I love having boobs!

[42CSurprise!]

I've mentioned over time on this website that my adventure with breasts and brassieres has taken me far afield.  Perhaps I'm not alone in that.  I've visited a website with men who are determined to grow breasts using herbs and other devices.  These are men who wish to remain men, not necessarily those who wish to transition.  Some have had breast implants and are happy to share photos of the result.  I've also spent time on crossdressing websites where men will wear women's clothes, including intimate garments like brassieres, panties, negligees.  Some will have gynecomastia but that is not often talked about.  Wearing forms is talked about.  Recently, I followed Birdie over to a website simply called "We Wear Bras."  Folks there often have very real breasts but not necessarily.  One man joked when answering the question "Why do you wear a bra?" saying "Because my forms would fall to the ground."  Some are inclined toward crossdressing, some talk as we do about their favorite brassieres.

I re-read this thread and it is so clear we are part of a larger community.  All of us are trying to make sense of who we are and how we wish to express our uniqueness in the world.  We are learning to love the breasts given to us as our hormones shift, whether through age or some medical treatment.  The response generally begins by focusing on comfort but often shifts toward appreciation both for the reality of having breasts and then for the brassieres and other garments we choose to care for them.  Whether we want it to happen or not, the simple fact that testosterone is diminished allowing estrogen to have her way in our bodies means both our bodies and minds are changing.  We are likely more inclined to make peace rather than war in our lives and relationships.  That seems a positive change.  It isn't always recognized along the way, but when asked to reflect on such things the changes become more evident.

Though I don't "need" to wear a brassiere I'm finding myself wanting to wear one most days.  And in doing so I'm appreciating my breasts more and more.  I'm so glad I can say that in a place where it is safe to say such things.  This is how our acceptance grows.  We step out of shame and into acceptance.  I started a thread a few years ago with a title that says is all...  

Shame to Embarrassment to Toleration to Acceptance to Appreciation to ?

Thanks for sharing your journey with all of us.  We need a community like this.  The world doesn't want to understand what we're experiencing, so we rely on kindred spirits for support.

[gotgyne]

Though I don't "need" to wear a brassiere I'm finding myself wanting to wear one most days.  And in doing so I'm appreciating my breasts more and more.  I'm so glad I can say that in a place where it is safe to say such things.  This is how our acceptance grows.  We step out of shame and into acceptance.  I started a thread a few years ago with a title that says is all... 

I also think that we "don't need" to wear a bra.There are a lot of women with very large breasts that don't wear one.
Look at the ladies in the videos. 

But in fact it is for support (physical and mental) and comfort, if we choose to wear a bra.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lyRHquJIYbU

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IsQv-rMQp-g

[Parity]

That's right 42C.  No one needs to. No one needs to wear socks but they do make life better when wearing shoes.  

I find once I have given into the fact that I have breast, wearing a well fitting bra makes life better for me. Having a variety of styles of bras allows me to be in control of my comfort and appearance.  The larger I get the more I enjoy them.

[gotgyne]

I've mentioned over time on this website that my adventure with breasts and brassieres has taken me far afield.  Perhaps I'm not alone in that.  I've visited a website with men who are determined to grow breasts using herbs and other devices.  These are men who wish to remain men, not necessarily those who wish to transition.  Some have had breast implants and are happy to share photos of the result.  I've also spent time on crossdressing websites where men will wear women's clothes, including intimate garments like brassieres, panties, negligees.  Some will have gynecomastia but that is not often talked about.  Wearing forms is talked about.  Recently, I followed Birdie over to a website simply called "We Wear Bras."  Folks there often have very real breasts but not necessarily.  One man joked when answering the question "Why do you wear a bra?" saying "Because my forms would fall to the ground."  Some are inclined toward crossdressing, some talk as we do about their favorite brassieres.

I re-read this thread and it is so clear we are part of a larger community.  All of us are trying to make sense of who we are and how we wish to express our uniqueness in the world.  We are learning to love the breasts given to us as our hormones shift, whether through age or some medical treatment.  The response generally begins by focusing on comfort but often shifts toward appreciation both for the reality of having breasts and then for the brassieres and other garments we choose to care for them.  Whether we want it to happen or not, the simple fact that testosterone is diminished allowing estrogen to have her way in our bodies means both our bodies and minds are changing.  We are likely more inclined to make peace rather than war in our lives and relationships.  That seems a positive change.  It isn't always recognized along the way, but when asked to reflect on such things the changes become more evident.

