How has this condition effected your sex life?

[ciocan]

i never suffered much with the sex part , girls just didn't notice i think , only one once said .. damn they seem mine . I had long term relationships , in fact i'm in one right now and we are about to get maried , i sit in front of her in my shorts and nothing bothers her . My point is if she loves you .... there is absolutly no problem , and love takes some time to discover. So before she can turn you down you just have to play it soft . If not just turn of the light and move a lot

[gynegoawayplz]

what sex life?

[Javier]

I would definately say my gynecomastia has affected my sex life. I'm 19 years old, and I have a midler case of gynecomastia, kinda like in spleens avatar, maybe even a bit smaller, but still noticable. I have puffy nipples and alto there isnt too much fat I can definately feel the glands.

My point is, I'm a virgin. I dont have problems talking to girls I know, like my friends or classmates, and in general I can feel comfortable around women, but only if I'm not wearing just a t-shirt.  When I go out to clubs in the summer in just a t-shirt I'd hold my hands crossed or pretend to scratch my nose, anything just to conceal my condition. During the fall and winter things arent as bad, but even wearing a thick sweater will reveal I have a larger chest, but it doesnt accentuate my nipples so much.  I have no problems talking to girls or flirting a bit in a friendly way, but I certanly have a problem approaching unknown girls or really trying to pick up a girl, because I'm a bit shy, which I believe is due to my gynecomastia.

Now, I'm not too fat (I'm 180 cms, 80 kg, or 5' 11" and 160 lbs I believe) and plenty of girls have been interested in me but I've never really been comfortable approaching them or trying to start a romantic relationship.

I'm extremely self conscious when going to the beach, and I find myself trying to find excuses why I don't want to go with ym friends to the waterpart or on vacation.

I haven't really had a real girlfriend so far. My only relationship was on my school trip when I spent a night with a girl kissing (but no sex). I wore a shirt with the top 2 buttons unbuttoned and I remember how uncomfortable I felt when she started kissing my neck and going down to my chest, and I immediately got her off me.

My mates went on vacation together this year, and some great sexual experiences, even 2 friends that were also virgins and that were more shy then me and not better looking than me. My point is, I have no doubt I would have had sex for the first time had I gone with them, but I didnt feel comfortable enough to go. Even on my school trip where we spent most of the time on the beach I'd pinch my nipples to make them contract or jump in the water immidiately. By the time I got home my nipples were very red and hurting.

I know some girls don't care about male breasts, especially if it's not an extreme case, but the only opinion that matters is your own. If you don't feel comfortable in your body, if you avoid social situations or every day activities because of your breasts it's obvious that something needs to be done. In the end, it's all about self confidence, and some people, like me, just cant feel confident about themselves because of their breasts, or will find themselves obsessing over their breasts when they should be having fun. In the end, it's all about ourselves.

Now, I've had this condition since I was 12, and my father used to say it would go away but it hasnt. He said he doesnt think I have a problem, but I believe I do. My friends would joke sometimes that I have pointy breasts, and one girl said jokingly (withouth trying to hurt me) that I have bigger breasts than her. Basically, I'm tired of it affecting my life.  I've already contacted several surgeons and plan to have the surgery in the next two months, preferably by early or mid September because college starts in October, and I'd really like to be able to meet new people withouth having to think about my boobs.

[Seal]

Girls are unforgiving and satanic. Most wouldn't want anything to do with a man who has gynecomastia despite what they may try to lead you to believe...

[Minitits]

Shame there aren't more women on this site - they could probably lay a lot of urban myths ..... and perhaps even a few, not so hung up, guys with breasts !!!!!!

[ItsOK]

Girls are unforgiving and satanic. Most wouldn't want anything to do with a man who has gynecomastia despite what they may try to lead you to believe...

Do YOU really want anything to do with an unforgiving and satanic girl?

I think your stereotype is just the least bit flawed.

[Seal]

Do YOU really want anything to do with an unforgiving and satanic girl?

I think your stereotype is just the least bit flawed.

Women are usually more cold and uncaring than men. And then on top of it they pretend to be more caring and sympathetic than men.  

Isn't that evil sounding?

[c3ntralp3rk]

you guys need to get laid more often. sorry. mods please delete this forum. its depressing..

gyne usually just affects *you*... but its *you* seeing the outside world.. if you wear pink sun goggles, the world will appear pink.. think outside the box.

