Convincing wife

[Dudewithboobs]

I need some help with how to approach the wife. My chest is getting to a point where the fullness is definitely much more present and I have no idea why. I took a picture the other day and seen you could see my boobs outline in the shirt a bit. Took a shitless pic later when I could and what I seen was a bitch taken back I had no idea they grew this much. I haven’t seen a dr cause I know my insurance is horrible and the costs I just can’t afford with blood labs and x rays like I could on previous insurance. 
My bras are straining in their cups and I’m pretty sure I’m graduating to a c cup at this rate. 

My dilemma is my wife and her family and her friends are all super Christian conservative. Super sweet and wonderful people and even in the discussions of disagreements there’s usually a ehhh I see your point but disagree tone. But I know their views on things very well and a man wearing a bra is not gonna be a oh man sorry to hear your growing breasts. Thank God for who made bras so you have comfort and support for them lol. She also works largely in the community so having a husband spotted out and about in a bra I worry would also cause talk in this social media age.

Like many men and women the mentality is this is for men that is for women that is that play ball. The bras are for breasts not for women women just happen to be the ones with breasts usuall but not always argument would fall on deaf ears. The They are starting to hurt unless I hold them up has a better chance but even that a sports bra would probably be the best I get. Which I’d be fine with cause I’d just buy pullovers instead for more comfort than a sports bra. But I digress. 

Guess I am just looking to beat a dead horse here with the topic and see if there’s are guys here who grew breasts. And I’m talking b or c cup breasts or larger not just a little padding who aren’t larger in weight. No intent to insult just to dial in to my situation. Who eventually had to approach the idea of having bras for comfort and how your wife or partner took to the reality you had noticable breasts wheras you didn’t used to. 

My concern is being shut down. Being met with suspicion rather sympathy cause I’m sorry your breasts hurt honey but you’re 35 and healthy why are you growing in the first place? What are you taking doing etc. 
I’ve asked my wife several times periodically if it looks worse she always says no but it’s clearly worse lol. 

Just looking for those who may be in my situation and got the wife on board to openly freely wear a bra. I don’t do push up lace frilly floral bralettee stuff just t shirt neutral color bras. If she saw my bras I’m sure she wouldn’t be taken back by the style and colors. 

I feel this has become a rambling tangent and I’m sorry. For anyone who has added advice I’d love to hear it. This forum has been amazing for helping me accept my own breasts but as they have grown more I’m losing confidence in acceptance from others. 

[Confused old man]

My wife had sympathy for me. During that time of month her breasts would get really sore. Her bra was her salvation. With my hormone imbalance she knows exactly what I’m going through and encouraged me to try some sort of a binder. Coming to the conclusion that a bra would be best for me. She what she thinks of a mild sports bra. Athletes wear them now. And go from there to more comfortable bras. And yes we are conservatives also. Clothing is common sense to us to make ourselves more comfortable. Why go around all day long uncomfortable.

[Rich meier]

I need some help with how to approach the wife. My chest is getting to a point where the fullness is definitely much more present and I have no idea why. I took a picture the other day and seen you could see my boobs outline in the shirt a bit. Took a shitless pic later when I could and what I seen was a bitch taken back I had no idea they grew this much. I haven’t seen a dr cause I know my insurance is horrible and the costs I just can’t afford with blood labs and x rays like I could on previous insurance.
My bras are straining in their cups and I’m pretty sure I’m graduating to a c cup at this rate.

My dilemma is my wife and her family and her friends are all super Christian conservative. Super sweet and wonderful people and even in the discussions of disagreements there’s usually a ehhh I see your point but disagree tone. But I know their views on things very well and a man wearing a bra is not gonna be a oh man sorry to hear your growing breasts. Thank God for who made bras so you have comfort and support for them lol. She also works largely in the community so having a husband spotted out and about in a bra I worry would also cause talk in this social media age.

Like many men and women the mentality is this is for men that is for women that is that play ball. The bras are for breasts not for women women just happen to be the ones with breasts usuall but not always argument would fall on deaf ears. The They are starting to hurt unless I hold them up has a better chance but even that a sports bra would probably be the best I get. Which I’d be fine with cause I’d just buy pullovers instead for more comfort than a sports bra. But I digress.

Guess I am just looking to beat a dead horse here with the topic and see if there’s are guys here who grew breasts. And I’m talking b or c cup breasts or larger not just a little padding who aren’t larger in weight. No intent to insult just to dial in to my situation. Who eventually had to approach the idea of having bras for comfort and how your wife or partner took to the reality you had noticable breasts wheras you didn’t used to.

My concern is being shut down. Being met with suspicion rather sympathy cause I’m sorry your breasts hurt honey but you’re 35 and healthy why are you growing in the first place? What are you taking doing etc.
I’ve asked my wife several times periodically if it looks worse she always says no but it’s clearly worse lol.

Just looking for those who may be in my situation and got the wife on board to openly freely wear a bra. I don’t do push up lace frilly floral bralettee stuff just t shirt neutral color bras. If she saw my bras I’m sure she wouldn’t be taken back by the style and colors.

I feel this has become a rambling tangent and I’m sorry. For anyone who has added advice I’d love to hear it. This forum has been amazing for helping me accept my own breasts but as they have grown more I’m losing confidence in acceptance from others.

