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Acceptance / Re: Breast Fetish?

« Last post by gyne73 on Today at 06:45:06 AM »

Again, I'm not suggesting this is the experience of every man here but I am wondering if there are others who have something close to a fixation or fetish about their breasts. 

I may relate to most of your posts.

I am heterosexual but in a woman I am mostly attracted by her breasts to the point that probably I won't be excited if a woman has too little breast.

I am luckily because my SO has a normal breast, not so big, but neither small.

She is rather supportive for my fixation, she let me wear a bra in front of her, she knows that sometimes I give a look to other women's bosom or cleavage.

She knows the origin, it is traumatic. I wasn't breastfed and my mother was very young (in her teens), so I was probably a bit emotionally neglected (she had to cope with an alcoholic and violent husband).

This is a classic chicken-egg problem. What comes first? My fixation on breasts or my gynecomastia?

I remember when I was 9-10 I did not question my gender; for me it was natural, I am a boy, later in life I will marry a woman and have children. So simple.

Girls of my age, without any breasts, were seen as "total".

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But after gyno I started to look at parts: bra straps, heels, lingerie, nipple pointing through shirts, bikini lines on beach.

This is a clear sign of fetishism, I suppose. I desired them on my body, I desired them to touch. Envy and desire, interlinked.

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Acceptance / Re: Breast Fetish?

« Last post by Gyno64 on Yesterday at 07:00:47 PM »

Gee. I think I may have quite a bit to look forward too as I age.

I was diagnosed as idiopathic. But I don't quite buy all that. But waiting to see an Endo. to see wear I'm going from here? Or if they can even figure it out anyway? 

At least I won't hear my wife telling me that mine are bigger than hers. She's a huge G cup. Pray I don't get there. Lol.

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Acceptance / Re: Breast Fetish?

« Last post by oldguy on Yesterday at 06:26:50 PM »

I'm still pretty new to dealing with gyno.
I'm still trying to gain acceptance with my condition. It's only been seven months since my initial onset at my age of 64. I'm a full B cup and growing as I speak.
I have tried so many options of concealment of my breasts.
Compression shirts are okay for a short period of time. I now have now opened up for a seamless style bralette. That of which had been suggested by Busty. Much more comfortable and under the right clothing I can still hide my boobs. Only my future can tell what's to come of me as I may continue to develop?

Gyno64

Who knows?  I can only share my experience when diagnosed at 61.  I had pain in both chests and told my family doctor.  He referred me to a surgeon who did a mammogram.  Confirmed that I had breast tissue.  At that time, I was a B cup.  His nurse practitioner recommended a bra and wrote a note to my wife.

14 years now, I am a C cup.  I was able to hide it because I was over borderline obese.  I have lost 70lbs and it's much harder now, since the breasts didn't shrink.  During the summer, I wear spaghetti strap uni-boob sports bra with little inserts.  It does a great job of concealing the breasts and no nipple issues.  Looks more like I have pecs.  Its winter, so I am now wearing a more comfortable jog bra while exercising and a plain regular wire-free bra while at home.  I've heard that wires help shape the breast.  All I need is to keep them from bouncing all over the place.  My wife comments that mine are bigger then hers.  Last thing I need is to make it worse.

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Acceptance / Re: Breast Fetish?

« Last post by Gyno64 on Yesterday at 04:09:42 PM »

Thank you 42CSurprise.


I'm just trying to move forward with my journey of this world of Gynecomastia.
 
Much support from this group and my wonderful wife has made things much more easier to accept and move forward with. But I still have obstacles to deal with at this early point of acceptance. That of which is to be determined over time.  

Folks here on this forum are great! Cheers! 

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Acceptance / Re: Breast Fetish?

« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Yesterday at 03:14:49 PM »

Glad you're finding acceptance for this reality with which you are attending. It seems a very matter of fact response rather than one that carries a particular charge.  I don't imagine a fetish will arise for you out of this experience, which if fine.  Our responses are perfectly our own.  Enjoy the ride.

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Acceptance / Re: Breast Fetish?

« Last post by Gyno64 on Yesterday at 03:01:22 PM »

I'm still pretty new to dealing with gyno.
I'm still trying to gain acceptance with my condition. It's only been seven months since my initial onset at my age of 64. I'm a full B cup and growing as I speak.
I have tried so many options of concealment of my breasts.
Compression shirts are okay for a short period of time. I now have now opened up for a seamless style bralette. That of which had been suggested by Busty. Much more comfortable and under the right clothing I can still hide my boobs. Only my future can tell what's to come of me as I may continue to develop?
 

