Looking your best

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I feel that I present best in public wearing a bra.

I can see at home that my T shirt bras give a nice smoothing profile and shaping that gives me more confidence in the way I look. I know I also have better posture in my bra, perhaps due to more confidence in my appearance.

I can also feel the control of excessive breast movement that will reduce attention that my braless breasts can otherwise get. I know my own eyes will gravitate to any woman having significant breast bounce if she is braless or has a less supportive bralette. 

If I avoid basic form fitting cheap T shirts I have no concerns of my bra straps showing in public and just enjoy the benefits of wearing a bra to control and shape my breasts. I don't know why more guys with breast development have not tried or accepted wearing a bra, it works.

Do others just feel better and more confident in public when wearing your bra?

[Traveler]

I’m totally comfortable out while wearing my bra. I too avoid thin tees and buy heavier weight t shirts, with that and a tank top underneath and a pattered top shirt I don’t show at all. Yeah, I still look a little “chesty” but presenting male and confident I don’t get many second looks. 

It is getting harder to hide though. I’ve been losing weight but my chest hasn’t! I just had to order a bra with a smaller band size and since I’m either still growing or my chest is just staying the same I’ve had to sister size the cups. I’ve had some boobage since puberty but now age, weight loss and meds have made the girls more prominent. I love how a good bra contains and shapes my chest though. I do feel more confident with a bra on than going out bra less.

[aboywithgirls]

I wear a bra for all the same reasons as any woman does. I need the support but, I like the shaping and modesty that a bra provides. 

[Johndoe1]

I too want the girls and myself to look their best and have found a zen when wearing a good fitting bra that gives me confidence I don't have when braless. When braless in public, I have this great fear people can see my breasts moving under my top or my high beams are showing. I completely understand the feeling women have where they complain about their bras but would NEVER be caught not wearing one. Yeah, they can be uncomfortable sometimes, hot in the summer, itchy, cause rashes, expensive, hard to keep from being exposed to the world, especially for us, difficult to clean, sometimes hard to hide the outline of the straps and band, particularly if you are a little puggy in the back area where the band will compress some of the fat. But women deal with these same issues all the time. They are not unique to males. There are solutions.

Most women who I have talked to about their feelings about bras, all say pretty much the same thing, they would prefer to not wear one, but they would not consider not wearing one for all the advantages we have outlined. And many enjoy wearing a bra for what it does to their mental as well as physical comfort and appearance. Something that many of us who wear a bra share with our bra wearing sisters. Of the women who know I wear a bra, and that is a small number by choice, they are very supportive of my decision, agree that a bra is not a bad thing for me, and have been encouraging about my wearing of a bra. They have not been judgemental towards me, and have nice comments to say if my top was a little tighter than normal and have been helpful with bra suggestions and how to wear tops with them. One female friend told me when she discovered my bra that a bra doesn't make you, it makes you a more comfortable person, and she was right.

After losing 100 pounds of fat, the girls didn't reduce that much, so as a 36DDD/F these days, a bra has become pretty much a necessity. And when I am not wearing one, I feel like I am not completely dressed. And other than a handful of close female friends, no one even pays attention if they even suspect or notice and I have not had as good a body self image as I do now since before my breasts developed when I was a teen. This has led to an overall reduction of stress over my chest and I actually am enjoying life where I would not do activities because I was afraid of what people MIGHT think or say due to my chest. That is not any way to live. And I refuse to live that way anymore. I dress my chest for the activity and go live life, just like 50% of the population has done forever. That doesn't make me any less a man.

[Dale Warnio]

You are 100% right.  We have breasts, same as women, and need to wear bras for all the same reasons women do, support, modesty, uplift, and shaping, to name a few.

[Robin_wayne]

I look best in winters with hoodie, sweaters or sweatshirt. It makes my stuff hidden & i feel normal in public. But i hate summers cuz whatever i wear, people stare like they have seen some alien or what. I hate that look. 