Though I don't "need" to wear a brassiere I'm finding myself wanting to wear one most days.  And in doing so I'm appreciating my breasts more and more.  I'm so glad I can say that in a place where it is safe to say such things.  This is how our acceptance grows.  We step out of shame and into acceptance.  I started a thread a few years ago with a title that says is all... 

Shame to Embarrassment to Toleration to Acceptance to Appreciation to ?

Thanks for sharing your journey with all of us.  We need a community like this.  The world doesn't want to understand what we're experiencing, so we rely on kindred spirits for support.

I think the vast majority outside our circle would be surprised how many men are wearing bras.

The lingerie manufacturers and especially the mail order companies can estimate it. How many bras are ordered in large band sizes but with small cups by men?

Kudos to every man who wears a bra, completely independent of the reason.

[Dudewithboobs]

If you go to Reddit or quora or other forums it’s clear there are plenty of men out there wearing a bra regularly for support and comfort. 

The divide I think is the demographic that honestly doesn’t need a bra compared to those who legitimately do. 

And those who do, to the outside world are perverts or satisfying some kink. Majority of people do not know the term gynecomastia. And if they do I’d imagine their first thought is something with women cause of the first two syllables. 

I personally never seen a man in a bra. I look all the time as it’s just second nature to observe now days. And never seen straps or likes or seams that go ooo bra lol. I have no doubt when in Home Depot or the gym I’m the only man in a bra. I’ve gotten past the point of caring and just go about my day. 

I love my boobs and love how they look in a bra and feel in a bra. I love my shape and love how soft my chest has become. It has nothing to do with gender of sorts and everything to do with just accepting what they have been for some time know and appreciating their changes over time. I firmly believe if the other side of this forum got over the stigma of wearing a bra they’d put one on and go yeah I’d rather go under a bra than under the knife. 

[gotgyne]

If you go to Reddit or quora or other forums it’s clear there are plenty of men out there wearing a bra regularly for support and comfort.

The divide I think is the demographic that honestly doesn’t need a bra compared to those who legitimately do.

And those who do, to the outside world are perverts or satisfying some kink. Majority of people do not know the term gynecomastia. And if they do I’d imagine their first thought is something with women cause of the first two syllables.

I personally never seen a man in a bra. I look all the time as it’s just second nature to observe now days. And never seen straps or likes or seams that go ooo bra lol. I have no doubt when in Home Depot or the gym I’m the only man in a bra. I’ve gotten past the point of caring and just go about my day.

I love my boobs and love how they look in a bra and feel in a bra. I love my shape and love how soft my chest has become. It has nothing to do with gender of sorts and everything to do with just accepting what they have been for some time know and appreciating their changes over time. I firmly believe if the other side of this forum got over the stigma of wearing a bra they’d put one on and go yeah I’d rather go under a bra than under the knife.

I've already seen a young man with a crop top bra (link below). He wore a white one under a white t-shirt.
It was on a parking lot on a hot day. His girlfriend was with him. But nevertheless he seemed to be embarrassed, since he went back to his car and put a rucksack on his back to conceal the bra.

The good thing is, that his girlfriend obviously supported him, maybe she even suggested that he wears a bra.

Regarding 'perverts' and 'kinky stuff', a saleslady who sold bras, told me that one of her male clients 'paraded' with his white bras under a white shirt in front of other people. He wanted to be noticed with his bras. Well, I think this is not a good idea and adds to a wrong perception of us.

Physicians know the term gynecomastia, but even some male physicians deny it, if you ask them. In my 50s, as my breasts were not that big as now but a B cup, I asked a dermatologist about it. He palpated (touched) my breasts and answered "there is no gynecomastia" which almost made me laugh.

Some time ago I answered on a website to the comment of a female doctor. She had a young man with severe gynecomastia, who asked her if he should get sex reassignment surgery because of his large breasts. I commented that it is not necessary only because of his breasts. "Either he gets surgery if he doesn't like them or he wears a bra", I answered.

She agreed and wrote that she already had suggested this to him. Female doctors often are much more aware, which is not surprising.

The daily talk shows don't bring up gynecomastia much often. This must change, that people become more aware of it.
And also at schools, as I already wrote some time ago.