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Acceptance / Breast Fetish?

« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Yesterday at 02:19:42 PM »

I revisited the I Love Having Boobs! thread thinking I'd make another comment but life intervened and I was busy for a few hours.  When I returned the question with which I start this thread came to mind.  We all acknowledge that breasts have come into our lives because they appeared on our chests, either in adolescence or along the way.  We've talked about the reality that there is not one hormonal constellation shared by every man, or woman for that matter. That reality shows most often in our bodies.  Some men have hard, muscular bodies and some have soft, round bodies.  Those differences reflect the relationship between testosterone and estrogen in our bodies.  So we have breasts and decide to find a way to live with them.  Most of the men here determined wearing a brassiere made sense.  Some of the men here began wearing a brassiere as teenagers simply because their breasts were substantial enough that the brassiere offered comfort and perhaps even confidence.

I've been very clear that though I had a relatively soft body as an adolescent with a soft chest, my affection for brassieres was associated with my history of childhood sexual abuse.  For me, both the brassiere and my breasts have represented more of a fetish than a solution to a need for comfort.  Having read so many conversations on this side of the website, I sense I am not alone in this.  When some of us say we "love" having breasts, I can't help but wonder what that affection looks like.  I remember someone who had developed breasts that he loathed when he was a teen entering a relationship later in life with a woman who really liked his breasts.  Some men have made reference to the fact his breasts are an important part of their "play" with their partners.  All good.  But I'm wondering about something more... a sort of fascination with our breasts.  I sometimes speak about putting on a brassiere and feeling mesmerized by the experience.  I've mentioned the word autogynephilia which is a man's fascination with experiencing himself as a woman... not as a preliminary step toward transitioning but as the simple pleasure of experiencing his body that way.  Having breasts can easily lead one there if they are so inclined.  So can putting on women's lingerie.

I am not in a romantic relationship so I'm the only one who has a relationship with my breasts and that can be very evocative.  As I've often said, I generally wear a brassiere when at home and I love seeing my breasts reflected in a mirror, and I love touching them.  I'm very aware of them when I'm out and about and wearing a brassiere.  If I'm not wearing a brassiere my attention is elsewhere.  It is as though putting on a brassiere leads to my fixation.  It that part of a fetish?  I think so.

Again, I'm not suggesting this is the experience of every man here but I am wondering if there are others who have something close to a fixation or fetish about their breasts.  

I've shared this photo before but it really catches what I'm experiencing.  I am wearing that brassiere at the moment and it does an amazing job of shaping and presenting my breasts.  What fun is this!

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Acceptance Garments / Re: New to Wearing Bras Daily

« Last post by pastthepointofreturn on Yesterday at 12:23:37 PM »

It seems the more I am wearing a bra the more modest I am becoming about them.  Other than showering and sleeping my breasts stay covered.  It was warm outside doing yardwork last week.  Perfect day to get a little sun. In the past I would have always been topless. This day I couldn't make myself take my shirt off. I put on a tank top, but that felt exposing. I went back inside, put my bra and tshirt back on and went back outside feeling more comfortable, but hot.  I think wearing the bra has validated in my head they are female breasts and need to be treated as such.  I am feeling like I have crossed a threshold mentally and physically by wearing bras daily. does that make any sense?  

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Acceptance Garments / Re: New to Wearing Bras Daily

« Last post by blad on Yesterday at 11:31:52 AM »

A real turning point when we find a bra that we are comfortable with wearing daily and enjoy the benefits of having the support. We begin to then forget we are even wearing a bra during our daily activities.
 

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Acceptance Garments / Re: New to Wearing Bras Daily

« Last post by Parity on Yesterday at 09:56:38 AM »

That is a flattering bra.  Yes that style will give you more confidence as it reduces the bounce, smooths out and shapes.  Undetectable under other clothing as you stated.  For me I keep the pads and use them in colder weather. At first I worried about the added projection, as time moved forward for me I found I'm now there without pads. I have found it's still not a big deal.

  Glad your trying new things and just going about your business.  I feel people don't notice unless we try to hide and make a deal about it.