What is your worst gynecomastia memory :'(

[demha]

To me being fat isnt all that bad, except when you have gyne. It sucks when your skinny or medium and have breasts and there are overweight guys with flat chests. Being fat, having a belly or having love handles is socially acceptable for guys, but unfortunately gynecomastia isn't.

Then again doesn't it feel a little wrong that you're jealous about someone not suffering from a condition you're suffering from?

And I also agree about the feeling when everyone is expecting you to be in good shape when you're skinny while you're not, it does feel like a big lie. And personally to me it felt like a huge lie to girls more then boys. Specifically the ones who I liked, and I would always think about when I would take off my shirt and letting the cat out of the bag, wondering what their expression/reaction would be like. I was more afraid of disappointing them/ letting them down more then them laughing or making fun of me. If they made fun of me then I would have a reason to hate them but, if they were just disappointed, then I would be left with guilt. Guilt that I wasn't who I made out I was and that my body has a major flaw that lowers my physical value a great deal.

Looking back, all the times I've swam and taken off my shirt, I can't remember a girl who made fun of my gyne directly(other then my 1st post), I would imagine they would behind my back. I guess my fear of disappointing them came from my experiences with them barely making fun of me directly. It would go something like this: I would take my shirt off, they would look and see, I would see the disappointment or whatever emotional response they make, then after that it doesnt really matter if they accept me or not. I don't really care about the afterwards reaction whether they would act like it doesnt matter or it isnt a big deal because deep down I know that I have a physical problem and now they know too and that's all it takes for me to feel bad, the initial reaction.

And maybe there are some people who look past it, but, for some reason I never will and that is one of the reasons I had the surgery done. 

[AZ54321]

there isn't only one bad memory i can think of because I've done well to hide myself, but just waking up everyday and thinking of ways to cover myself up.. avoiding the beach and pool parties, wearing dark t-shirts with big graphics to cover it up, not being able to show off the six pack I had worked so hard for, and never enjoying summer time. I think it's really hindered my social skills, and my confidence with girls.

[rage.against.the.machine]

bk to subject.
my worst memory wud b, just like at the beach. and lots of fat kids, or big boys,with beer guts but a flat chest. then look at me, a slim sporty muscular looking guy with my top on. girls wud look at me with my top on, and my mates wud say cum swim. but i didnt. i was always kinda jelious of fat people, i dont no why. i think its cuz the fat people didnt have moobs, but they shud have, and i was slim but i had moobs. i didnt understand how that workd. i work out and eat healthy but i have titz. they sit on they ass all day and eat junk but have a flat chest. i hated how people expected me to have a great body, but i felt i was lying to them. no1 eva found out bout my g, except 1 tym i was havin a showa and my otha mate the 1 with puffy nipple was brushin his teeth n i got out of shower n got changed ect. he didnt say anythn, lookd a bit then lookd down. great guy

Relate completely.

[GynO_DuDe]

And I also agree about the feeling when everyone is expecting you to be in good shape when you're skinny while you're not, it does feel like a big lie. And personally to me it felt like a huge lie to girls more then boys. Specifically the ones who I liked, and I would always think about when I would take off my shirt and letting the cat out of the bag, wondering what their expression/reaction would be like. I was more afraid of disappointing them/ letting them down more then them laughing or making fun of me. If they made fun of me then I would have a reason to hate them but, if they were just disappointed, then I would be left with guilt. Guilt that I wasn't who I made out I was and that my body has a major flaw that lowers my physical value a great deal.

OMG ... Thats EXACTLY how I feel. With clothes on im actually a good catch and look decent, but without, I have stretch marks from weight loss, and my stomach/chest area lets me down in my opinion.

Ive told my best mate my problem who's slept with hundreds of girls but he laughs at me saying wait till you see the girl naked, and tells me not to assume their all like supermodels, because they also have their defects/insecurities aswell. But the problem is, I can't get my head to comprehend to this reality, its just impossible...AND as you mentioned above, i'd feel like im mis-leading the girl I like.

