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Acceptance / Re: A few may remember me

« Last post by Normalboobs1 on Today at 06:08:55 AM »

FACT.
All males have estrogen mixing testosterone. 
All females have testosterone alongside their (usually predominate) estrogen. 
So all males are, to to some extent fem and vice versa.
This explains men with breasts and flat chested women both normal and both stigmatized by the ignorant.

The normal for any given person is highly variable and usually normal...
Males born with predominate estrogen levels will be the ones inheriting breasts at puberty. 
Others, including myself, develop breasts with age as testosterone declines leaving estrogen in control or a surge of estrogen which can be normal but certainly warrants exclusion of pathology. 

All those males with breasts can either be tortured by not being average or choose enjoy the gift that nature has given them and live at peace with the inheritance that, nascently, has been with them since birth. 
The latter course is the path I have chosen. 65 yo when "diagnosed " with normal breast, and now in my 80th year and having always been "one of the girls" rather than "one of the boys" I had a ready made support group for which I have been deeply thankful. 
Perhaps it is just me, but I can attest that conversations over coffee in a group of women is far rewarding than alcohol fuelled ones down the pub over a pool table. 
I envy those who have had breasts since their teenage years {though I wouldn't have enjoyed boys school!) but I certainly intend enjoying my fem life  and all it may bring for however many years I have left. 

Embrace what life gives you  .... At least, male or female, be thankful that filling a bra does not cost you mon8

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Acceptance / Re: Gynecomastia Acceptance Poll

« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Today at 01:13:04 AM »

...JD1, Thank you for that. 

  I have times, when I feel I'm continuing to grow, that my mind spins into the childhood loop of body shaming that was heaped on me.  Not hearing words of affirmations from time to time doesn't allow me to reframe other thoughts into afformations.  I appreciate you're kind words, positive posts and uplifting comments.

Doubtless, this side of this website has been a gift to all of us coming to terms with breasts developing on our chest.  Yes, many began the journey as adolescents, while many found development happening later in life.  I posted a thread quite some time ago about the various responses we may have and certainly shame is an early one most of us experienced.  Being here and talking about our reality has been a very powerful release.  I guess breasts have such significance in our culture that our response would be great when they begin developing.  But in reality, the same can be said about our whole body.  Yes, we're given models for what a woman or man should look like.  We see them in magazines and television ads.  But few of us fit the "standard."  I've always had a soft body.  I'm not very tall.  I have broad shoulders but have always had a wide waist and hips.  Can I accept who I am, all of me?  These are the bodies that carry us through life.  We would do well to treat our bodies well.  Self-acceptance really is a good place to stand whether we're talking about our breasts or our bodies.  I'm glad you're experiencing some of that Parity.

With regard to the "poll" none of the three responses work for me at the moment.  I am certainly enjoying having the breasts filling the cups of my unlined, underwire brassiere but I won't call them a blessing.  They are simply part of who I am at this time in my life.  This afternoon I had an appointment with an acupuncturist to help me with a cold I've been experiencing.  She did her needles and moxibustion.  Then she did something she'd never done before.  She held a piece of cloth and began brushing it across my shoulders and chest.  Needless to say she was rubbing it across my breasts.  At first I felt myself tensing, then gradually relaxed.  It was what it was.  I made a comment later about my breast growth and mentioned the changes in my hormones that have come with aging. That was the end of the conversation and this older woman only said, young people are exploring gender in a new way.  Yesterday I spoke with a woman friend and as we spoke of how well we knew one another I noted she knows I occasionally wear a brassiere.  She actually saw me in a brassiere a couple of years ago.  No problem at all.  I'm grateful for that.  I have breasts.  I like my breasts.  I don't wear a brassiere all the time but I very much enjoy wearing one when I do.  I'm happy there are men with whom I can talk about such things.  We may each be on our own journey but we share the fact having breasts is part of that journey.

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Gynecomastia Talk / Re: Endocrinologist Appt.

« Last post by mgr on Yesterday at 08:46:08 PM »

My last mammogram ( a month ago) went well.  The tech was very kind and treated me with respect.  I told her my breasts have increased in size since my last mammogram completed 2 years prior.  She compared the prior images to the current and agreed I have grown.  The doctor also agreed and told me to speak to my endo, which I did.  I am on T because I lost both my testes and need it for bone health.  My endo said this is how my body reacts to the T. I told her I would prefer to have breasts rather than brittle bones and she agreed.  
I asked why my B size boobs hurt when I golf etc and she indicated since I was so active the tendons are being stretched and that is where the pain is coming from. I have to wear a sports bra when I golf.

This was my 8th mammo and I am scheduled again next year.   My interest already ordered it. She asked me if I minded having them and I told her I did not mind at all.

My endo has always been open and honest. She is a lovely lady.