This is the kind of bra, the young man wore:

https://www.matalan.co.uk/lingerie/lingerie/2pk-sf-padded-crop-gry-wht-grey/15037088.html

[Johndoe1]

Some time ago I answered on a website to the comment of a female doctor. She had a young man with severe gynecomastia, who asked her if he should get sex reassignment surgery because of his large breasts. I commented that it is not necessary only because of his breasts. "Either he gets surgery if he doesn't like them or he wears a bra", I answered.

She agreed and wrote that she already had suggested this to him. Female doctors often are much more aware, which is not surprising.

In my experience, male doctors rarely acknowledge gynecomastia. Male doctors I have had never bring up gynecomastia even though they plainly see my chest. Female doctors on the other hand have and have had had conversations with me about it and have performed breast exams. Female doctors and PAs treat my chest as they would female patients. Male doctors ignore my breasts as if my chest were flat. 

[taxmapper]

Some time ago I answered on a website to the comment of a female doctor. She had a young man with severe gynecomastia, who asked her if he should get sex reassignment surgery because of his large breasts. I commented that it is not necessary only because of his breasts. "Either he gets surgery if he doesn't like them or he wears a bra", I answered.

She agreed and wrote that she already had suggested this to him. Female doctors often are much more aware, which is not surprising.

In my experience, male doctors rarely acknowledge gynecomastia. Male doctors I have had never bring up gynecomastia even though they plainly see my chest. Female doctors on the other hand have and have had had conversations with me about it and have performed breast exams. Female doctors and PAs treat my chest as they would female patients. Male doctors ignore my breasts as if my chest were flat.

The one who viewed my mammogram was oh so polite. Very well versed, very professional in tone.  

And very DISMISSIVE!   


"Sir.. You have something we call gynecomastia."

Translation: 

And were taking your man card, shredding it, burning the remains to ashes, putting it into a bottle and sending into the Marianas Trench.  

[50/50]

My female GP during a physical noticed my breasts and said Flomax can cause breasts to grow. That was the end of that. Then 6 months later my male urologist said I had a trace of blood in my urine and noticed in my chart my GP put in my breast growth. So his nurse did a breast exam on me. Then he thought maybe kidney problems caused my breast growth because of the urine. 
Ordered several tests for kidney and liver disease and a mammogram. Test found I have a cyst on my kidney and the mammogram showed Gynecomastia. Then did a testosterone test.
I’m glad they were so thorough. To make a long story short. Yes I have breasts. She told me it’s ok to wear a bra if it helps me and other compression garments…….they took away my man card for good, never to return it to me…..I have yearly breast exams. All in all it’s ok….. I love having boobs because things could be a lot worse. And for that man card they took…I wasn’t using it anymore.

[42CSurprise!]

I have a physical once a year and because I had a lingering cold I saw my doctor a few extra times this year.  I don't wear a brassiere when I see him and I typically wear a dark blue tee shirt that masks the contours of my breasts.  But, as I've said before, I did mention breast growth a few years ago and asked about supplementing with testosterone.  He recommended against that and folks here said it can actually result in additional growth, so the matter was left there.  When he is listening to my heart his stethoscope rests at the edge of my left breast, which is slightly larger that my right breast.  There is no doubt the mass beneath his hand is a fully formed breast, but no comment.  Okay.  I'm absolutely certain I'm not alone simply because of what I witness wandering around town.  As men age, their chests often soften and bumps are visible beneath tee shirts.  

What leads men here to explore wearing brassieres is an open question we've explored numerous times.  Clearly we are each unique in this as in every other thing about us.  One size definitely does not fit all of us.  The good thing is we don't have a police department ticketing those who take their own path through this complex territory that involves both physical and psychological dimensions.  The fact the word "gynecomastia" exists is silly since no one has identified having larger breasts as a medical problem that requires intervention.  Plastic surgeons have a code of ethics I'm sure but we know that people want nose jobs and tummy tucks and butt and breast enhancement.  Of course, they will offer a cosmetic solution to men who feel their masculinity is in danger because they have breasts.  Our bodies are simply OUR bodies and it makes perfect sense that we will care for ourselves as best we can.  Whether a brassiere enters the equation is for each of us to decide.  Those who said yes are happy this side of the website exists.  I know I'm happy to hang with kindred spirits.