relationships

[SC GameCOCKS]

You may be right, but I refuse to settle for an ugly girl, and let's face it all the good looking girls are total biatches. I don't even blame them from walking away from me though, why not go for someone who's more fun to touch? I am a shallow person also I guess I value my looks so much perhaps this was god's way of teaching me a lesson.

not all good looking girls are bitches...ive had 3 serious relationships with 3 amazing looking girls (im still with the 3rd girl...she actually is a Abercrombie model!!)  and they liked me for me. Granted Im physically fit with just puffy nipples, but the point is that those girls couldve been with almost any non gyne man out there but they looked past my gyne and were happy with me.

[Grandpa Bambu]

No one can understand the terrible pain you've gone through, from which you're permantly mentally scarred, and from which you'll never recover. So sad.

Rob....

What is sad dude, is the cruelty/mental anguish that many people in todays North American society, inflict on those that have a disability, a deformity or who just don't 'look' quite right. Sick bastards the lot!  

Do you have Gynecomastia?

John.

[silly_guy]

How sad that the feminist movement has changed the men of Europe and the USA into wusses who allow what used to be minor issues to develop into neuroses which dominate their sad lives.

Have you seen paintings of men in the 1800s?  They wore knickers (panty hose) and wigs.  I'd say men were bigger wusses before the feminist movement.

[elaine]

hi, i have over the last few months, been seeing the most caring wonderful man i have ever met, i have been involved in 2 very violent marriages and been a single parent now for over 5 years. i have noticed he seems to have gynecomastia, it doesnt bother me and it seems not to bother him even though niether of us have mentioned it. he has disclosed he was bullied by certain members of his family about how he looks and i see the pain in his eyes when he talks about it. he is not what id call over wieght either. when he visits me and we go out i get some snide remarks from some of the lads in the pub about him needing a bra bigger than mine. this hurts me, i cant tell him what they say, i just have my remark back to them and try to hide my feelings, but he always knows someone has upset me, i have to make things up. he accepts me, my children, my strange past, and he is wonderful, witty, charming, intelligant and i have fallen head over heels in love with him. he could have 6 heads for all i care, all i know is im prepared to actually consider throwing away my independant singlelife and become one half of a couple with him. in time im sure we will discuss this, but at this present moment i dont give 2hoots, he is man enough for me and that is all i care about. apart from that i just wish the snidey back handed comments made from stupid men (never women may i add) about his appearance would stop, why cant people be more tolerant of other peoples looks and just take the person for what they are. im happy and i love him....... its as simple as that

[aloe]

"why cant people be more tolerant of other peoples looks and just take the person for what they are"

I think mostly people are afraid.  Also, sometimes I think they are subconsciously attracted.  

(I don't necessarily mean sexually attracted - just fascinated, or something)

[markashleigh1979]

Re: relationships
« Reply #14 on: Apr 15th, 2006, 2:07pm »  Quote  Modify  

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on Mar 18th, 2006, 12:09pm, markashleigh1979 wrote:Where i live , we have a saying that goes.....
"shy bairns get nowt"....translated into normal english   " shy children don't get anything" ...meaning if you don't ask you lose out!!!! Send her an email mate ( if you have her contact details) ...or contact her via a mutual friend !  .....
We are all waiting to see what happens! good luck    




is that a term from glasgow or somewhere straight out of a ken loach film?

Lol Glasgow......No, Ken loach....?...no.....

It s a saying from the North east of England ....Teesside/Tyneside/Wearside.....I am Durham , inbetween the wear and the Tees .  

Hi Carguy, any news?

[carguy]

Nothings happened yet. My friends sister still hasn't talked to the girls sister and I dont know if she will.
Im still crossing my fingers though.

[headheldhigh01]

thanks for the post, elaine, good on you.  

[elaine]

headheldhigh01, hey...there is no need to thank me, i wrote how i see things and how i feel. a year ago i dated for a while a man who had lost his leg in a bike accident, he didnt wear an artificial one so it was obvious he had only one leg. these same lads in my local never once mentioned it, never said anything discriminating about me being with him,rightly so may i add, so what right have they to say anything about the man i am now in love with. these lads where meant to be my friends, have known what i have gone through in the past, and should be happy to see me so happy. i dont see them as friends anymore, i see them as artificail shallow narrow minded men that have now shown their ignorance to another persons feelings,  i also see them as bullies, as they are bullying me into trying to see this man as some kind of freak (i use this word not myself, but the word they have used for him), fortunatley i am a strong minded strong willed woman, and i dont care what people say about him or myself. i see some of my female friends still stuck in abusive relationships, either mentally or physically, and they have all met my man and they all say how lucky i am to have found someone so caring. i prefer now to ignore my local and the stupid men that go in there, and go to his neck of the woods where he has a wide circle of friends that accept him for him and have welcomed me into their gathering with open arms. like i said, i love him and no stupid snide comment from any person/s will change my feelings on that.

