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Acceptance / Re: There's acceptance......and acceptance
« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Today at 01:55:10 PM »This has been spoken of before... but I don't like the word gynecomastia. The word suggests there is a problem when a man develops breasts, but if that were so insurance companies would pay for their removal. They don't simply because it is not a medical problem... it is simply a difference. Yes, there are plastic surgeons prepared to remove them but honestly that is no different than having a "nose job" because one doesn't like the shape of their nose. For men it often comes from shame at not being aligned with one's idea of masculinity. Most of us have struggled simply because we are different and that can be the cause of great shame, whatever the difference may be.
I've long argued that everyone of us exists on a gender continuum. Our place on that continuum is NOT a matter of choice, it is.a matter of heredity. It is an expression of the hormonal balance within our bodies. Granted, breast development can occur later in life but that happens only because the hormonal balance in our bodies has changed. That may be because of medications that have been prescribed but it can also simply be the result of aging that comes quite naturally with diminishing testosterone.
Each one of us finds our own way through this morass of feelings associated with breasts and masculinity. We are blessed to have a place where we can talk openly about these things. Personally, I'm content with being a more feminine man. Transitioning is meaningless from this perspective. I certainly have no more interest is reassignment surgery than I do in having a mastectomy. This is my body. I'm invited to care for it as it is. That is what I'm doing, to the best of my ability. I hope that is true for you as well.
I've long argued that everyone of us exists on a gender continuum. Our place on that continuum is NOT a matter of choice, it is.a matter of heredity. It is an expression of the hormonal balance within our bodies. Granted, breast development can occur later in life but that happens only because the hormonal balance in our bodies has changed. That may be because of medications that have been prescribed but it can also simply be the result of aging that comes quite naturally with diminishing testosterone.
Each one of us finds our own way through this morass of feelings associated with breasts and masculinity. We are blessed to have a place where we can talk openly about these things. Personally, I'm content with being a more feminine man. Transitioning is meaningless from this perspective. I certainly have no more interest is reassignment surgery than I do in having a mastectomy. This is my body. I'm invited to care for it as it is. That is what I'm doing, to the best of my ability. I hope that is true for you as well.
? In my dreams for now.