[gyno_boy]

I just say fcuk it  When you have gyne you just have to be selfish and have sex for your own personal pleasure and not worry about whether she still fancies you now shes seen your body. Do the deed, if she comes back tomorrow then all is good, the gyne didn't put her off

Try and go with girls you and none of your friends know, that way there is no chance of anything coming back. But if you find a nice girl, love really is blind, and thats soo true.

[indagroove]

newbie warning !

Just wanted to weigh in here.

I am 46yo.  I have had many partners in the past.  I have never had a woman be taken back from my man boobs.  I would say that 90% of them actually cupped and sucked them.

My wife loves them.  Early in our relationship, she said: Baby, I am jealous of your breasts.  I wish mine were fine like yours.  She loves me to stick them in her face.
Mind you, my wife is no dog.  She is a fine lookin gal at 5'9" and 140 pounds.  Our sex life lacks NOTHING.


So all of you out there, there is great hope.  Plenty of girls that will like them.  It's your confidence that they respond to.  
I don't mean to brag.  I am trying to say that the boobs are not the problem when it comes to most women.

Now getting me to take my shirt off in public is a whole nother issue...

[Worrier]

Women are usually more cold and uncaring than men. And then on top of it they pretend to be more caring and sympathetic than men.  

Isn't that evil sounding?

I think many women would disagree with you there pal. I think both sexes are capable   of being prettydamm nasty. I have found personally the opposite that women don't just go for looks but also like to mess with a guys mind. My mates don't reaaly care about a birds personality but just focus on how she looks. Women IMO are the gentler sex and more caring and accepting but there some exceptions...
I get women showing interest quite alot but I don't want it to progress further due to the hang-up I HAVE.

[Minitits]

I'll modify my previous quote:-

When it comes to problem attitudes with gyne it's:-

1. yourself = 2

2. Other blokes = 1

3. Women.

[rn076q]

I'm 22 and have slept with about 20 women (one night stands, relationships etc.).

I am what I would consider reasonably good looking haha modesty. It has effected my confidence but most of these happened when I was drunk after a night out so I was too wasted to care.

I think that women have issues about there bodies also as we do ie. we want better bodies and they feel like there body has to be the same as a models.

To the people who cannot get any to be honest how many people do you talk to, meet, have a laugh with?
I suspect not alot. It may be different here in the UK but basically here you can go out on a friday night and end up speaking to lots of girls. The better I felt about myself the more luck with the ladies i would have. I think sense of humor is important to girls if you have that which with this condition its hard not to.

Girls like men who have perfect bodies & GQ model looks but I think they end up insecure and been cheated on and treated like excriment, girls like to be worshiped and not feel second best .

All in all if you cant get any get out and about there will always be girls who blow you out or ignore you the trick is acess if they will before hand.

There is not 1 special person made for you and she wont come and knock on your door and take you to bed. You have to put in the effort.

"the whole world is your playground"

And one day if you want it bad enough you will get the surgery till then just relax, worring wont change a thing.

See it as something to look forward to.

Im sorry if I made no sense haha but it made sense in my head and I sometimes find it difficult to put what i mean into words.

[James186282]

I've been married for 17 years.  Hormone problems and thus I'm here.  My wife has always paid attention to that area sexualy (Which I appreciate)

When I talked to her about it as the size started getting more graphic - she was not at all freaked out about it but more of the opinion the more the marrier.  I was a tad shocked but...  As I said before when given lemons make lemonaid.  I have to admit I'm very happy that this is her attitude because the cost of reduction is way more than we can afford right now.  Not sure how I willl deal with this if we hit the lottery however!  I do find it annoying to have them zanging around when I'm hoofing it on the treadmill.  And I did inverst in some male compression garments to keep them in check when I run around.  Kind of a spandex wifebeater shirt.  I also wear this when I go swimming.  Which brings comments about me being a 1900s era swimmer.  Which is still better than the guy with the B Cup.

[ahhthissucks]

wish i hada sex life..i am good looking and have a nice body with huge arms and traps that compliment me..girls would love me if i could wear a medium shirt but not with my chest as big as it is and how it sticks out..im too scared to even talk to some girls even when they talk to me cuz i dont like getn made fun of