[Tim_Hortons_Coffee]

Wow Carguy and Headheldhigh still on here, I remember you lads (I lost the document with my old password, made a new account).

Carguy, I just thought I would throw my two cents into the jar here. I remember reading one of your post op journals and seeing how angry you were about missing out in high school and whatnot. I see you are still having some issues with your 'lost years', and I think many of us can relate. Many of us had that near-angelic "lost girl" from high school who we couldn't express ourselves to due to gyne. It's common and it's hard to get over, it hurts.

However, going on five years now (correct me if I'm wrong) without contact, I'd say it's time for you to bring yourself to a state where you feel like you can move on. That darker chapter of your life is long gone (as far as I know, still good results with the surgery?) and you need to start looking towards your future. I remember you saying you were having trouble integrating back into socializing with people your age. It's important that you start to relearn that, rather than dwelling on the missed opportunities of adolescence.

Now I understand why you would want to get in touch with someone that close to you, and that's fine. But try not to build up a lot of expectations or hope around seeing her again. If she has a new guy in college the chances of her wanting to jump back into your arms are slim to none, and I say that as a generalization, nothing personal towards you.

Your past is in the past Carguy. You're still young and have a much brighter future if you start looking forward.

Cheers.

[carguy]

Thanks for the post Tim.
I do have some good news. I met a friend from high school a few days ago. He said that the girl i like had a crush on me and used to talk about me all the time to my friends. I never knew she liked me that much. I was too busy thinking about gyne to notice.  Hes gonna give me the number to her sister and i  will take it from there. I know I shouldnt get my hopes up but this really makes me want to see her even more. Wish me luck everyone.

[carguy]

Good and bad news.
Turns out my "friend" knew she liked me the whole time and he never told me. Then i hear he used to mess with her. Anyway i got her sister's number but its temporarily cut off right now so i have to play the waiting game. Im one step closer.

[There_Is_Hope]

You guys want to feel better about yourselves?

I am 20 years old. I am good looking (not trying to sound cocky, but general consensus amongst most girls I've met is that I am good looking). I have a decent body. I got operated on last year. My chest is better, although somewhat lopsided.

I HAVE NOT HOOKED UP WITH A GIRL SINCE GRADE 10. I'm now entering my 4th year of college. I missed 3 years of random college sex because of this condition. It's gotten to the point that now I don't even want to hook up with a girl because I have zero experience and truth be told, I am scared and nervous.

Me... me, I'm pathetic. You guys still have hope. I'm hopeless.

[SC GameCOCKS]

You guys want to feel better about yourselves?

I am 20 years old. I am good looking (not trying to sound cocky, but general consensus amongst most girls I've met is that I am good looking). I have a decent body. I got operated on last year. My chest is better, although somewhat lopsided.

I HAVE NOT HOOKED UP WITH A GIRL SINCE GRADE 10. I'm now entering my 4th year of college. I missed 3 years of random college sex because of this condition. It's gotten to the point that now I don't even want to hook up with a girl because I have zero experience and truth be told, I am scared and nervous.

Me... me, I'm pathetic. You guys still have hope. I'm hopeless.

from the 40 year old virgin... "You're puttin the p*ssy on a pedestal. Take the p*ssy down OFF the pedestal."

Yes that sounds stupid, but its actually soooo true. You said  yourself that you are a good looking guy, thats atleast 70% of the battle. The other 30% is the tricky and the deciding factor whether u get it or not. I want to help ya bc I am 20 as well and from reading your responses on here you seem like a good guy.  I think I can help you, not because I think Im some super ladies man, but because I went from being with a couple so so looking girls in highschool to having gorgeous gfs in college. My looks have improved but im no brad pitt.
I sent you a PM, check it out and msg me on aim soon...there is hope and I think with some simple changes you will be happy with yourself and your relationships with women. It wil take some time, but its very possible with some work.

[elaine]

being a woman, and caring bout her man, i dont think i like the topic of putting the "pussy off the pedestal".....i also dont think its fair to say i went from "so so to beautiful"......even you men dont seem to get the context of it all........ its not looks that matter, its feeling, warmth, caring, and maybe even love?....... i am not a pussy...........i am a woman that loves her man