't deny that I had a woman's chest and was more comfortable supported and contained as any woman my size would be. I have worn a bra everyday since and have not regretted the choice even though I probably will be in a bra the rest of my life. 

There is no shame in wearing a garment for necessity. And at a 42E, you have every right to be comfortable and look your best. As a lady friend told me when she accidentally discovered my bra one day. "A bra doesn't change you. It makes you more comfortable." And she was right. I haven't changed but I am physically and mentally more comfortable. 

And those of us here are just "Dudes with boobs." It's an exclusive club! You know the trials and tribulations about breasts and bras that your male friends have no concept of. Your wife and female friends do. And we do too. 

Relax. You are among friends here. We will walk the walk with you as far as you want us too.