Its like that movie DR SEUSS CAT IN THE HAT ... dont know if anyones seen it lool, but that guy who looks smart etc but comes home and removes his Compression vest revealing his huge fat belly.

[Cole1992]

My worst gyno memory must have been when I was about 11 or 12 years old. I was in my pool swimming with my friends, and at the time, (hard to believe I know) I had no idea I had gyno or even that I had abnormal nipples. I actually wasn't the first one to notice them. My friend was. He looked over at me and was like "woah... your nipples are huge! let me see them!" or something of that sort. And I looked down and noticed them for the first time EVER. So I ignored him and kept my body under the water until I got out and dried myself off and quickly put on a shirt. Luckily, my other friend heard him say "let me see your nipples" so we made fun of him and accused him of being a homosexual (sorry if this offends anyone that reads this, I was young and immature). Since that day about 4 years ago, I had not gone swimming or taken my shirt off in public. But, I am happy to say that about 4 hours ago, I had gotten gyno surgery (yes, I do have bragging rights ) so I'm feeling pretty damn good about this summer.

[Nightmare]

I had a few bad moments, pretty much going out and people staring at me weirdly is bad.
The worst one was about a year ago, I went to pick up my neice from school. And some old guy (around 50 years old ) was looking at me weird,  and came and felt my man boob cause he thought i was wearing a bra or something. then he said " oh damn, you got boobies" .
how I get through it is to remind myself that i love my family, which i do. they are my strength and salvation. and the fact that  everyday is closer to the day that i can afford a surgery  gives me more hope.

[sadgyneguy]

I had lots of bad memories.. I heard my boss talking to one of my co-workers : "Man with breasts"... It really had hurted me so much... Since then, all I did was to hide my gyne all the time...


When there are times that I don't have something to cover my chest (like T-shirt), I really flex my chest muscles VERY HARD, so that all muscles will concentrate on the upper pecs... it's so tiring to flex chest muscles all the time just to give a muscular look... It's so frustrating that I had chest muscles but I still hide it because of gyne...

[SoX]

another story for me im sittin in this pub speakin to this lad i worked with a year a go and he was just staring and i go what u lookin at he goes sorry i cant get my eyes off ur breasts u should get on the weights so i flexed and said feel this put his hand in the middle of my chest so he could feel the muscle tense and he was amazed he was questionin me all night sayin i dont understand uve got more chest muscle than most but u got all the saggy bit and im just like yer can we move on please

[headheldhigh01]

that's when i'd consider asking him if he stared at kids in wheelchairs too. 

[Cole1992]

man i dont kinda get it about this puffy nipple thing. how people with it get so down about it and all.

i can relate to guys who have breast or lil breast cuz of gland who get surgery and are afraid to go in the pool ect.

but just 1 long kinda nipple, is that, that all bad? one of my gud mates has a puffy nipple, its big. and hes like one of the skuxest kids at college, in the top basketball team and rugby team. and has one of the hottest girlfriend. and he has his shirt of nearly all the time.

i had very pointy breast and had surgery 2 months ago, which im stoked about. but if i had puffy nipples nstead of breast gynocomastia, i dont think i wuda got da surgury.
im 17 btw

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my worst memory wud b, just like at the beach. and lots of fat kids, or big boys,with beer guts but a flat chest. then look at me, a slim sporty muscular looking guy with my top on. girls wud look at me with my top on, and my mates wud say cum swim. but i didnt. i was always kinda jelious of fat people, i dont no why. i think its cuz the fat people didnt have moobs, but they shud have, and i was slim but i had moobs. i didnt understand how that workd. i work out and eat healthy but i have titz. they sit on they ass all day and eat junk but have a flat chest. i hated how people expected me to have a great body, but i felt i was lying to them. no1 eva found out bout my g, except 1 tym i was havin a showa and my otha mate the 1 with puffy nipple was brushin his teeth n i got out of shower n got changed ect. he didnt say anythn, lookd a bit then lookd down. great guy

Puffy nipples isn't as bad as having full blown gyne, but it's still bad, and can cause many (if not all) of the disadvantages of having man boobs. Don't be ignorant towards something you have not experienced.