I feel bad for you, fortunately my wife is supportive. I live in the deep south that is very conservative and catholic in a small rural town.one church that is catholic.I have 10 to 12 pullovers but switched to hook.with to bad shoulders it gets hard to put them on and when I take a shower , hard to pyt on unless totaly dry. I boufgt some hanes g796 bras that work real well. I now have 9 in the basic colors black biege and white. dont like lace or prints. they are a nylon polyester. while thet do get hot in the summer ,i spend most of the time in the ac. I wear mone full time except to the drs. . they go on first thing till bed. I have east west and they work well. keeps the boobs centered

[Orb]

I thought about this for a bit.  There can't be a one size fits all answer.  Honesty, in an open conversation like you would with any health concern.  It's about you and you lone.  Society doesn't get to have a slice of this dialogue.  If the symptoms, aside from the visible, are bothersome, causing pain, discomfort and concern treat it like anything else. _____ I feel it's time to see a Dr.  I'm feeling, _____, _____what do you think?

[Moobzie]

Maybe check out the Mayo Clinic website, and - believe it or not - the NIH website.
They have good explanations (or descriptions) of gynecomastia.  Also, Wikipedia's article on gynecomastia.  They are medico-scientific, clear, and 'morally' neutral.

If you can get her to read those it might lead to the 'how to live with it' conversation.

At all costs, avoid sites that discuss cross-dressing, transitioning, etc.

[oldguy]

Ten years ago, my breasts were painful and began growing.  I feared cancer, so saw a doctor who referred me to a specialist who ordered a mammogram.  No cancer, but confirmed Gynecomastia.  My doctor and the specialist are both guys and friends, and never bring it up when we are together.  At my follow-up after the mammogram, I saw his PA who is a woman.  She recommended that I begin wearing a bra to reduce the pain and provide support.  She was very matter-of-fact about it and wrote a note with her recommendations. 

I gave it to my wife.  She went out and bought several sports bras which resembled life vests.  I purchased several sports bras and they worked for a while.  As my breasts continued to grow they became uncomfortable to wear all day, so I began wearing regular bras.  Nothing fancy.  She is fine with everything, because it was a doctor's recommendation.  If I began wearing lace and bows, I believe that would be a problem.

I also believe you should see a doctor and get a mammogram.

[blad]

One day early in our marriage my wife came out and stated that I needed a bra more than she did. I already knew that but it was a good starting point to openly wear a bra around her. If you have breasts it is certainly an opening too discuss the need. 

She has been very supportive and washes my bras and has sometimes shops with me for new ones.

[Busted (and happy)]

Blad
I too am blessed with a very supportive wife, but I wouldn't trust her washing them - throw them into the washing machine with towels or whatever and hang them to dry seemingly pegged up  by whichever part comes to hand.

She comments on how long my bras last in very good condition but never seems to connect the dots...... 
 Bless her

[Rich meier]

I too am blessed with a supportive wife she washes mine and folds them  I put them away
 week she asked me to help her get some new bras where I get mine at herroom

[Dudewithboobs]

Thank you everyone for the advice I believe I’ll go with orbs insight. I like the sincere direction of health concern than request to wear a bra. If a doctor actually wrote a note for a bra that would be both hilarious and tremendously helpful like babe even the dr is prescribing me to consider a bra lol. I threw my two 34B bras out cause they no longer fit and while held me in my shirts looked a little not right. Not noticeably so but the spilling out was seen to me and I didn’t like it. 34Cs have a little room in them so I feel I’m in a weird in between size thing and am wearing my pullovers for now. Though my right breast especially has been actively sore last few days and I fear they are growing as it’s a familiar pain. 
And don’t feel bad for me I feel I’m a 35 otherwise very healthy male with a hyper feminine wife a toddler daughter and circle of friends who are prettt conservative devout Christian. The expectancy of such is expected in regard to belief wearing a bra wouldn’t be wanted warranted and such. Also I think a lot of my assumption is embedded in the thought of even if accepted would she look at me the same or feel  the same not in regard to attraction or manly but just an off putting feeling. I’d still love my wife and find her sexy if she quit shaving her legs and under arms but if she did I’d definitely feel a “I mean I don’t mind but I definitely mind” kind of thing and so i put myself in others shoes and sadly it more than not compromises my intentions to bring things to attention. Luckily my boobs are bringing things to their own attention in my t shirts lately lol so maybe I’ll get lucky with my wife also eventually going babe you need a bra more than me 

[Evolver]

And don’t feel bad for me I feel I’m a 35 otherwise very healthy male with a hyper feminine wife a toddler daughter and circle of friends who are prettt conservative devout Christian. The expectancy of such is expected in regard to belief wearing a bra wouldn’t be wanted warranted and such.

Just putting it out there...get a new circle of friends?

[Dudewithboobs]

I’m very happy with the friends. I really don’t mind. Life is full of compromises and unless it’s detrimental to life and enjoyment in itself it really isn’t a concern of mine. 

[benusa]

I hope your friends and family surprise you with their acceptance. 

[Dudewithboobs]

If they do they do if not I’m not really too concerned more of a would be nice than anything. I would never force someone or expect someone to accept a man to openly wear a bra if I was a woman I’d definitely like to believe I’d accept my mans request but I know I def wouldn’t like it 

[Evolver]

No probs, DWB. At least, by hanging around here, you are adding accepting and supportive people to your existing circle of friends, at least in an online sense.