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Acceptance / Re: A few may remember me

« Last post by WPW717 on Yesterday at 08:17:17 PM »

I think bobb isn’t opening a can of worms. A review of his posts shows that meds appear to be a cause of the gynecomastia growth. Spiro is an antagonist to androgen receptors. So, the T/E ratio is altered. 
My path of hormonal roller coaster I allowed me to experience this ratio flipping rapidly in both directions until the need for a castration. A real harsh hormonal change. Slow slides of this ratio changing can be imperceptible to the individual. He may not feel the effects of the ‘estrogen highway’ as some of us do. 
I’ll take the remark as a casual query as to the culture here. This is just one slice of the cake ( thread) here.  A low posting number is reason to believe he has not had time to become immersed in the milieu. 

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Acceptance / Re: A few may remember me

« Last post by bobb on Yesterday at 07:48:15 PM »

i don't care what people wear for clothes i wear a bra and panties. i guess i just don't understand some things like hormones and what they do i know my breast got bigger but the way i feel hasn't changed other than i'm not so sure of myself anymore.

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Acceptance Garments / Re: The hug of a Bra

« Last post by Johndoe1 on Yesterday at 03:17:16 PM »

It's amazing how most of us here "enjoy" the sensation of being supported and contained while most women do not. After talking to my fitter about it, she says it's because we take the time to be properly fitted. A lot of women either won't take the time or won't listen to the fitter. They were measured years ago and they know what size they are. They don't need to be fitted again. My fitter says she becomes so frustrated with some of her customers because they won't listen. She can see the problem but the client won't accept it. 

Personally, I get fitted once a year. Sometimes my size has changed.  Sometimes it hasn't. My fitter says that's why I enjoy wearing a bra. It's comfortable and it's doing what it's designed to do. And that's the way it should be for everyone. Most women are uncomfortable in their bras and the bra can't do its job correctly because of it. 

Bras are such a personal thing that no two people wear a bra the same way. 

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Acceptance / Re: A few may remember me

« Last post by Justagirl💃 on Yesterday at 01:02:57 PM »

Like I mentioned earlier,  "to each their own."

Take what you can from the site and ignore the rest.

All of us have breasts. The acceptance side of the site manages what we do to negotiate that out. The path one takes is quite personal in that aspect.  

No one is trying to win anyone over to a single lifestyle.  We are just individuals having a respectful conversation.  

I won't ask a single person on the site to wear a dress, nor should we expect backlash if some of us do. 
 

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Acceptance Garments / Re: The hug of a Bra

« Last post by gyneco_jason on Yesterday at 11:57:55 AM »

  I have to say, being encapsulated in a well fitting bra all day I feel great!

  It's shower time and I'm ready for the weekend.  I have to say, wearing is so routine and normal, I don't even think about it.  I have learned to take life and what it gives in stride. 

  I hope everyone gets there at some point. 

  I just love what life has given me and the curves.  I'm me and that's that!  I like how I'm built and embrace it. Who would have thought picking out bras would be a part of my daily routine? Sorry no picks yet.  Working on that. Wearing My 40D Wacoal Minimizer bra.

  How are you coping?  Embracing it?  Having fun with it?

I've come a long way in this regard, from shame and embarrassment about how my chest looked and felt when I was younger, to actually feeling OK about it in middle age. The supportive comments on this page are helpful. 
As a teenager peers teased me about needing a bra, and for a long time I thought it was ridiculous to even consider. And there are still times when I feel embarrassed to put one on. But sometimes when I have a nice-looking bra on, I will take time to look at my chest in the mirror and appreciate how it looks. Just as a needed confidence booster, if nothing else.

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Acceptance / Re: A few may remember me

« Last post by 42CSurprise! on Yesterday at 11:50:48 AM »

is this side of the site going more fem?

In case you missed REALITY... it is estrogen that produces breasts on men who frequent this website, coupled with diminished testosterone.  In other words, we ARE becoming more feminine.  Many of us talk about the other changes to our bodies and our psyches... for example, feeling less aggression, or having smoother skin or less body hair.  It is not one size fits all, but estrogen does affect mood as well as bodies.  Some celebrate the shift, some simply note the changes without doing anything about it except, perhaps, putting on a brassiere.  I own no clothes designed for a woman's more curvaceous body, though my body has become more curvaceous as breasts have grown on my chest.  I present as a man but often I'm wearing a brassiere beneath my street clothes.  So you're safe bobb to be exactly as you wish to be.  I hope you'll offer others the same freedom to be who they choose to be.  This is a great group engaged in a sometimes surprising adventure.  We are fortunate to have one another's company.

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Acceptance / Re: A few may remember me

« Last post by Traveler on Yesterday at 11:48:22 AM »

is this side of the site going more fem?

Don't get over polarized by one thread; there has always been a spectrum of acceptance from basic acknowledgement of the need to wear a bra to embracing a more feminine side. Take what works for you and you can leave the rest. No need to create any divide.

Great way to look at it. While I have fun showing off my breasts and still manage to play them down for the public, I’m not in the least bit”fem”.