RESPECT

[theman234]

Reading all these embarassing horrible memories on this thread.... i can firmly say:

F.UCK GYNECOMASTIA AND ALL THE EMOTIONAL PAIN IT BRINGS PEOPLE!

that is all.

[demha]

lol

[enthusiastic]

I am a grown man, 34 years old.  I own a business with 50 people, and I'm the CEO, have an MBA....   life has been good to me so far.

Except....   G.

It plagued me from the time I was 10 or so, there they were.   Embarrassing me at every turn.

They most certainly cost me a girlfriend or two who didn't like them.   One told me "you don't take care of yourself" because she told me my G was because I was fat.   I was 6'3 and weighed 200 pounds.   I was thin! 

Most girls I dated didn't care, or just ignored it, one asked me to keep my shirt on, so I did.   No problem.   I got laid plenty, and by some hot ladies and especially by the psycho-crazy kind that are a pain in the ass to date, but fun to screw around with. 

I wore compression garments, some that I actually made, and then some better ones that I bought.

My most embarrassing time was when I was working after college, and there was a fellow who started calling me "Double D", which caught on, and then everyone called me that for years.   Damnit.   YEARS.   He eventually died, but he was a great guy and I liked him, but the name calling stopped and I was glad about that part.  I felt bad for being happy he was gone and took my nickname with him.

The stories on this thread have brought tears to my eyes, because I had so many of the same embarrassing experiences.

Two years ago I went and had surgery and had those droopy man-boobs removed.  Thank goodness they are GONE GONE!  I still have two scars that wrap around me, the scars are about 10" long each, but they've faded now.    The shape of my chest is finally flat.   

I opted for totally flat chest, and having skin removed, and deal with the scars, instead of having lipo and leaving the skin.  Tough choice, but it was the right one. 

To all who are suffering....  get a compression garment and use that to help hold things in place, and then go sign up for surgery.   Start a savings account and build up the money until you can pay for it, and then just get surgery, you will be glad you did.     Don't waste your lives being so upset about how you look, it did nothing but make me drink.

Now that the surgery is over and I look normal, I can't tell you how nice it is to be wearing a T-shirt out doing yardwork and a neighbor will stop by and visit, and I'm not worried.   I have a small beer-belly, but that's not embarrassing to me at all. 

Also, I've been focusing on getting thin and in shape again now that I can run without the G being painful and moving around all the time.

Two weeks ago there were two ladies (good looking) that work for me, and they said "You should come out to the bar and get a few drinks in us, and we'll have fun, we might even jump your bones!"  Of course I can't because I'm their boss, but that made me so happy to hear!!!!

I haven't felt that good in years.

[frozen]

Hey enthusiastic, really inspiring post. Glad things are going so good for you. I'm 19 and have my op scheduled 13 days from now - 3 days before my birthday! I'm nervous but as every day passes I'm more and more certain that this is what I want. I'm glad I'm getting this done young and can't bloody wait to start living

[enthusiastic]

Hey enthusiastic, really inspiring post. Glad things are going so good for you. I'm 19 and have my op scheduled 13 days from now - 3 days before my birthday! I'm nervous but as every day passes I'm more and more certain that this is what I want. I'm glad I'm getting this done young and can't bloody wait to start living

Good luck with the surgery.   Man, my surgery was a lot of skin removal and here's what it was like:    You lay on a gurney, they give you a shot, then they give you one more shot, and then POOF you're in the recovery room and they give you drugs.    A  few weeks of recovery and it's all good.    Don't worry about the surgery, it goes by like the blink of an eye, the recovery is a bit sore, but ok, and then you're golden.