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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: I am new here

« Last post by bobbly on Yesterday at 02:02:38 PM »

We live in a world that in the last 100 yrs has become soaked in pseudo- estrogenic compounds in food water clothing etc. Most plastics need some kind of plasticizing chemical to keep them pliable long term and much of that chemistry can cause gynecomastia in sensitive individuals. Do not blame yourself for things way beyond your control. Bad enough we have to live with these side effects from industrial chemistry and how the social / emotional fallout from that which affects our lives.      

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: I am new here

« Last post by taxmapper on Yesterday at 12:48:54 PM »

Let me add my welcome! It sounds like you maybe have some self blame from the past few years of being out of shape. Let go of that all the way; reading both posts, you were probably predisposed (as most of us here) and it would have shown up in some fashion anyhow. Gynecomastia is a much more common condition than most think (more than half have it by 60 in varying degrees), and genetics and many other factors that contribute are out of your control (or as with some meds choices which may be a risk/choice that is the lesser of evils), again let it go.  Only a doctor can determine if it is regular gyno with tissue or pseudo with mostly fat, but either way it's there. If you are trying to get in better shape, that's great too.

The great thing is now that you are seeing where you are objectively, you can make choices that are right for you. If you choose surgery and vetted your doctor (and there are some very skills surgeons), looked at sample pics for people with similar body types to yours and think it will be a positive life choice for you, it's the right decision for you and your situation.  If you decide to live with it, it's the right decision for you and your situation.  Best of luck and feel free to reach out whenever you need. And you'll help others in the process so please share your journey wherever it takes you.

Thanks!  I know I have a lot of research to do and it is a little overwhelming.  I am sorry if I am in the wrong place and that maybe I don't have true Gynecomastia.  whatever the case and however I got here, no matter what I do these breasts are not going anywhere. No amount of exercise would've amounted to a hill of beans.  It probably just would've kept it from getting worse, but not fix anything.  While I was able to mask this with working out and getting myself in better shape, it was really the illusion of a stronger upper body that made things look better.  The love handles are every bit as big of an issue for me and those are like a runaway freight train and there is just no stopping it.  That is why I am afraid to just try to live with it because I am scared my frame is just going to keep getting curvier until my waste keep shrinking as the back fat/love handles keep growing.  I am not an overweight person either.  I am actually thin and always was.  it's like whatever weight I gain just goes to 3 places and 3 places only.  THe breasts, the love handles, and the stomach and not the rest of me.  I am sorry for rambling here, but I just wanted to paint a clearer picture for the people.  I want to thank you for your kind words and support. 

Oh no issues here. The typical medical field "technician" has no one clue.   I started at 50, not 15.   And believe me there are no apologies necessary. 

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: I am new here

« Last post by Ironmaiden3122 on Yesterday at 12:24:50 PM »

Greetings Ironman.    You can learn alot and teach as well.  Hope you enjoy it.

Thanks!  I am already learning!  

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: I am new here

« Last post by Ironmaiden3122 on Yesterday at 12:23:33 PM »

Let me add my welcome! It sounds like you maybe have some self blame from the past few years of being out of shape. Let go of that all the way; reading both posts, you were probably predisposed (as most of us here) and it would have shown up in some fashion anyhow. Gynecomastia is a much more common condition than most think (more than half have it by 60 in varying degrees), and genetics and many other factors that contribute are out of your control (or as with some meds choices which may be a risk/choice that is the lesser of evils), again let it go.  Only a doctor can determine if it is regular gyno with tissue or pseudo with mostly fat, but either way it's there. If you are trying to get in better shape, that's great too.

The great thing is now that you are seeing where you are objectively, you can make choices that are right for you. If you choose surgery and vetted your doctor (and there are some very skills surgeons), looked at sample pics for people with similar body types to yours and think it will be a positive life choice for you, it's the right decision for you and your situation.  If you decide to live with it, it's the right decision for you and your situation.  Best of luck and feel free to reach out whenever you need. And you'll help others in the process so please share your journey wherever it takes you.

Thanks!  I know I have a lot of research to do and it is a little overwhelming.  I am sorry if I am in the wrong place and that maybe I don't have true Gynecomastia.  whatever the case and however I got here, no matter what I do these breasts are not going anywhere. No amount of exercise would've amounted to a hill of beans.  It probably just would've kept it from getting worse, but not fix anything.  While I was able to mask this with working out and getting myself in better shape, it was really the illusion of a stronger upper body that made things look better.  The love handles are every bit as big of an issue for me and those are like a runaway freight train and there is just no stopping it.  That is why I am afraid to just try to live with it because I am scared my frame is just going to keep getting curvier until my waste keep shrinking as the back fat/love handles keep growing.  I am not an overweight person either.  I am actually thin and always was.  it's like whatever weight I gain just goes to 3 places and 3 places only.  THe breasts, the love handles, and the stomach and not the rest of me.  I am sorry for rambling here, but I just wanted to paint a clearer picture for the people.  I want to thank you for your kind words and support.  

