OK, I now regret moving the post to another thread because this is now becoming a clusterf*ck, so I'll keep it to this one. You restated my point exactly in saying that nobody can force anyone's decisions upon them. I did not even state my opinion on what route the poster should take. Either way, I understand that life holds alot more than simple problems like this, but I'm not going to sit here and try to justify my own thoughts and decisions to someone I don't know. I respect the things you've been through hammer, as well as the fact you share it openly with the rest of us, everyone's life is their own and very different. Terrible things will happen to some of us and some of us will get through life without a broken bone. Its out of our control, so I don't believe its right to compare your own life to anothers in order to make them think the way you do. Back to my first statement which might I add we have ALL said: Everyone is free to make their own decisions, and I was under the impression that this site was supportive of such decisions with respect for them. That's the only reason I posted. It just seemed some were getting a little overly imperative on taking one route.
Hi Z31t,
I don't think that there is any one right decision in all this. If the choices had been available to me I would have made different choices at different ages. From the group health background I am concerned with plan member satisfaction. I also run into too many folks who rushed to surgery and regretted at leisure. I saw all the things that went wrong. My father was almost killed by elective surgery a few years ago and was brain damaged, because the surgeon botched the job. A friend of mine died from anesthesia shock before they even opened him up. I'm not saying that any surgeon here isn't a good surgeon, just that anesthesia and surgery can go wrong.
I do want to point out alternatives in how a person handles it. When I decided that a person's reaction to my breasts says more about them than about me, it changed everything. When I could no longer be shamed by having my God given body, the bullies became laughable and I could make fools out of them if they tried to harass me. Truly the sagging skin from my belly being blown up hard like a basketball with edema for 20 years bothers me a lot more than breasts at this point, as does a sagging jaw line and all that. You know, I'm not going to be any younger next year. No matter what surgical interventions I did, my body will never be one of the beautiful people and having breasts makes no difference at all in the sum of all these things. I would rather spend the money doing my bucket list than on surgery.
Further, I don't feel a need to hide them under compression garments. For suits a good tailor can make all the difference so the lapel lays right, for anything else it doesn't matter. I refuse to accept another layer of discomfort to make some people more comfortable about seeing a man with breasts. That is their problem, not mine.
Surgery would cost me 6 or more years of membership and seasonal site rental at a nudist club, and I will have a lot more fun spending the summers there than any other use of the money right now. And I don't need the money all up front.
Do what pleases YOU as you are the only one really affected. What will let you get through life without wincing internally every time somebody looks in your direction?
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