[qwerty6]

I’ve been wearing bras for just over 3 months now after discovering I have gynecomastia .When I first started it was still summer and I was just wearing T-shirts so the outline of my bra was clearly visible beneath , and probably emphasised more shape-wise because the bras were padded and I prefer women’s T-shirt’s which are more fitted. I didn’t notice any strange looks when I was out and about and felt so much more confident than if I had been braless and wearing a baggy tshirt to hide my breasts , in which case I would have felt very self conscious. 

[Johndoe1]

qwerty6,

That seems to be the norm, believe it or not. I have heard other men say the same thing, that there was a level of confidence when wearing a bra than when not, even though their bosom was more defined and enhanced as a women's. I too experienced the same thing after being deathly afraid I would be called out for wearing such a feminine garment. I asked my doctor who I had originally consulted when I started having discomfort with my breasts about this very thing and she said women feel the same way about bras and confidence. It has to do with the notion that the movement is under control and the eyes are not drawn down to the chest because people see movement. (The "my eyes are up here" syndrome.) There is also a comfort component that you don't feel the movement/sensory and you are not distracted and you don't subconsciously think about it causing stress.

[blad]

If you have to live with breasts, they feel a whole lot better wearing a bra every day. It can even be a pleasant experience.

[qwerty6]

There is also a comfort component that you don't feel the movement/sensory and you are not distracted and you don't subconsciously think about it causing stress.

Absolutely !

And it can be surprising how quickly we can get used to wearing bras...
I was already wearing mine a few days before my breast scan at the hospital , and I felt completely at ease exposing, removing and putting my bra back on in front of the two female hospital staff, as if it was 2nd nature.

I am very much of the opinion that although I’m not looking to actively promote or show my developing breasts off to the world, the fact is I have them so why not be as comfortable as I can be both physically and mentally 😊

[Johndoe1]

I am very much of the opinion that although I’m not looking to actively promote or show my developing breasts off to the world, the fact is I have them so why not be as comfortable as I can be both physically and mentally 😊

I too am not trying to change the word. I just want to live in peace.

Bra wearing isn't for every woman, just like it isn't for every man with gynecomastia. It wasn't for me for many years. I eventually came to the proverbial "fork in the road" and had to make a decision that was best for me. What I take issue is that if I deemed it better to wear a bra for my chest, then why would anyone else care? Why is it bad if a man had developed breasts due to no fault of his own or desire, why should he be penalized for it? I didn't ask for boobs. I am not trying to be a woman. I vividly remember in high school having girls jokingly "offer" me their bras, one girl going as far as saying I needed it more than she. And as a prank, having bras hung on my school locker for all to see, would happen from time to time. I had very few "friends". Yeah, life sucked during those days.

I get the fact that maturity at that age is pretty much non existent and most girls at that age are also going through body image crisis as well. There was one girl who began developing very early and by the time she was 16, was well beyond most adult women and into porn star size. She was mercilessly teased and made fun of due to her size. And ironically her last name didn't help either. She was a very beautiful girl and had her chest been more proportional to her size (she was petite) she would have been everyone's perfect girl. But she was a pariah due to her chest. She later dated a cousin of mine for about a year or so and I got to know her somewhat and we would occasionally talk and one time talk did turn to breasts. She was curious how I dealt with mine and we both found out that her trauma was similar to mine. In her case, it was jealous girls and hormone crazy boys and me it was just everyone trying to make me look like a fool because I was different. She was just trying to live life under the radar as I was and both of us getting about the same results.

[qwerty6]

Fortunately  people’s views on what someone can or can’t wear based on their gender seem to be changing for the better over the last few years

[blad]

 I vividly remember in high school having girls jokingly "offer" me their bras, one girl going as far as saying I needed it more than she.

I had that offer too many times in high school,  and of course it felt deeply embarrassing. 

Looking back I should have taken up the offer, and maybe even asked for a demo on how to wear it!

[Johndoe1]

Yeah, I was too embarrassed also. Hindsight is 20/20 and I should have taken her up on it too, but I suspect it wouldn't have fit me right.

[qwerty6]

I look best in winters with hoodie, sweaters or sweatshirt. It makes my stuff hidden & i feel normal in public. But i hate summers cuz whatever i wear, people stare like they have seen some alien or what. I hate that look.

Do you normally wear a bra?