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: I am new here

« Last post by taxmapper on Yesterday at 09:32:52 AM »

Greetings Ironman.    You can learn alot and teach as well.   Hope you enjoy it. 

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: I am new here

« Last post by Midagemoobs2 on Yesterday at 01:58:20 AM »

Let me add my welcome! It sounds like you maybe have some self blame from the past few years of being out of shape. Let go of that all the way; reading both posts, you were probably predisposed (as most of us here) and it would have shown up in some fashion anyhow. Gynecomastia is a much more common condition than most think (more than half have it by 60 in varying degrees), and genetics and many other factors that contribute are out of your control (or as with some meds choices which may be a risk/choice that is the lesser of evils), again let it go.  Only a doctor can determine if it is regular gyno with tissue or pseudo with mostly fat, but either way it's there. If you are trying to get in better shape, that's great too.

The great thing is now that you are seeing where you are objectively, you can make choices that are right for you. If you choose surgery and vetted your doctor (and there are some very skills surgeons), looked at sample pics for people with similar body types to yours and think it will be a positive life choice for you, it's the right decision for you and your situation.  If you decide to live with it, it's the right decision for you and your situation.  Best of luck and feel free to reach out whenever you need. And you'll help others in the process so please share your journey wherever it takes you.

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Photos / Re: What I'm Wearing Today

« Last post by Parity on July 22, 2026, 06:15:10 PM »

Today, I’m wearing a plunge bra.  Very supportive and keeps my breasts lifted.  It’s padded.  Good thing because I work in air conditioning all day.  My nipples would poke through my scrubs in an unlined bra. 

That bra looks good on you.  Great choice.

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Photos / Re: What I'm Wearing Today

« Last post by Parity on July 22, 2026, 06:14:17 PM »

Today I am wearing the Wacoal Halo Lace in 34D. A popular bra with our community and I understand why.  Feels lovely to wear and about as comfortable as a bra can be in hot weather.

That looks great.  I'm away from home for a while and my halo lace 40D is one of the three I packed.

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Photos / Re: What I'm Wearing Today

« Last post by curiousk on July 22, 2026, 04:01:19 PM »

Today, I’m wearing a plunge bra.  Very supportive and keeps my breasts lifted.  It’s padded.  Good thing because I work in air conditioning all day.  My nipples would poke through my scrubs in an unlined bra.  

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: I am new here

« Last post by Ironmaiden3122 on July 22, 2026, 01:02:59 PM »

  Welcome Ironmaiden.  Life is hard when society builds boxes that they deem the standard and acceptable. Many don't fit in the box by no fault of their own.  The outsiders.  They shame those outsiders and look at them as odd and not acceptable.  This is wrong.  I feel shame is given but we don't have to accept it.  Many time ones physical shape is out of ones control.  Other times it's driven by events happening around them.  Everyone has to say to themselves that not everyone is educated in all maters.  They don't understand the why one is over weigh or as a man developed breast, you pick the issue.  It's their problem if they don't want to understand.  I, we, YOU must learn we are unique and special people. 

  I feel it took a lot of courage to openly say how you feel.  A huge step forward.  Good for you! 

  I hope you learn that your not alone and many of us here have learned how to live with it and live a healthy life in spite of having breast. The biggest step is accepting yourself.  Then what others say and think will not matter.

  To shame, look at disparagingly, mock and ridicule is easy.  It takes someone with strength, courage and backbone to chin up and live.

Best to ya mate.  Chin up,keep talking and reading.  Your not the only one dealing with appearance issues.  I love me and others despite their appearance. Someone with good character is who I like to chum with.

Parity 

 

thanks so much for your kindness and words of support.  This is exactly why I joined here and just what I needed.  That was an emotional day for me so I needed some time to unpack all of this.  I know a lot of people have it a lot worse than me and luckily I haven't gotten the ridicule or the stares.  At least not that I know of.  My heart goes out to everybody that is dealing with these things I admire all of you for the way you support people and the way you handle these things.  

about 10-12 years ago For awhile I got myself in the best shape I could be.  I was working out and doing well.  I still was not able to wear certain shirts, but I had a drawer full of shirts that I could wear with confidence and started to feel good about myself.  Then I got into a car accident and got depressed, and then the pandemic happened and I was scared about employment and the future and after a year, I was in the worst shape of my life and slid backwards.  and now here I am.  Thanks again for everything.