Feeling shame and embarrassment

[42CSurprise!]

This is the first week in which I wore a bra with friends.  I didn't make an announcement and the garment I wore is not the underwire brassiere I've celebrated on this website with a great many photos.  I've read about men wearing soft cupped brassieres to bed and was curious about what that might feel like.  I bought a couple of crop tops that I've shown in the "What Am I Wearing" thread in the Photos forum.  It is made of a soft micro fiber and it very gently holds my breasts.  I enjoy sleeping with it.  Last Sunday I wore it for a day with my former wife.  I wore again when the two of us attended a Thanksgiving celebration with dear friends.  There were numerous hugs and the fullness of my bosom in this soft crop top drew no comments or attention.  I was dressed in layers so my breasts weren't visible to anyone.  I was certainly aware of them however, especially when chatting with a couple of men friends and one began talking about attending a cross dressing parties years ago.  I said nothing.

Today I had lunch with my former wife and a very dear friend who has has two deaths in her family recently.  There were long hugs at the beginning and end of our time together.  I was once again wearing the crop top.  I REALLY love the feeling of my breasts held in this soft material.  I would probably enjoy one of my underwire brassieres as well, but when I wear those they shape my breasts and create more obvious projection.  But I'm not going there, at least not right now.

Yes, finding acceptance and a comfortable way to work with the reality we have breasts is not an easy task.  Certainly sharing with men here can help.  I am content with having rather voluptuous breasts and happy that I've found a way to accept this reality.  Wearing the crop top does that for me.

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I think for many of us, the comfort of a bra is a strong motivation to wear one daily and to all the gatherings we go to. It would feel weird for me to go out without one on.

[42CSurprise!]

I think for many of us, the comfort of a bra is a strong motivation to wear one daily and to all the gatherings we go to. It would feel weird for me to go out without one on.

The problem for me is never about whether brassieres make my breasts happy... but rather what wearing a brassiere does to my mind.  When I'm wearing a brassiere, whether a crop top without a wire or an underwire minimizing brassiere, the presence of the band around my chest and soft cups holding my breasts they are always on my mind.  As I've said, I become mesmerized by the presence of breasts on my chest.  Without a brassiere I simply go about my day.  With brassieres on I'm thinking about my breasts and how they look.  Then I think about other attractive brassieres I've seen along the way.  I bought four of them yesterday... three crop tops and one underwire brassiere.  The crop tops I need with only two at the moment, but I have no need for another brassiere.  I understand that my relationship to all of this is colored by what happened to me when i was a boy... but that is my reality.  My breasts turn me on...

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I think for many of us, the comfort of a bra is a strong motivation to wear one daily and to all the gatherings we go to. It would feel weird for me to go out without one on.

The problem for me is never about whether brassieres make my breasts happy... but rather what wearing a brassiere does to my mind.  When I'm wearing a brassiere, whether a crop top without a wire or an underwire minimizing brassiere, the presence of the band around my chest and soft cups holding my breasts they are always on my mind.  As I've said, I become mesmerized by the presence of breasts on my chest.  Without a brassiere I simply go about my day.  With brassieres on I'm thinking about my breasts and how they look.  Then I think about other attractive brassieres I've seen along the way.  I bought four of them yesterday... three crop tops and one underwire brassiere.  The crop tops I need with only two at the moment, but I have no need for another brassiere.  I understand that my relationship to all of this is colored by what happened to me when i was a boy... but that is my reality.  My breasts turn me on...

I understand.

Even though there is the strong functional element of wearing a bra, I also find I am more satisfied or accepting of my breasts when I wear a bra. This also motivates me to wear one full time.

[Gino]

Please forgive me, but when my girls first started growing up, I was rather proud of them.

Now I want them larger by order of magnitude.

I guess Im nuts

If you live and present yourself as a female that's 110% spot on. OTOH, men like myself for example are likely to be uncomfortable for a very long time. 

[oldguy]

Jackpineseeds,

Welcome to the neighborhood.

There is no reason for what you are feeling.  We all have physical things that we have to deal with.  This should be the least of your worries.  Count your Blessings and your Wife.  I remember when I was diagnosed with Gyne. The Doctor's Lady PA, said I needed support and wrote a note to my wife.  It took some trial and error until we found what worked.  I did have a fitting, but we didn't find one that worked for me.

I wear three types of bras.   

Fruit of the Loom Women's Spaghetti Strap Cotton Pull Over 3 Pack Sports Bra are the best for compression and minimizes projection. 

Fruit of the Loom Women's Adjustable Shirred Front Racerback Sports Bra Multi Packs are the best for comfort when exercising.  And even all day when working.

Just My Size Wireless Bra Pack, Full Coverage, Leopard Satin, Wirefree Bra is best for relaxing and has no compression.  They are a little pointy and enhance my breasts, but who cares around the house.  It's just the two of us.  

My wife complains mine are bigger than hers.  I respond that I would like to trade.  We met in High School and dated for 4 years through college.  53rd Anniversary this month.

[Johndoe1]

I think for many of us, the comfort of a bra is a strong motivation to wear one daily and to all the gatherings we go to. It would feel weird for me to go out without one on.

I never go out braless anymore. Even to the beach. I have come to understand why women don't either. It's a combination of comfort, containment, control in appearance and self confidence. I don't worry what my bosom is doing or looks like. I determined that with my bra selection and then let the bra do its job. A bra is just as necessary as shoes or pants or top for me.

[Traveler]

I think for many of us, the comfort of a bra is a strong motivation to wear one daily and to all the gatherings we go to. It would feel weird for me to go out without one on.

I never go out braless anymore. Even to the beach. I have come to understand why women don't either. It's a combination of comfort, containment, control in appearance and self confidence. I don't worry what my bosom is doing or looks like. I determined that with my bra selection and then let the bra do its job. A bra is just as necessary as shoes or pants or top for me.

Couldn’t agree more! Even around the house it’s uncomfortable to not have something on.

[Johndoe1]

I think for many of us, the comfort of a bra is a strong motivation to wear one daily and to all the gatherings we go to. It would feel weird for me to go out without one on.

I never go out braless anymore. Even to the beach. I have come to understand why women don't either. It's a combination of comfort, containment, control in appearance and self confidence. I don't worry what my bosom is doing or looks like. I determined that with my bra selection and then let the bra do its job. A bra is just as necessary as shoes or pants or top for me.

Couldn’t agree more! Even around the house it’s uncomfortable to not have something on.

A bra is a part of whatever I wear, at home or in public. My around the house bras aren't as structured as bras I wear in public, but I still need and desire containment, even at home.  And so I happily wear support there too. 

[Parity]

I'm delighted so many chose to dress how they need and want regardless of societal norms.  Norms are just that.  An average of what is most done in society.   
It doesn't make the other wrong. 


We are the special ones.  The elite few.  Be proud.... I am.